Showing posts with label libido. Show all posts
Showing posts with label libido. Show all posts

Wednesday, February 22, 2017

3 Daily Practices To Keep You Youthful, Sexy And Able To Get It On

By Jennifer Elizabeth Masters

Christie Brinkley courtesy of Sports Illustrated
Age 63!

Whether you are young or old, we know one thing is for sure we will age. We don't, however, have to become debilitated or decrepit. We can stay youthful, vibrant and sexually vital with a daily practice. Whether you are a man or a woman doing the following daily will keep you youthful, vibrant and your sex organs functioning as a much younger person.


Christie Brinkley isn't the only person in their sixties or older that still looks fabulous and youthful. Daily exercise, a healthy lifestyle and a positive attitude will work wonders for all of us as we move into our Golden years.
The fabulous Kayla-Itsines-Bianca-Cheah

1. Doing the 5 Tibetan Rites Daily

In the last month, I discovered something that has taken years off my face, body, and vitality. 

Seriously, in a matter of weeks, my face is firmer, the sagging skin on my jawline has tightened like it was in my thirties! Wrinkles have diminished and my eyesight has improved. My body is stronger, firmer and I feel mentally clear and calm. I have discovered the 5 Tibetan Rites. I began doing these five exercises twelve times for each, just over two weeks ago on a daily basis and have toned up my face, neck, thighs and my libido. Check out my video from yesterday on FaceBook. I am 62, not far from Christie's age see for yourself.

The exercises only take about twenty minutes or less to perform. They clear, balance and get your chakras spinning and open. The speed of our chakras is what determines our health, vitality and how youthful we feel and look. Doing these exercises once a day is wonderful, twice a day is stellar! 

Each exercise does something different for the body-mind and endocrine system. 


What The Endocrine System Does

The endocrine system affects almost every cell in your body and is a collection of glands that regulate metabolism, growth and development, tissue function, sexual function, reproduction, sleep and mood just for starters. 

The endocrine system is made up of the pituitary gland, thyroid gland, parathyroid glands, adrenal glands, pancreas, ovaries in females and testicles in males. Hormones are secreted from the endocrine system directly into the circulatory system. The Five Tibetan Rites allows all systems to work at their optimum level creating optimum health no matter how old we are!


2. Alkalize Your Body and hydrate! 
Most of us wake up and pour acidic beverages into our body like coffee, tea or soda. Our body needs to be alkaline to be disease and cancer free. Soda, sugar, too much meat or carbohydrates create acidity, yeast, inflammation in our body and create disease, sluggishness, and illness.




Drink clean pure water or better yet a glass of lemon water with fresh squeezed lemon first. Hydrate yourself well as soon as you wake up. Wait till you have eaten to put caffeine into your body. 

Spinach omelette
3. Eat A Healthy Balanced Diet with lots of organic fresh vegetables and fruits.Eat in moderation. Eggs are good for you and are packed with protein and other Fresh raw vegetables in a daily salad give you nutrients that cooked veggies don't. Make your own salad dressing without added preservatives and sugar. I use lemon juice and a little Himalayan (pink salt) and that's it. 

Let Food Be Thy Medicine

Walking is great exercise. Couple a daily walk with your Tibetan 5 Rites daily and watch yourself look and feel younger. You will have stronger erections (for men) and women will feel more confident and have the added benefit of a youthful softer and more flexible and youthful vagina. You won't need to add any pills to "fix" your libido!


5 Tibetan Rites 


If you are physically fit, begin by doing each exercise three times. If you are not in good physical health or fit, begin with one of each exercise. Start slow and work up to more repetitions very slowly. Don't discount the effect on your body-mind and spirit. These exercises are powerful. Once you build up to 21, you may increase the speed, but never the number. Only do 21 repetitions of each. 


1. The spin. Center yourself, arms outstretched, palms downwards. Consider your movements while turning clockwise. Keep control of your body as you make each turn. Count from the place you begin.

2. Leg Raise. Lay on a yoga mat. Raise your straight legs to be perpendicular to your body. At the same time lift your head off the yoga mat turning your chin toward your chest. Breathe in as you lift your legs and out as you lower them tighten your anal sphincter as you breathe out. The breathing is as important as the exercise itself. Don't hold your breath. 

Repeat the same number of each exercise as previous 3, 6, 9, 12 up to 21 repetitions.


Head roll and incorrect position of arms for leg raise.
3. Head Roll. Kneel on your mat, using good posture. Roll your head backward breathing inwards. As you roll your head forward and chin to your chest exhale completely. Roll your head backward supporting yourself by moving your hands from your thighs to your buttocks. 

