Coconut Oil Boosts Testosterone Improves Sex Life

By Jennifer Elizabeth Masters

Coconut oil was once on the American Medical Associations, no-no list. Which is not surprising to me. I don't believe everything I hear or read. I always check in with my own guidance to decide what is best for myself and my health. I suggest others do the same. 

Coconut oil once fed to pigs, that led to the discovery that it caused them to lose weight. Coconut oil will prolong your life, help brain

function as well as cure candida. It is now a must have for those who know all about it's anti-fungal and antiseptic properties, never mind the magic of weight loss. I use it to cook my eggs in the morning, curries, and even for a sexual lubricant. Oh yes, coconut oil in the morning, noon and night! Don't like the taste? I have tons of ideas for you to get your two tablespoons a day here. Just read on...

Here is the list of medically proven qualities of this magical oil:

1. Burns fat. Yes, it is a fat, but it is wonderful for weight loss while it gives you so many other health benefits. Use two tablespoons a day to reduce belly fat in 3 months. Belly fat is a sure sign that you have fat on your organs which is a sign you will have heart problems down the road. Use coconut oil to alleviate heart issues.
2. Brain boosting. Oh YA! Alzheimer's no more with this amazing oil. The brain is about 60% fat. It needs fat to work efficiently. Proven in the 2006 issue of Neurobiology of Aging to have increased brain function within 90 minutes of treatment, due to the chain of 
3. Sunscreen
4. Sexual lubricant. Works great, rejuvenates the cellular tissue and prevents candida! It even tastes great. Read my book for more info. 
5. Antifungal. Will help reduce overgrown yeast in vagina, brain and fingernails.
6. Antibacterial. Use on cuts, bruises and painful place on the body. Helps to heal more quickly with less scarring.
7. Youthing. Stimulates production of collagen. Any woman over 45 knows that as we age, collagen production is reduced. Use it
   
   all over the body for anti-aging and healing effects.
8. Anti-inflammatory, fever reducing, analgesic (pain reducing).
9. Testosterone BOOSTER! In experiments done on rats, reduced oxidative stress on testes, boosting testosterone. NO VIAGRA!
10. Reduces swollen prostate.
11. Improves blood lipids. Improves LDL: HDL ratio.
12. Improves Bone Health. Reduces oxidative stress on bone, reducing bone loss.
13. Anti-ulcer. Coconut milk is better than cows milk for reducing ulcers. 

Recipes With Coconut Oil

Spinach and eggs. High in protein, yummy as well. This easy breakfast or lunch takes less than 6 minutes to prepare. Way better than a toaster strudel or piece of toast. It is tasty, quick and will sustain your brain, keeping sugar levels from dropping till lunchtime.

Contains 12 grams protein

Selenium for healthy immune system

Vitamin A

Vitamin B and Vitamin E

181 milligrams for Vitamin K - for blood clotting

160 calories (two eggs)

1 Tbsp of Coconut oil contains 120 calories - don't forget it helps you lose weight, feeds your brain and prevents Alzheimer's.

2 Tbsp of chopped onion

1 - 2 Tbsp of coconut oil

2 hand fulls of spinach washed (don't need to chop)

2 eggs beaten

Himalayan salt (full of minerals)

spices to taste: I add a pinch of both ground ginger and curry powder

pinch Himalayan salt (pink salt - because it is full of 84 minerals)

Saute onion in coconut oil till slightly transparent. Add spinach. Let cook for about 2 - 3 minutes. Beat eggs. Add the eggs on top of spinach. Do not stir. Cook for about 2 more minutes, flip. As soon as they are done to your liking remove from pan. I don't like to overcook my eggs. I take them out after another minute.

Fried Eggs 

Coconut oil
eggs
cook over gentle heat
sprinkle with curry powder (goes well with coconut oil)

Smoothie - full of antioxidants, protein and fiber

2 Tbsp coconut oil

1 cup blueberries

1 scoop chia seeds

handful of spinach leaves washed

1/2 lemon - peel on

1/2 apple

honey to taste

Want more proof? Oh ye naysayers.....  of little faith - here you go!

About Jennifer Elizabeth Masters

E-mail Jennifer

It is my mission to help others love themselves fearlessly so that they can live happy lives, in healthy balanced relationships. My goal is to help married couples overcome the baggage of yesterday, remind them of the love that brought them together, and help them clear the blocks and limiting beliefs that have them stuck. Relationships involve sex, love, appreciation. I help remind you of those values.

Today, I love myself fearlessly. Yes, I live every day happily in joy, without fear, anxiety, worry loneliness or depression. YES, I can help you do the same. I help men with issues of ED, self love, boundaries and passion. 

