Consensual sex is when both parties agree that they will move forward and become intimate. We need to consent before kissing, touching, fondling and sexual contact begins. Sexual fondling without consent is assault. Sex without consent is rape. Kinky sex without consent could also end up being termed battery depending on the incident.
Non-consensual sex has come to my doorstep. I need to make myself perfectly clear. Getting a girl or woman drunk, drugging her in order to make her compliant or forcing her head down into your crotch is non-consensual.
“The penetration, no matter how slight, of the vagina or anus with any body part or object, or oral penetration by a sex organ of another person, without the consent of the victim.”
Talking about what is about to happen is paramount. Just because someone attempts to kiss, touch or fondle doesn't mean we have to allow it.
If you sext nude body parts to get a man's attention you won't be considered marriage material, so think before you do. Teens need to be educated to understand that just because others sext or request sexting doesn't mean you have to do it.
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Consent is something that we don't think about before hugging someone or telling our children to go kiss Aunt Nell. A hug when the other person doesn't want it crosses boundaries. Even attempting to force your partner or spouse to kiss or perform a sex act when they don't want to is crossing boundaries.
If you date someone after they have pushed you beyond your choosing, you are in for a world of trouble and challenges. Someone who pushes your boundaries and doesn't listen to your resistance and verbal queues doesn't respect you. Without respect, we can't trust. Beginning a relationship without trust has no foundation for survival.