4. Table. Beginning in a seated posture. Breathe in and create a table with your abdomen and chest flat and even. Breathe out as

you sit back down. This exercise is the most difficult for me and regulates the number of all other exercises I am able to do, as it is the most vigorous. My abdomen isn't the strongest part of me, so I take my time with this exercise. I get stronger each time I perform the 5 Rites.


5. Inverted. Down dog into Chaturanga (Cobra pose) and back to down dog again. Repeat. Breathe in as you raise your hips to the inverted V. Breathe out as your head comes down. At the end of the 5th Rite lie on your stomach close your eyes and feel your body. 21 maximum repetitions of each Rite. Do the same amount for each Rite.

Follow the exercises in the YouTube video. Do only what you can do comfortably and perform these exercises daily. You will retain a youthful glow and feel happier as well. To your health and longevity! Let's live to be 110! Visit Jennifer's website. Or Send her a private e-mail. 




Wednesday, June 15, 2016

Why Does The Idea Of Sex Not Turn Me On Anymore?

By Jennifer Elizabeth Masters

You remember a time you wanted to rip your husband's clothes off as a distant memory. Lately sleep seems to be much more appealing than a romp in the hay. What happened to your libido?



Over time, sex can become a chore. Our partner may express a desire for sex when we're feeling exhausted, pulled in four directions by children, housework, or business; sex may be the furthest thing from your mind. 

Women in their 30's and 40's who used to enjoy great sex with their partners are not interested in sex. In fact, 24 million women aren't interested in sex according to a recent study in the Journal of The American Medical Association. What's wrong with this picture?

15 Reasons Women Stop Having Sex

Anger and Resentment

When emotionally charged issues surface many people leave subjects alone preferring to keep the peace. When we don't resolve the conflict, the issues continue to play out in the background, like a simmering pot on a stove. 

When we become the least bit agitated about the garbage not being taken out, or some other unrelated subject these unresolved issues surface with a vengeance. Unresolved issues don't go away; they become a roadblock to intimacy and deep emotional connection.


When Issues Are Not Resolved
When we come together for sex without resolution, sex can become robotic with women faking orgasm or being unresponsive to stimulation.

Having Sex For Your Partner's Sake

Women find that taking one for the team get's old after a while. Having sex just because your partner wants to ejaculate isn't thrilling anymore. Some women become angry or resentful that they don't have orgasms each time their partner does. Giving yourself away without the pleasure of an orgasm can leave a woman feeling used, undervalued and underappreciated.


Continuing on the same path doing the same things you have always done is a recipe for disaster. JEM

Mutual Pleasure

If sex isn't equally pleasurable for both parties, over time the under satisfied party will lose the desire to participate. Having been there myself, I wrote about this issue in Orgasm For Life. There are many suggestions in my book that will help a lagging libido and unsatisfactory sex life for both men and women.

Prescription Medication

Anti-depressants, statins and other medicine for high blood pressure can reduce the desire for sex. One man informed me that it took him eighteen months AFTER he stopped taking anti-depressants to begin to desire sex again. 

Taking a pill to fix a problem only stuffs it deeper into the tissues covering up the real reason for depression. 

Aging and Decreased Desire

Women who loved sex in their twenties and thirties are discovering a drop in libido well before menopause. It is natural for sex drive to diminish in a woman's thirties and forties. We were designed to be highly aroused during the birthing years with a decline later on which makes sense when you think about it. 


What Do You Want?

Many women in long-term relationships find that they don't want to continue with the same type of sex they have been having. As an advocate for women, I recommend that women take a close look at what they want. Before you think about divorce, read this article. For men, I recommend further reading for you here. 

  1. Are you getting your needs met sexually? 
  2. Do you wonder what happened to you and why you aren't happy with your life?
  3. Begin to ask for what would work for you. 
  4. Do you need more direct stimulation? 
  5. Do you prefer oral to penetrative sex? 

Natural Ways To Repair Your Sexual Relationship


  1. Take a natural remedy to boost your libido. 
  2. Talk to your partner about the things that bother you without blame. 
  3. Talk about the elephant in the room and ask for what you need. Stop being afraid to ask for things to be different in bed.
  4. Teach your partner to stimulate you in a way that will get you to orgasm.
  5. Read Orgasm For Life and highlight the things that would work for you. Pass the book to your partner. 
  6. Hire Jennifer as your coach to assist you with your relationship. I have great success in helping repair relationships and libido. 
  7. Use a quality organic lubricant regularly to prevent pain, tearing or chafing. 
Sex is a delicate subject for many couples. Women don't want to reject their men or make them feel bad about not enjoying sex as they used to. Encourage your partner by telling them what you

like that your partner is doing. Then ask for what you want. This way, you are not blaming the other person. 