In the past, I have been unhappy and miserable in marriage and out. On a spiritual path since 1970.  I traveled to India, then Bali in 2011. I experienced a series of events that led to my awakening and self actualization. These events help my clients, as I am focused on them, rather than myself. My focus in my life coaching and energy healing practice is to keep marriages and relationships together. I have learned what it takes for a healthy relationship to succeed. I do this for all of humanity. Love is what is missing in most marriages. We blame, nitpick, critique our partners, when what we need is compassionate understanding and more love, rather than less!

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Traditional therapy did not work for me. I knew there had to be another way. My sense was that it ends more marriages than it saves. This is due to the fact that old hurts are brought up repeatedly, keeping both parties in complaint mode. When the focus is on the negative and old issues, moving forward, shifting behavior is next to impossible. One party ends up being wrong.  Patterns, beliefs or programming that don't serve are not cleared. There is often no change in behavior. Staying the same, does not bring healing. We have to shift our thoughts, release old patterning or programs as well as communication style for healing to occur. Shifting thoughts and patterns is where the magic comes in of my work. If you are serious about being happy, making your marriage work, becoming enlightened, or discovering your path, Jennifer is your woman. Experienced, compassionate, understanding, committed to your healing, she will drill to the center of the issue, without blame, condemnation or judgment. She has been where you are and understands what it feels like to have:

low self esteem

anxiety

fears

depression

worry

perfectionism

lack of clarity

codependence

ADD

addictions 

sexual dysfunction

sex addiction

loneliness (even within a marriage)

emptiness

feeling broken

unworthiness

worthless

All of these are just some of the issues Jennifer has healed in her own life. Enlightened in 2012, she is a catalyst for your healing, through her Divine connection. No religion, or beliefs required. Just pure love and understanding.

Kegels Cure ED and Create Stronger Orgasms

By Jennifer Elizabeth Masters

Kegels are such fun!

Kegels are the rage

Do them on the run

Do them on the stage!

Kegels in your car

Kegels on a star,

With kegels you'll go far...

Say what a sexy person you are!

Thank you to Dr. Seuss for his inspirational children's books. I love Dr. Seuss. His rhymes always made me smile. When you think of kegels think sex positive. Kegels improve your health, wellness and sexual prowess. Kegels even cure Erectile Dysfunction! Kegels in your car, Kegels on a star! Oh BABY!

What Is A Kegel?

A kegel is an exercise of the pubococcygeus (PC) muscles of the pelvic floor in both men and women. The pubococcygeus muscles forms the floor of the pelvic cavity. The PC muscles provide a hammock-like sling for the pelvic floor stretching from the pubic bone to the spine. These muscles support internal organs by holding them in place - when they are fit (the muscles, not the organs).

Locate The PC Muscles

To find the PC muscles; while urinating, stop the stream of urine. The muscles used to stop mid-stream while urinating are the pubococcygeus muscles (PC). Stop mid-stream a few times to be sure you have located the PC muscles. 

Doing The Kegel Hold and Release Exercise

Isolate the PC muscles by keeping the thigh muscles relaxed while squeezing the PC muscles. Squeeze, holding the muscles tight for two seconds then relax. Squeeze for two seconds, then relax. Do sets of 20 to begin with. Once you have located the PC muscles practice while driving your car, sitting at your desk, or while talking on the phone. Why waste all that time sitting in traffic? Instead use your time wisely in healthy ways. Exercise your PC muscles several times a day to build up your pelvic floor muscles!

Strengthening the PC muscles can prevent the dreaded pee while you sneeze in women. Or the dribble of urine after urinating in both sexes. Kegels are of great benefit for rectal health as well. Kegels are necessary to maintain healthy organs and sexual function. Doing kegels daily can prevent painful and costly surgery down the road for both men and women.

Kegels For Women

Women will benefit in many ways doing kegels daily. Kegels tighten the vagina, increase muscular control, create stronger orgasms AND have the health benefits of keeping organs in place. Traditionally kegels were inspired by women's birthing
 babies and having a prolapsed bladder or uterus down the road. Kegels increase musculature in the pelvic floor, preventing prolapse. Prolapse happens when women loses muscular strength in the pelvic floor and the bladder or uterus falls out. True! The rectum can also prolapse.

Proof That Kegels Help Men With Erectile Dysfunction (ED)

For men, kegels will help a man with erectile dysfunction and increase sexual vigor, strengthen orgasms and  help prevent leakage of urine or gas, when unwanted. Kegels will also prevent rectal prolapse in men.

A British study of 55 men followed the subjects for six months. Within that six month period, 40% of the subjects had regained NORMAL erectile function. An additional 36% saw improvement in erectile function. This is amazing! I will caution you that there are many doctors that will tell you that you need the little blue pill. Before going for a prescription, try the natural methods first. They will not cause heart attacks or liver damage.