Our bodies change as we age. What used to turn you on might not have the same effect now. It's okay. Contact Jennifer for your discovery session to find out if her work is a good fit for you. 

Visit Jennifer's Aphrodite Effect website
When we lovingly accept ourselves as we are with all our faults
and flaws, we have healthy self-esteem. 






Jennifer Elizabeth Masters is the author of the forthcoming book: HAPPY HERE, HAPPY ANYWHERE The Step-by-Step Guide to Overcoming Anxiety, Depression, and Unhappiness Without a Prescription!


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Tuesday, November 3, 2015

How To Elliminate Belly Fat, Low Libido, Inflammation EASILY

By Jennifer Elizabeth Masters
No I am not pregnant! BEFORE

Who wants yeast? I don't hear anyone yelling, "I DO, I DO!" Yet millions of people, especially Americans have internal yeast or Candida. It affects the size of your belly, your libido, depression, inflammation, low immune function, vaginal yeast and can cause leaky gut. 


After. We can have a flat tummy after 50!

Health begins in your digestive system, you might want to read this till the end.... if you know what I mean! Conversely doing nothing could shorten your life.


Gut yeast is the # 1 cause of obesity!

The slew of symptoms that Candida causes is mighty. Carbs and preservatives reduce healthy gut bacteria, allowing overgrowth of yeast/Candida. I highly recommend you read this long list to find out how easily you can remedy most of your health issues. When I recognized my issue, my belly fat was reduced exponentially and quite easily. My energy level increased as did my libido.

90 million Americans drink diet soda. A nine-year study found that diet soda caused obesity, cardiovascular disease and DIABETES! The opposite of what most people think.

74% suffer from digestive issues 

Do you believe that drinking diet soda will help you lose weight? Here are several articles that make a clear statement of the truth.  How can something with zero calories and no sugar cause obesity? People who drink diet soda are 2 X more likely to become obese, with widening waistline with age.


Health Risks Of Drinking Diet Soda


Most common symptoms of Candida:

  • bloating, gas, constipation 
  • leaky gut
  • indigestion
  • irritability
  • wrinkles
  • belly fat
  • inflammation
  • low immune function
  • low libido
  • itching anus
  • chemical sensitivity
  • bladder infections
  • depression
  • anxiety, loneliness (and you thought you just wanted love?)
  • ADD or ADHD 
  • craving sweets
  • difficulty concentrating
10 Reasons To Drink Kombucha Daily

Yeast steals your body's energy. It makes you feel tired, depressed and even sad. Overgrowth of yeast (Candida) causes leaky gut. The body can handle five to eight grams of sugar a day. Most people ingest over 40 grams of sugar daily and aren't even aware of it. Sugar is in everything from bread to "healthy" yogurt and breakfast cereal. If you don't read the labels you need to.

If you consume any of the following you most likely have an overgrowth of yeast (Candida) in your intestines, gut and colon. Taking antibiotics can cause an overgrowth of yeast in your bloodstream and intestinal system. Your blood becomes clumpy and sticky rather than fluid and flowing, which leads to fatigue and immune issues. Certain foods are digestive destroyers. I take enzymes with my two largest meals to help digest my food more completely and a probiotic daily. 

Best enzymes are Multizyme. I have tried all kinds and spent tons of money on things that didn't work. Do your own research. These enzymes helped me lose my belly. That's what worked for me. 

Multizyme is made by Standard Process and upstanding company that recycles, uses the best materials and processes so that you get the best benefit. Multizume contains bromelain, pancreatin and fatty acides which allow you to digest your food more completely. Foods at one time used to contain these enzymes. 


Supplement Facts
Serving Size: 1 CapsuleServings per Container: 40 or 150
Amount per Serving%DV
Calories2
Cholesterol5 mg2%
Proprietary Blend: 410 mg Fig (fruit)†, defatted almonds†, pancreatin (3x)†, stearic acid (vegetable source)†, bromelain†, lipase†, cellulase†, papain†, and amylase†.

Our earth has become depleted. Now we need to add enzymes to our health regime. Most people have undigested food in their intestines and colon. This leads to fermentation, rotting and illness in the body. To prevent this, take an enzyme. It is a simple healthy thing to do!


Foods To NEVER EAT

  • Azodicarbonamide - foaming agent in bread (fast food restaurants including Chick Filet, Jack in the Box, McDonald's)
  • coffee with sweetener of any kind
  • sweetened coffee creamer
  • agave, sugar, artificial sweetener, high fructose
  • alcohol - kills friendly bacteria
  • artificial sweeteners kill friendly bacteria
  • diet soda is the worst thing to drink as it kills friendly bacteria

What You Need For Intestinal Health

Probiotics allow your body to regain the natural balance of good bacteria and bad bacteria. Probiotics come in all shapes and sizes. I take the refrigerated kind called Ultimate Flora. I buy it at the Vitamin Shoppe, it is available online. Be careful that what you purchase will get past your stomach acid into your intestines. The cheaper brands contain fewer strains and smaller numbers of live cultures. They contain a range of cultures you need at least 7 strains of acidophilus, Bifidus, lactobacillus for effectiveness. A review is provided for you here.

What's The Benefit?

No I am not pregnant! I just look like I am
  • reduce belly fat with ease
  • raise libido
  • increased immune system
  • live longer
  • reduce anxiety, depression fogginess of the brain
  • stop craving sweets
  • look vibrantly healthy
Here are my before and after photos: 

Since this photo I have lost 5 more pounds and two inches 

Vibrant health means gut health. Take care of your body, it is the only one you have. My kids are grateful, that I have gotten healthier and younger as I have aged. Just because you have gotten older does not mean you can't be smokin' hot! You can too. Set up your appointment for your personal radiance session now!




Thursday, September 3, 2015

Addyi: Female Viagra Fact or Fiction

By Jennifer Elizabeth Masters

Medication to cure erectile dysfunction has been on the market for men since 1998. After several trials of the drug Flibanserin, (Addyi) a little pink pill has finally been approved by the FDA for women. Scheduled to be on the Market, October 17th, 2015, the real question is, does Addyi cure low libido or just fill the pockets of big pharma? 


After two unsuccessful trials and efforts to bring Flibanserin to market in 2010 and 2013, Sprout Pharmaceuticals has purchased the rights to market Addyi.

Cardiologists are already warning women about the five signs of heart attack. If the most activity you have is climbing onto the top of an erect penis, you had better heed the warnings. Leading a sedentary lifestyle and having a vigorous sex life could be detrimental to your health. You might die with a smile on your face or a slight grin. 

The (Sort Of) Good News

The trials of Flibanserin found that women had a slight increase in thoughts about sex and a warming sensation in the genitals. The drug increases blood flow to the genitals. There was a "significant movement" toward orgasm (whatever that means). Women found an increase of 0.7 more sexual exploits in a month period. 

The Bad News

Side-effects include nausea, dizziness, fainting and low blood pressure. You cannot drink alcohol while taking Addyi. Alcohol severely increases the risks of nausea, dizziness, fainting and low blood pressure. You may not want to drive while taking this drug. It must be taken twice a day to achieve the possible 0.7 % improvement. If no results have been achieved in eight weeks, it is recommended that you stop taking the drug.

My Personal Preference

I am a health nut. I avoid doctors like the plague. I also avoid taking any kind of medication 106,000  (2013 statistic) people a year die accident taking prescription drugs, in the United States. To further illustrate this point, when you look at the daily deaths the number is nearly 300 a day. My aunt who was a medical doctor expressed this sentiment, "Only go to the doctor if you need to. Take only those prescriptions that are absolutely necessary for life."

Some of this is due to over prescribing, where drugs interact with one another. Other deaths are from sensitivity. My mother and father taught us early, don't take drugs or medicine. Unless I have a broken bone, I don't go to doctors. Doctors want to give you a pill if you get teary eyed about your old dog maybe dying. I don't like to take prescription medication. I don't even take over the counter meds, like ibuprofen, Advil or cold remedies. I prefer to make food my medicine and am healthy as a result. 

My Libido Booster

I love the Irwin Naturals Steel Libido. I used it recently over a five- day-period and found it incredible for boosting my excitability, drive and sensitivity. It even increases lubrication if taken daily. I found no negative side effects at all because it is plant based. 

The only drawback was the cost. The recommended dose is four capsules daily. You can skip taking it if you and your partner are away from each other for an extended period. It took my body about three days to catch up to the "highly excitable" stage.

I found this product on-line for as little as $22.00. Vitamin Shoppe and GNC both carry it in their stores. I prefer something that is proven to work with no side-effects versus something big pharma is touting that might come with a serious risk of heart attack or fainting. Fainting itself doesn't feel good, but hitting a toilet, sink or tile floor when you fall could cause serious damage to your head to the point of concussion or death. 

What's In Irwin Naturals Steel Libido? See label above. Nothing harmful or toxic.



Foria is another interesting option if you live in a marijuana-friendly state. I wrote a blog post about this amazing sexual stimulant that can give a woman a 7 minute (or longer) orgasm. You just might want to try this one! Colorado, here we come!