Liver Damage From Oral Medications

Everything you put in your mouth is filtered through the liver. Every medication you take from Advil, Ibuprofen to Viagra is filtered through the liver. Damage can occur from long-term pain killers, and even Advil. Personally, I don't take anything unless the pain is so bad I can't think. An orgasm is a natural pain killer. An orgasm blocks pain in the brain. Why not just have an orgasm instead of taking a pill.

Yoga Exercise 


Yoga can strengthen the pelvic floor with specific movements. This pose will help strengthen the PC muscles. You may already be doing exercises that help you and don't even know it!

About Jennifer Elizabeth Masters

Today, I love myself fearlessly. Yes, I live every day happily in joy, without fear, anxiety, worry loneliness or depression. YES, I can help you do the same. I help men with issues of ED, self love, boundaries and passion. 

In the past, I have been unhappy and miserable in marriage and out. On a spiritual path since 1970.  I traveled to India, then Bali in 2011. I experienced a series of events that led to my awakening and self actualization. These events help my clients, as I am focused on them, rather than myself. My focus in my life coaching and energy healing practice is to keep marriages and relationships together. I have learned what it takes for a healthy relationship to succeed. I do this for all of humanity. Love is what is missing in most marriages. We blame, nitpick, critique our partners, when what we need is compassionate understanding and more love, rather than less!

Traditional therapy did not work for me. I knew there had to be another way. My sense was that it ends more marriages than it saves. This is due to the fact that old hurts are brought up repeatedly, keeping both parties in complaint mode. When the focus is on the negative and old issues, moving forward, shifting behavior is next to impossible. One party ends up being wrong.  Patterns, beliefs or programming that don't serve are not cleared. There is often no change in behavior. Staying the same, does not bring healing. We have to shift our thoughts, release old patterning or programs as well as communication style for healing to occur. Shifting thoughts and patterns is where the magic comes in of my work. If you are serious about being happy, making your marriage work, becoming enlightened, or discovering your path, Jennifer is your woman. Experienced, compassionate, understanding, committed to your healing, she will drill to the center of the issue, without blame, condemnation or judgment. She has been where you are and understands what it feels like to have:

low self esteem

anxiety

fears

depression

worry

perfectionism

lack of clarity

codependence

ADD

addictions 

sexual dysfunction

sex addiction

loneliness (even within a marriage)

emptiness

feeling broken

unworthiness

worthless

All of these are just some of the issues Jennifer has healed in her own life. Enlightened in 2012, she is a catalyst for your healing, through her Divine connection. No religion, or beliefs required. Just pure love and understanding.

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From Fantasy To Fetish And Then Some!

By Jennifer Elizabeth Masters

Open your mind, be clean and open to receive!

50 Shades of Gray was a huge success. Why? This book indulged our imaginations, taking readers into experiences in their minds that titillated and tantalized. 50 Shades was all about wild and kinky (Orgasm For Life has a chapter called 50 Shades of Purple my tongue in cheek title for my erotica.) Sex begins in the mind. Both men AND women want to be tantalized. Are you talking about what turns you on? Do you know what turns you on? Most people are afraid to divulge their deepest darkest secrets and fantasies. 

Kinky sex can add a new dimension to your love life. Explore. Discover and expand your mind. Try something new. Opening the door of discovery could allow you to ask for what you want as well. Staying silent about your sex life does not improve it or get you what you want. As long as the experience does not hurt you, trying something new could deepen your relationship. Developing deep trust between you and your partner can allow you to express your true desires. When we say, "NO!" we often close the door out of fear, before we even try. Try and see how it goes. Even adding a vibrator could create an amazing experience for someone who is non-orgasmic. This is an opportunity to change things up, just think for a moment about something a little different, even if it is a different room, or the backseat of your car.

Joke: We had kinky sex on the patio last night. 
           "What's a patio?"

If you haven't heard Linzi Levinson's show, Linzi's Life Secrets, here is a great opportunity. Linzi interviewed Jennifer for a two-part series recently. Here is the second show that sizzled the airwaves! Linzi is a wonderful host. Voice America is an open broadcasting system where we were able to say pretty descriptive words. We were quite open in this interview. It is a great opportunity for you to explore and learn. We have great charisma together. We talk about anything taboo. Kinky is what this show is all about. We dig deep and give you the scoop about all things kinky. 

From Fantasy To Fetish And Then Some

Kinky sex can turn you on, whether you are in a new relationship, or have been married for years. A simple blindfold, costume, for role playing can ignite the fire and bring some fun into your bedroom. I suggest that you open your mind. If your sex is dull and boring. Listen to this show by clicking right here. If you aren't having sex at all, listen to this show! Everyone is different. Judgment about doing something that you haven't experienced can block you from trying something new that you might really enjoy. Exploring something new can be an experience that changes your relationship for the better. Kinky could be having sex in the shower, or grabbing your husband under the table while at a fancy restaurant.

K is for KINKY

What is considered kinky?