Horny Goatweed

Horny Goatweed was found when shepherds saw what it instilled in their goat herds. The farmers tried it too and found it worked for both men and women. I have used Horny Goatweed as well and was delighted with the results. Again, I recommend using something plant based before a pharmacy prescription that might cause your heart to fail, dizziness or you to faint. Nothing makes me crazier than to be in the middle of an orgasm and faint dead away! It takes me out of the moment. 

User ratings can be found here: Ratings For Horny Goatweed

Articles about Horny Goatweed and use: By James Reedy, Vanderbilt University


Don't Take My Word For It

Do your due diligence. Research for yourself. Here are several articles about the controversial doctor behind bringing this drug to market.

Mother Jones: Controversial Doctor Behind Female Viagra

Long Overdue or Big Time Overkill? Chicago Tribune


Washington Post: Female Viagra

Orgasm For Life Review By Gynecologist:



I have read your book that is well done and should be a best seller. I have not seen a book like yours since the classic work that celebrate human physical intimacy with such authority and clarity that a whole generation in the 70's felt empowered to enjoy sex. It was groundbreaking and unique in a wide range of subjects it discussed and in its reassuring authority and sense of fun. No other book has come close except yours in providing such a wise, witty, uninhibited - sometimes delightfully eccentric - guide to lovemaking. Dr. Fred Parrot MD.


Thursday, July 23, 2015

What Men Want

By Jennifer Elizabeth Masters

I have been lovingly nudged by one of my avid readers to write more posts for men. Not only will I promise to deliver on this request, but I also have a radio show dedicated to you tonight. I promise you can leave your baseball bat in your trunk, but still bring your woody. Getting what you want, will not require torture, leg-pulling or other manipulation.



Just click the "LISTEN LIVE" button. 

Women have misunderstood men, as sure as the reverse is true. We want men to bring home the bacon, make us feel safe, secure, but that is only the beginning. Most women have other expectations of their men. They want a man who can cook, listen, take care of our children, cuddle with us, do housework and still be hard strong and sexy when they want you. 

For some men, waiting for an opening to have sex with their partner might mean endless months of rejection. After years without loving tenderness, these men have turned to regular massages from strangers instead of sex and maybe have low self- esteem. Since our sexuality is the core of who we are, not having sex, can make us feel unloved, unwanted and even abused.

Withholding Sex

Unless there is a physical challenge that makes sex impossible, not having sex with your marriage partner is abusive. 

Men Can Multi-Task

Most men can have sex while stressed, three projects on the go at work, laundry whirling in the dryer, and the sprinklers running, their female counterparts are not so adept at multi-tasking while focusing on sex. Understanding that our wiring is entirely different can save both parties frustration, anger and rejection.

I have spoken to countless men who have experienced dry marriages of 30 or 40 years, faithful, but without sex. These men feel rejected, unloved and often depressed about their marriage, which is understandable. Can you imagine being married to someone for 40 years that didn't want to have sex with you. I couldn't and didn't. 

When my last husband refused sex with me on an on-going basis, I gave him a choice. "Are you in or out? If you are in, you and I will have a loving relationship." It turned out he preferred his sex to mine. Like with Caitlyn Jenner, some people come out later in life. Keeping a deep secret such as being attracted to the same sex from your spouse is problematic. You can't hide it forever.

Women Who Don't Like Sex

Saying you hate sex, is the same as saying "I hate myself." Our sexuality is the core of who we are. If you hate sex, you hate yourself. I have encountered those who have had multiple lifetimes in a religious capacity and find sex shameful. This can be cleared.
Women who reject sex often look like this
Where there is a will there is a way. If you don't care enough about your spouse to have sex with them, why did you marry them in the first place? Sex is a part of a loving relationship. 

I have spoken to a few of these women who say, their husband is happy. I doubt that very much. They have even gone on further to tell me, they would be okay if he had an affair, but they doubt that he would. This is classic denial, not the River Nile, but the kind where you stick your head deeply into the sand without caring to see the truth.

We Have A Choice

Having a loving connected relationship is preferable. However, many people have issues that they continue to suppress rather than deal with in their relationship. These issues become a mountain of resistance and separation between you. You have to talk about your issues for them to be resolved. Communication is imperative for a healthy relationship to thrive and grow. Grow? Absolutely! If you aren't growing together, you are growing apart.

If You Are In A Sexless Relationship:


You have got to have a conversation, one that doesn't end in anger. If anger is her go-to emotion, she is being passive aggressive to deflect the conversation. I have to say, that the person not having sex could also be male. The same holds true for men who won't have sex with their women. We have to talk about it. Ask questions. Use words like, I feel....  rather than "you make me feel."