• Sex on the kitchen counter, or the back seat of your car.
• Playing dress-up (Dr. and nurse)
• Sex with a blind-fold
• Tying up your partner
• Foot sucking
• Toe Sucking
• Fetishes
• Golden Showers
• Anal Sex
• Whipped Cream and chocolate
• Talking dirty (doesn't have to be four letter words), could be whispering to your partner what you are doing to them

Engaging All Our Senses

We want to engage all our senses to heighten our sexual experiences. The senses are, hearing, sight, touch, taste, smell, pressure, hot and cold. Beyond the five senses we also have our intuitive senses, thought, light and color. I bet that most of you are only using two! Whispering in someone's ear what you are about to do to someone, could be enough to tantalize

someone into experiencing tremendous sensations. Think about the other body parts that we have that we forget to make love to. Kissing eyelids, shoulders loving every inch of your body, that is true love-making. Taking sex to a higher level, involving all the senses and all the body parts, not just the genitals.

Take time to savor your sexual experience. Enjoy each moment. 

Is Kinky Sex Healthy?

Talking with your partner about trying something new is key. Set boundaries about the parameters of your experience to deepen trust.

Kinky sex is healthy as long as both parties say yes. No one should agree to be hurt by sex, or do something that feels uncomfortable to them. The healthier that we are, the more definitive our boundaries need to be. We need to have a signal, word, or tap out when we begin an activity that is unusual, so that we feel safe. If we don't feel comfortable we need to be able to say, "I don't like this, let's stop" with our signal.

Prostate Massage For Erectile Dysfunction

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Prostate massage could be normal to some, but kinky to others. Prostate massage can cure an issue with erectile dysfunction. Prostate massage is done through the anus, gently, rather than poking. 

For some, the anus is a gross body part that is for outbound processing only. Yet, looking at the way our bodies were created, why is it that we have so many nerve endings surrounding the anus? Why do some women have anal orgasms through vaginal sex? 

 Prostate massage is detailed in my book, Orgasm For Life.

However, like the joke where two male friends are hiking and one stops to relieve himself and have a pee on the trail. He is bitten on his exposed penis by a poisonous snake. His friend hearing his screams comes running to see what the commotion is all about. He checks his phone to see what the cure for poisonous snake bite might be, to save his life.

After he reads the remedy is sucking out the poison from the wound, he tells his friend he is going to die!~ Prostate massage to some women might be like snake bite to the friend - forget it you are going to die of prostate cancer

Here is the link to the show: From Fantasy To Fetish And Then Some!

Hygiene Before Sex

Cleanliness before sex is so important. It is respectful to yourself and your partner. To show up clean with fresh breath and body parts shows reverence for your partner. Shower, brush your teeth and use mouthwash. Showering prior to sex also makes the act of having sex, sacred. Being clean for sex recognizes the initiation of an experience of closeness and intimacy. Note to those who like to cut corners: Febreze is not for body parts! No household cleaners! 


Oral Sex

50 years ago, oral sex might have been seen as kinky. Today, oral sex is common place, to the point of one of our presidents saying, it wasn't sex at all! Most men love oral sex, but don't always return the favor. Many women don't like giving oral sex to their partners because they find it disgusting. Yet, for those men who love oral, it is a terrible disappointment for them to NOT get what they truly desire. 


Overcoming Fear of Sex or Oral

For those women who would like to get over the hump of not liking oral sex, Jennifer does NLP to overcome this issue. I have been very successful using NLP to help men and women overcome erectile dysfunction issues, fears or deep seated negative thinking. NLP reprograms the mind. Like eating something you don't like, you might force yourself to eat something served at a party so you don't disappoint your host. So too can you overcome the thought process that makes oral sex disgusting to you. Men feel so loved and accepted when we perform oral sex for them. When we focus on the negative, that is all we will experience. Ask me about NLP to overcome fears, or thought processes or blocks about sex.

There is much to integrate within ourselves at our deepest level. Through exploration we expand our self awareness while growing our self esteem. Exploration can allow us to reach our highest potential on all levels. Our self esteem comes from getting to know ourselves well.

Special thank you to Linzi Levinson for having me on her show for these very special shows. 

For Men With ED - even sometimes

I work with men and have been very successful in person or over the phone in helping men overcome their issue of erectile dysfunction. One gentleman whom I met had an issue after an event caused him to doubt himself. It kept repeating. One session was all he needed. Although your situation may require more sessions, the work I do is powerful and life changing! E-mail me to set up your phone or SKYPE session. And, no, this does not involve me having sex with you. I am en educator, healer, hypnotherapist, NLP practitioner, not a surrogate. E-mail Jennifer now to set up your session. 

About Jennifer Elizabeth Masters

Today, I love myself fearlessly. Yes, I live every day happily in joy, without fear, anxiety, worry loneliness or depression. YES, I can help you do the same. 