Sex Is Fun

Men will be so much happier when we relax and have fun with them. Sex doesn't have to be a duty. It is a pleasure. How do you make it so? Listen to my radio show and keep reading here. The point being, women need to receive pleasure. If they have been doing the giving and not receiving, there could be resentment from her, which I have to admit I have felt myself. If only one person is on the receiving end of the pleasure meter, the one not receiving pleasure will shut the door sooner or later.

My guest tonight is author Nelson John who has written a series of 4 books, What Men Want. These books are short, inexpensive and great guidance for women and men. You won't want to miss this show. Next week author Paul Joannides of The Guide To Getting It On is my guest next week. 

Jennifer Elizabeth Masters is a catalyst love and passion coach and energy healer. She is a coach unlike any other, as she uses her intuitive abilities as an empath, so that she feels what you are experiencing, she opens your Akashic Records, which is healing in itself and has six modalities that she works with for your organic experience. Every coaching session is different, because you are unique. Contact Jennifer for your free discovery session here.








Wednesday, July 8, 2015

15 Reasons Women Stop Having Sex

By Jennifer Elizabeth Masters

Couples often feel that working on the relationship is of utmost importance, but leave sex out of the equation. Unfortunately, the opposite is true. If sex takes a back seat, communication becomes an issue. Men need to have sex to feel intimate while women need intimacy to have sex. 


In our relationships, we sometimes get into a contest of wills. Our egos get in the way of true loving heart-centered connection. Sex is the fastest way to dissipate negativity and disconnection. When sex becomes an occasional activity, tempers flare and resentment builds. When sex is not happening often enough, one or both of the parties may begin to notice other people. When flirting becomes serious affairs can result. Even if it is an affair of the heart, sending your energy in another direction is destructive. Recovering from an affair takes courage - commitment to work on the relationship as well as not being concerned what others think. Often we give up all too soon because we think that is what we should do. Society dictates our sex lives, and the roles we play in our relationships far too frequently. 

Reasons Women Stop Having Sex

  1. Women sometimes get angry with their husbands and can use sex as a weapon. Sex can be the way women get their point across - this is clearly manipulation - however it happens. If a man continues to disrespect, abuse or mistreat toxic communication can result. Using sex as a weapon is
    destructive. Sometimes, sex is used to control another. Often we are not even aware of what we are doing. A gentle discussion, rather than finger pointing will net you the result you are seeking: love and more pleasure.
  2. As women get older their hormones dip and their vaginal walls and tissue become tender, dry and fragile. The longer women go without sex, the lower their hormones drop and it becomes a vicious cycle. Less sex, the less women want it. If we don't use it, we lose it. The moral of the story is keep having sex REGULARLY (once a week or at the very least once every two weeks). Sex that occurs once a month or less is putting your partner on a starvation diet. They will most likely feel unloved, unworthy and underappreciated.
  3. Sex after menopause can hurt. Especially if there has been a long period of celibacy. After a month, desire drops, vaginal walls become thinner and more fragile causing pain during sex. Dyspareunia is the medical term for painful intercourse. This is not to be ignored. Having sex before you are properly lubricated, is not pleasant. Even with lubrication when vaginal atrophy occurs, bio-identical hormones or herbs can help. Estradiol is a relatively safe hormone to insert into the vagina and can be used for a short time to alleviate this discomfort.
  4. When women are not fully aroused when they are penetrated, the muscles can tense up causing painful sex. The more a man tries to push forward, the more tense the vaginal muscles become. The key is having a partner that cares enough to be tender and gentle with his wife/girlfriend. Slow down, take your time. Do another activity, like oral or clitoral stimulation instead, till you are more comfortable.
  5. Women need to be romanced, made love to all day long. We need to be told we are beautiful, that we smell good and look terrific. We need to be loved, accepted and respected. If a