In the past, I have been unhappy and miserable in marriage and out. On a spiritual path since 1970.  I traveled to India, then Bali in 2011. I experienced a series of events that led to my awakening and self actualization. These events help my clients, as I am focused on them, rather than myself. My focus in my life coaching and energy healing practice is to keep marriages and relationships together. I have learned what it takes for a healthy relationship to succeed. I do this for all of humanity. Love is what is missing in most marriages. We blame, nitpick, critique our partners, when what we need is compassionate understanding and more love, rather than less!

Traditional therapy did not work for me. I knew there had to be another way. My sense was that it ends more marriages than it saves. This is due to the fact that old hurts are brought up repeatedly, keeping both parties in complaint mode. When the focus is on the negative and old issues, moving forward, shifting behavior is next to impossible. One party ends up being wrong.  Patterns, beliefs or programming that don't serve are not cleared. There is often no change in behavior. Staying the same, does not bring healing. We have to shift our thoughts, release old patterning or programs as well as communication style for healing to occur. Shifting thoughts and patterns is where the magic comes in of my work. If you are serious about being happy, making your marriage work, becoming enlightened, or discovering your path, Jennifer is your woman. Experienced, compassionate, understanding, committed to your healing, she will drill to the center of the issue, without blame, condemnation or judgment. She has been where you are and understands what it feels like to have:

low self esteem

anxiety

fears

depression

worry

perfectionism

lack of clarity

codependence

ADD

addictions 

sexual dysfunction

sex addiction

loneliness (even within a marriage)

emptiness

feeling broken

unworthiness

worthless

All of these are just some of the issues Jennifer has healed in her own life. Enlightened in 2012, she is a catalyst for your healing, through her Divine connection. No religion, or beliefs required. Just pure love and understanding.

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Let's Talk Sex In The Bedroom!

By Jennifer Elizabeth Masters

Wanting to talk about sex, but don't know how to broach the subject with your partner? When is the best time? How can you begin the conversation? Linzi Levinson, recently interviewed me about Orgasm For Life, on her show, Linzi's Life Secrets, on Voice of America. Linzi brought out some interesting points of discussion from my book. We dig deep here. Listen in and find out how you can get what you desire in the bedroom, by talking about it.  Set yourself up for success in the bedroom and listen to this show! It's Time To Talk Sex In The Bedroom!

Most of us don't bring the most honest version of ourselves to the bedroom. We often do this because we want our partner to think they are doing a great job!

What you will learn by listening to this show:

Part I - Discovering Sex

• Why is it so difficult to talk about sex?
• What are we afraid of?
• How can you move beyond the fear?
• What can I do if I have been faking it?
• What does honesty do for our sex lives?
• Moving beyond silence about sex.
• How can we make sex sacred?
• Why does asking permission add trust and safety?
• How can we build trust in our relationship?
• How can we heighten our partner's self esteem AND get what we want at the same time?
• Becoming sex positive.
• When and where do we talk about sex?
• When we are on a date, when can we ask about STD's?
• How can we get what we want in the bedroom?
• How can risking it all get you what you want?
• How talking about sex can turn you both on and light your mutual fire?

Here is the LINK:

Let's Talk Sex In The Bedroom

When we are happy with ourselves and our life, we stop trying to make things happen. We begin to allow life to unfold. If you want help moving beyond fears, perfectionism, life's challenges, low self esteem, anxiety, depression, sexual dysfunction, Jennifer can certainly get you there. 

She is a certified life coach, hypnotherapist, Master energy healer and Neurolinguistic Programming Practitioner. She is wise, enlightened and certainly loves herself. She is totally fearless, and happy with herself and life. She assists others to do the same. She assists women and men to find the sacredness in sex. Jennifer is open, compassionate and understanding. She has a deep insight into the sex lives of both men and women. She helps you understand your partner. She helps you move beyond the fear. She helps men and women with sexual dysfunction, addictions and even becoming enlightened.

About Jennifer Elizabeth Masters

Today, I love myself fearlessly. Yes, I live every day happily in joy, without fear, anxiety or worry. YES, I can help you do the same. 

In the past, I have been unhappy and miserable in marriage and out. On a spiritual path since 1970.  I traveled to India, then Bali in 2011. I experienced a series of events that led to my awakening and self actualization. These events help my clients, as I am focused on them, rather than myself. My focus in my life coaching and energy healing practice is to keep marriages and relationships together. I have learned what it takes for a healthy relationship to succeed. I do this for all of humanity. Love is what is missing in most marriages. We blame, nitpick, critique our partners, when what we need is compassionate understanding and more love, rather than less!