    relationship has been abusive - this will chip away at trust and love. When women are afraid of being hurt, it is natural to not want sex with their partner. Trust is one of the most important factors that needs to be present for deep intimacy and great sex. Without it, desire dwindles. We won’t make love to you if we are angry and you have not apologized. We won’t make love to you if you told us dinner sucked, or was too salty. We are emotional creatures. When our feelings are hurt, women won’t want sex. Women are wired differently than men.
  6. As women get older they become fed up with lackluster sex, not enough foreplay or their husbands (or partners) finishing before they orgasm. This can cause resentment, anger and rejection of their husbands’ advances. Men need to learn how to please their partners - most women need 20 - 40 minutes of stimulation to have an orgasm. With quickies - it is like an appetizer and no meal to follow, it leaves you wanting more. When you don't get it (orgasm) most of the time, women
    become frustrated and resentful. Which can cause women to just say, "HELL NO!" (Believe me I have been there.)
  7. Hormones or lack of them can produce low sex drive. Without enough estradiol in our system after menopause women's desire drops to zero. Bioidentical hormones - or hormone replacement therapy can alleviate this problem. The issue with this is, that most women have so little desire to have sex, why would they bother taking medication to alleviate a problem that they are apathetic about in the first place - especially if there are risks involved  - like cervical or breast cancer? There are natural alternatives that I have found helpful. Irwin Naturals is Steel Libido taken daily is my favorite, it works great! It is available at the Vitamin Shoppe, GNC and online. There is also a men's version, I hear is terrific as well. I recommend using natural products whenever possible. 
  8. Women can become disenchanted with pleasuring their partners without getting the same pleasure in return. 80% of women fake orgasms. After 20 years - enough is enough. Many women just stop wanting to have sex, if they aren’t being satisfied consistently. I have to say, I was one of them. Hence the book, Orgasm For Life!
  9. The majority of women don’t know what they like, which makes it very difficult to get what they want. The better a woman knows her own body - the better she can ask for what she wants. Self-pleasuring of her own body assists in communicating what she needs.
  10. Many women clam up in the bedroom. They may be able to pick the restaurant they want to eat at or the movie they want to see, but they rarely tell their men “a little to the left, honey!” Some women are quite confident and able to ask for what they
    want - many confident women, however, do not for fear of hurting their man's ego. Knowing his self esteem is riding on his egoic thought that he is a good, if not a great lover causes many women to put up with what they have. Most men do not know what women want and need. It is a rare man that can play his wife’s body like an instrument. If you can, I want to hear from you, what you have found works and what doesn't. 
    Some women have the courage to tell their men what they want and their men either get angry, upset or shut down. Still others ignore what their partner says and think they know better. No one knows a woman's body, like the woman herself. It takes a real man to be able to ask her and pleasure her the way she wants or needs.
  11. Many women are running programs from childhood in their heads about what good girls do and don’t do. Shame and guilt even when married can still be an issue.
  12. 1 out of 3 girls will be molested in childhood. 1 in 5 will be raped or sexually assaulted. These women are often  sexually dysfunctional as adults. This is not a medical condition, meaning there is nothing PHYSICALLY wrong with them. The dysfunction is of an emotional nature = and fear is trapped in the cells of the vaginal walls. Healing of the emotional trauma needs to happen along with physical releasing of the energy in the vagina, tops of the legs and g-spot. 40% of women are considered sexually dysfunctional. This is a HUGE issue. Read about healing sexual dysfunction in my book, Orgasm For Life. 
  13. Chemistry plays a large part in women not wanting to have sex. If the thyroid is underactive, or there is not enough cholesterol in the body, or other blood chemistry is out of balance, orgasm may elude her.
  14. When an emotion is repressed - whether it is sadness, grief, unhappiness or anger, sexual dysfunction can result. Many women have repressed their emotions for years and as a result are unable to orgasm. You can tell this is an issue as they will be extremely reactive emotionally. This indicates stuffed/blocked emotions. This is an issue I clear for my clients, painlessly.
  15. Women need to have a deep level of trust with their partner to relax and have great sex. If there has been betrayal, women won’t trust their men. If a woman is afraid of her partner orgasm can be difficult. Trust is important no matter how long we have been married. 

There are lots of remedies for lackluster sex. Instruction, understanding, love and compassion. Communication is often lost after a couple has been married a long time. Once children have flown the nest communication may be stilted, rather than easy and open putting sex on the back burner.

Hormones, more direct and longer-lasting foreplay can change a woman's experience so that she is able to let go and achieve orgasm. Sexual healing as a part of emotional coaching and inner child work can heal the past trauma and release the old programming. 


Feeling alone, lonely or unloved? Are you sick and tired of being the alpha in your relationship? Are you tired of attracting partners who don't appreciate you or cheat on you? Is your husband better to his mother than he is to you? If you are ready to have the love-life you have always dreamed and know you deserve, contact Jennifer Elizabeth Masters here. 

The Best Sex In Your 60's and 70's

By Jennifer Elizabeth Masters

Do you ever wonder what sex will be like when you are in your golden years? With the millions of prescriptions filled for Viagra, Cialis, and other drugs for erectile dysfunction, many people wonder if they will be able to have sex in their 60's and 70's. You will be surprised at the truth. 


What matters more than our sexual organs is what we do with our brain. The brain is the most important organ in our body which helps stimulate the sexual response. Thoughts about whether you can get an erection may be enough to prevent one. If you think it and believe it, you will create it. Positive or negative, our thoughts create our reality especially when it comes to sex. Famed researcher Gina Ogden reports from the results of her Isis study that the brain is what matters most. 