It has been my experience that traditional therapy breaks the marriage apart. This is due to the fact that old hurts are brought up repeatedly and there is no clearing of patterns, beliefs that don't serve or change behavior. Staying the same, does not bring healing. We have to shift our thoughts as well as communication style for healing to occur. Shifting thoughts and patterns is where the magic comes in of my work. If you are serious about being happy, making your marriage work, or discovering your path, Jennifer is your woman. Experienced, compassionate, understanding and committed to your healing, she will drill to the center of the issue, without blame, condemnation or judgment. She has been where you are and understands what it feels like to have:

low self esteem

anxiety

fears

depression

worry

perfectionism

lack of clarity

codependence

ADD

addictions 

sexual dysfunction

sex addiction

loneliness (even within a marriage)

emptiness

feeling broken

unworthiness

worthless

All of these are just some of the issues Jennifer has healed in her own life. Enlightened in 2012, she is a catalyst for your healing, through her Divine connection. No religion, or beliefs required. Just pure love and understanding.

Belly Dancing For Passionate Sex and Libido

By Jennifer Elizabeth Masters

Recently my daughter and I dined at a wonderful, Morrocan restaurant, Tajine Alami, in Manitou Springs, Colorado. We chose this restaurant for it's food and atmosphere. After being warmly greeted, were asked to remove our coats and shoes in the coat room. It was a little chilly at first, the restaurant was large and open. I am sure their heating bill was almost as large as their mortgage payment during winter. 

We had a couple of hours to kill while my son and his girlfriend visited family nearby. The meal and service was a sensual experience, complete with hand washing at the beginning and end of the meal. The whole evening was a sensual experience. It was my kind of place!

Sitting on cushions on the floor, eating with our hands (forks optional) was fun adventurous. A wonderful change of pace. So often we get stuck in our little box of a world and life, looking up and choosing differently can bring new and exciting experiences, in life as well as in the bedroom!

We began to get up to leave after our meal, when the owner told us with a smile, "You will miss the dancing!" We sat back down on our cushions, and got comfortable. We were not disappointed. I am as straight as they come, I have to say, I admired this beautiful belly dancer. She had me mesmerized. The woman was graceful, sexy and amazingly talented. By the end of the evening, both my daughter and I were determined to learn how to belly dance. We were both so motivated by her control of each separate body part. She was able to isolate parts of her abdomen, rolling, undulating. I remarked how great the movement is for sex, my daughter, rolled her eyes, saying "Geeze mother!" 

How Belly Dancing Helps Turn Women ON!

Belly dancing, hula dance and other primal type dancing gets the hips moving. Our sexual center wakes up when we move our hips. Pelvic thrusting, circles, and shaking it, will help get your estrogen moving and wake up your sexual center, the root and sacral chakras. 

The Importance of Movement 

Our sedentary lifestyle is not good for our health, or our sex lives. Yoga is a wonderful exercise for stretching the body and staying limber, but it does not excite, turn on or tune us into our sensual sexual selves, like belly dancing does. You got it, I am currently looking for a belly dancing class in my area.

Belly dancing focuses on hip and pelvis movement which awakens sleeping sexuality. Moving the hips is healthy. Our kundalini is much more likely to awaken when we are active, moving our hips, gyrating and shaking. This movement only helps to improve sex in the bedroom. Being physically fit, with regular exercise, with pelvic movement will help you getting your groove on. Your partner will love all your new moves!

Sitting in a chair all day can cause stiffness, joints to seize up and weight gain. Belly dancing is a fun way to enliven our natural sexual center and feel happy and alive all at the same time.

Belly Fat

Belly fat is a common complaint of Americans, or their spouses. Eating a diet of GMO wheat, fast food, soda and other highly indigestible foods has caused Americans to be obese. Fat stomachs mean that we have fat around our organs. When we have fat around our organs, our circulation suffers. We need good circulation for healthy sexual function. For a penis to become erect, blood needs to flow to it freely for engorgement to occur. Women too need to have healthy circulation for their vagina to become engorged, ready for sex. Without the healthy flow of blood, sex can be difficult and even painful for many.

Smoking, drinking soda, alcohol, eating processed foods will eventually cause difficulty getting your member (men) to stand at attention. A stiff penis is required for penetrative sex.

The Benefits of Sex

Even for those too tired to have sex, remember that great sex calms your nerves, is a pain reliever and helps you sleep so much better. Forgo the fifteen minutes of reading tonight and make love instead. Your husband will thank you for it! You will sleep better and wake up with a smile on your face! 

Why You Need To Have Sex 

Remember rejecting your husband over and over gives many men the excuse to cheat. Men often feel justified to have sex with someone else, if their wife just won't, especially when it is a historic, "NO, I'm tired," or "Not tonight I have a headache." Sex relieves migraines, stress, and brings the two of your closer together. What's not to like?

MAKE SEX A PRIORITY

Long-standing sexless marriages are not healthy, loving or balanced. If you are not having sex with your partner (most of you are women) you are opening the door to an affair. You are giving your silent permission for your partner to cheat. 