Dr. Ogden's study had 3,810 participants both male and female, ages 18 to 86. She cites this study to show how men and women can use sexuality and spirituality to transform their lives. The study contains extraordinary information about how we might expand our view of love, lust, intimacy, nurturing, empathy, communication, safety, abuse, trauma, ecstasy, spirituality, religion and so much more. The study took ten years to complete after which time Oprah Winfrey interviewed Dr. Ogden on her show.

What I know to be true is that the better I feel about myself, my body, life, business and everything I do, the better sex becomes for me. As I have gotten older, I have become more comfortable in my skin, love myself completely. Although my body is not perfect, I am delighted with how I look. We don't have to have a perfect body to be happy with it. The more comfortable we are with ourselves, the more comfortable we are between the sheets naked. 

When we can laugh at ourselves, have fun because we know who we are, have raised our children and are free from the worry of pregnancy, we can relax during sex. We aren't so worried about someone hearing us when we moan or are enjoying ourselves. 

Aging does not have to be a negative experience. I see it as a coming of age, or coming into our own. If you don't love yourself and the way you look, I can help you with that. It is my specialty. Aging is not the biggest cause of erectile dysfunction as some would have you believe.

As we mature, we become wiser, freer and sure of what we like and don't like. We are more confident. We are more apt to talk about what pleases us as we get older, there is less at stake, we have fewer fears. We have often integrated spirituality into our lives.

The Findings In the Isis Sex Study:

1. Sexual response is multi-dimensional, including body, heart, mind and spirit. Sex goes beyond the physical performance to include what we think, feel and what sex means in our lives. This finding concurs with the latest neuroscience regarding sex and interactivity in our brains for both sexes.

2. Sex is embedded in relationship with ourselves, our partners and a power greater than ourselves (no matter what you call that power). The culminating energy of orgasm connects you to the universe, source energy and God. It also involves taking the risk to create intentions for our own sexual happiness - which is consistent with the most psychological and spiritual thinking.

3. Sex gets better as you get older, involving more laughter, play, fun, eye contact, sharing and less angst about societal and religious programming. This finding challenges current medical and pharmaceutical biases regarding the need for performance enhancing drugs. (More on this in my next article - did I tell you about my laughing orgasm after 59?) 

4. This finding suggests that broadening our sexual horizons can help us transcend sexual wounds, guilt, shame, as well as debilitating cultural messages such as, "good girls don't" and "real men score." A multi-dimensional view of sexuality and intimacy encourages self esteem, promotes sacred union which is in alignment with the law of attraction about enhancing health and drawing positive energy into our lives.


Not Having Sex?

If you aren't having sex, you might want to re-consider. I have met many women who consider themselves holy because they are NOT having sex. Did you know that the universe and your higher power expands when you experience pleasure? Yes indeedy! The Divine experiences bliss when we do. Everything we experience the universe and our higher power experiences also. Living a life of celibacy shuts down the first two chakras and can create financial issues. To live your highest spiritual potential we need to be in Divine relationship with a partner, having sacred sex. 

Relationships are how we heal our own lives, creating bliss, joy and complete fulfillment. Humans were created to enjoy pleasure, rather than deny themselves that joy.

Click here to download the ISIS survey. 

Jennifer Elizabeth Masters is a love and passion coach. She was non-orgasmic into her 50's - which led her to interview hundreds of men and women for her book, Orgasm For Life. This book sheds new light on sacred relationship, understanding and intimacy. Jennifer's journey of healing opened new pathways in her brain, moving from profound depression, anxiety, illness including breast cancer into true vitality and emotional well-being. Instead of looking older each year, her internal well-being radiates outward causing youthing, rather than aging. True happiness keeps you looking youthful, radiant and thriving! If you are ready to do the work and want this contact Jennifer now.

In 2012 she experienced a profound awakening which shifted her view of reality, God and love. She has not experienced loneliness, fear or longing since that time. She shares what she has learned from her vast experience of life, love, sex, and God. Her connection with higher dimensions allows her to see the root of your issues quickly in her coaching sessions helping women and men heal past issues, coming into loving acceptance of themselves. When you lovingly accept you, your relationships become relaxed, easy and infinitely more pleasurable. 

If you desire to feel whole, happy and fulfilled, you want someone that can understand what you are going through,  from her personal experience. Jennifer is compassionate, direct and a natural catalyst. Talking with her shifts your energy automatically. Some of what she clears are trapped emotions, blockages, depression, suicidal programming, imbalances and fears from The Akashic Records. If you keep creating the same thing expecting a different result, isn't it time to connect with someone who can truly help you shift permanently?

Listen in every Thursday at 8:00 EST/ 5:00 PST, to ALL YOU NEED IS LOVE on BBM Global network radio. Jennifer takes your questions via e-mail and will answer them on the air.