Horrifying Truth

1. Half of all American children will witness the the  breakup of their parent's marriage. (Furstenberg, Peterson, Nord and Zill, "Life Course")
2. Of the millions of children who have seen their parent's divorce, one out of every 10 will witness three or more divorces. (The Abolition of Marriage Gallagher.)
3. Of all children born to married parents this year, half will experience their parents divorce before their 18th birthday. (Fagan, Fitzgerald, Rector, "The Effects of Divorce on America")

Of the millions of children who have seen their parents divorce, one out of every ten will witness three more divorces of their parent. Children perform better in school, achieve better results on SATs, are more apt to graduate from college and stay out of jail when they have two parents. Children of divorced parents are more likely to not get married or have repeated divorces. 40% of children today in the US are living without fathers. I know, I have been divorced 4 times. Two of my children experienced three divorces.  Thinking that you can do it alone, is folly. Look at your man. If he is not out carousing, beating you up or abusing you, you have a decent man. No marriage is perfect. Everyone has flaws and faults. Focusing on their flaws, means you focus on your own as well. There will always be challenges. Denying sex to your partner repeatedly is abusive and cause for divorce. E-mail Jennifer privately for questions or help.

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About Jennifer Elizabeth Masters

Today, I love myself fearlessly. Yes, I live every day happily in joy, without fear, anxiety or worry. YES, I can help you do the same. 

In the past, I have been unhappy and miserable in marriage and out. On a spiritual path since 1970.  I traveled to India, then Bali in 2011. I experienced a series of events that led to my awakening and self actualization. These events help my clients, as I am focused on them, rather than myself. My focus in my life coaching and energy healing practice is to keep marriages and relationships together. I have learned what it takes for a healthy relationship to succeed. I do this for all of humanity. Love is what is missing in most marriages. We blame, nitpick, critique our partners, when what we need is compassionate understanding and more love, rather than less!

It has been my experience that traditional therapy breaks the marriage apart. This is due to the fact that old hurts are brought up repeatedly and there is no clearing of patterns, beliefs that don't serve or change behavior. Staying the same, does not bring healing. We have to shift our thoughts as well as communication style for healing to occur. Shifting thoughts and patterns is where the magic comes in of my work. If you are serious about being happy, making your marriage work, or discovering your path, Jennifer is your woman. Experienced, compassionate, understanding and committed to your healing, she will drill to the center of the issue, without blame, condemnation or judgment. She has been where you are and understands what it feels like to have:

low self esteem

anxiety

fears

depression

worry

perfectionism

lack of clarity

codependence

ADD

addictions 

sexual dysfunction

sex addiction

loneliness (even within a marriage)

emptiness

feeling broken

unworthiness

worthless

All of these are just some of the issues Jennifer has healed in her own life. Enlightened in 2012, she is a catalyst for your healing, through her Divine connection. No religion, or beliefs required. Just pure love and understanding.

Sensual Kissing, A Return To Love

By Jennifer Elizabeth Masters

Kissing is a form of touch. It is intimate and brings the two of you close physically. A kiss cannot be the first form of touch in a relationship. Begin with a shoulder touch, hand holding or some less invasive form of touching first. 

Sadly in many long-term relationships, kissing goes by the wayside. Kissing is a great way to begin the road back to intimacy and sex, but certainly not the first step. An embrace, caress, handholding are inroads to the more intimate moment of a kiss. 

Kissing can cause some women to orgasm. Kissing awakens sexual feelings that can lie dormant for years between lovers, partners and spouses. Kissing is often absent from marriages where there is infrequent or no sex. What a shame that these couples are missing out on such a beautiful demonstration of what love is. If you want to ignite the fire learn the art of the sensual kiss.

The Science Behind Kissing

The tissue of the lips is the same that is in the vagina. Oh yes! God was quite careful when we were designed. We were made for love. Our lips are the softest of soft flesh. They become engorged when we are turned on. Pouty, when we are angry. Our mouths say a lot about ourselves. Do you smile often, or do you frown most of the time? Practice smiling a little, always. Your day will be so much better.

Our mouths are connected to our sexual organs. A kiss can be enough to raise an erection in a man and an orgasm in some women. It can cause a woman's vagina to become engorged and wet, ready for love-making. Oxytocin is released from kissing. Oxytocin is the feel good hormone that is also released when women go into labor, breastfeed and when men hold hands with their partners, and yes through orgasm.

Kissing Don'ts

Sexy, light flicks of the tongue 

Many people think that a sensual kiss involves deep tonguing and loads of saliva. I have had many first kisses with men who immediately jam their tongue down your throat thinking that this is a turn-on. It's not. For first kisses too much tongue and saliva can be the difference between a one date wonder or going onto a second date and having sex. 

Gagging on a sloppy tongue is far from sexy. This is a sign that their love-making will be sloppy and over too fast. Most women prefer how a sensual kiss makes us feel; sexy, alive and passionate. The space between the kiss, the anticipation of the next move, the smell of your lover's breath and skin. Hopefully both clean, freshly showered. Not reeking of cologne or strong perfume. Be natural. Be yourself. Allow yourself to explore your own sensuality as well as your partner's. Light tongue touch, rather than flat wide and too wet. A kiss is an exploration of what each other likes, who we really are. Sexual beings at our very core.

The Lips Come First

Touching her mouth with your tongue first is a turn-off. Lips need to come together first. The guy needs to move forward first, with the woman meeting his mouth. Kissing matches where you are in your process. You might go from zero to 60 in seconds, moving into deep kissing rapidly. Or you might be slower to be turned on, and his kiss is just barely turning on your element.  A light nibble of the upper or lower lip with yours, a brush of your lips over theirs. No licking! You are not a Golden Retriever or a lizard! 

The Ladies Are Getting Bored

A kiss is a precursor of what is to come. It can be soft, slow, a flicker of a tongue, a nibble of the lower lip of your sexy partner. A kiss lets your partner know how you feel about them. You don't give it all to them in one kiss. You slowly begin to make love to their mouth, neck, and face, with touch, a caress, and your lips. Cupping their face, looking at them, seeing their beautiful mouth before the kiss ever begins. Women can touch his hair, gently tugging or caress his head with your hands. 


It's The Small Things That Matter

Kissing Other Body Parts

Women and men have many body parts that can be turned on with a kiss. Our cheeks, neck, fingers, hands, feet, inner thighs, stomach, are all erroneous zones to explore with kisses. Making love is not just about jamming a penis into a vagina. It is an all over body experience. Most women need between 20 to 40 minutes of play before they are ready to have an orgasm. Give it to her, kissing, turning her on, gently, slowly, rather than all in a rush, only to disappoint her, yet again. Your kiss tells her about what you've got and what is to come, yes pun intended.

Creating The Sensual Kiss

1. Fresh breath, natural scent. Clean and fresh is far better than a huge waft of cologne that could be a turn off (even if you like it).
2. Make eye contact first. Look at your partner's face, their mouth and into their eyes before you move in for a kiss.
3. Move in slowly. Breathe in your partner's scent. Breath, skin, and pheromones are all part of the experience. Sensuality is not about rushing. It is all about taking things slowly, being deliberate, teasing and anticipation. Notice your partner's eyes, are they open to a kiss? 
4. Look your partner in the eyes and maybe just touch noses together bringing your faces together for a few seconds. The art of kissing is slow at first, building and then slowing again.
5. Lean in and pause. 
6. One lip, upper or lower, first, with soft, moist but not wet lips. Soft full mouth without any tongue. Pause. Allow your partner to kiss you back. Don't force yourself on them; they might back off. 
7. Some areas of the lips are more sensitive than others. Did you know that there is a chakra (energy center) right below the bottom lip that excites a woman? Explore what turns your partner on by trying different areas. Kiss along the sides of their mouth, then move to the middle. 
8. Don't use tongue until they open their mouth. This is the signal that your partner is okay to move deeper with you.
9. Watch and listen. Notice how your partner is breathing, or the sounds they are making which will let you know if what you are doing is turning them on or off. If their breathing becomes rapid, or they begin to moan, you know you are onto a good thing. 
10. There are so many ways to kiss. Learn some new moves. Watch some old sexy movies, like 9 and 1/2 Weeks, with Kim Basinger. Against All Odds, with Rachel Ward. Porn is not the place to find good kissing. Pornography separates you from yourself and your partner. It is not the way real people couple. (More on porn in another article).

There are great videos on kissing here: no porn, wholesome kissing to teach. Sweet Video on How To Kiss

I have included a sexy clip from a movie with Antonio Banderas, sexy badass, and Angelina Jolie. Watch and witness, listen to her words. Watch the interplay of her eyes on Antonio's face. Eye contact, flirting with the eyes and a very sensual kiss.

Jennifer Elizabeth Masters is the author of Orgasm For Life, a guide for no holds barred sex. She writes from personal experience rather than book-learning. Jennifer is life, sex, and relationship coach with a difference. Compassionate, witty, and gets to the root of the issue quickly. She is a certified life coach, hypnotherapist, Master Energy Healer, and ego-less. Since

2012, she has been living the dream, happy, never lonely and fulfilled. She can help you do the same. Her private e-mail to ask questions or set up your private discovery session to see if her work is a good fit for you is:JenniferElizabethMasters@gmail.com

Working with Jennifer can calm your mind, and help you release and heal the following issues. 

• anxiety
• depression
• apathy
• low self-esteem
• unhappiness
• victimhood
• blame
• control
• manipulation
• fears
• sadness
• sexual dysfunction
• abandonment
• betrayal