8 Powerful Feng Shui Cures For Love and Romance

By Jennifer Elizabeth Masters

It's time! Enough lonely nights, trips alone and dinners with your best friends. It is time to herald a new relationship, rather than spend another year alone. 

2016 is the year for you to find love! 

Get ready for love with these tips and cures. If you already have a relationship, this article will help you enhance the love that is already present and ease conflict where it is present.

Yes, love is more than a possibility. You have received ample information about doing your own inner work. You know you have to love yourself to have someone love you back. We also have to be open to receive love. Check in and see if you need a clearing on this, contact me if you do. I am offering some summer specials.

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When I had my landscaping business in Atlanta, Georgia, I wasn't your typical landscape professional. I had to be different, a unique

version that represented who I was. My landscape business encompassed Feng Shui. You may have heard of it before. You might even be an expert. What I do know is that when I used Feng Shui cures, I could call in a relationship almost instantly. Feng Shui can enhance all areas of your life.

What Is Feng Shui?

Ba Gua

Pronounced Fung Schway, it is the 3,000-year-old art of placement. It literally translates to wind and water. The Chinese have been using Feng Shui in their homes and businesses for thousands of years.

Good Feng Shui can bring you wealth, harmony, health, love and amplify all the good things in your life. Feng Shui can help strengthen relationships. 

Focused attention on the relationship area can bring you love that you have never experienced, or rekindle an old love. It can be used to quiet disputes within the family or relationships. 

Simply put, Feng Shui is the soothing of our environment using the five elements, are air, fire, water, earth and ether. Cures can be used to enhance a relationship, or increase the flow of wealth in your life. 

There are two distinct forms of Feng Shui. Classical or what I call REAL Feng Shui uses a compass or Luo pan. 

The updated form is called Modern Feng Shui. Created for us westerners, this modern version

simplifies the Classical form for those who find the compass method challenging. This method uses your front door as the north or career area (no matter which way your front door faces). I prefer the compass version. You can choose whichever suits you, either form of Feng Shui will work.

Ba gua

The Ba gua above is used to show where each area is in each room of your home. Place the bagua over your floor plan facing the appropriate direction to find where each area is in every room in your home. Each room is comprised of the following areas: health (heart), career, helpful people, knowledge, family and children, wealth, fame and relationships. To begin with,  focus on one room, your bedroom.

Count the number of rooms in your home or apartment. That number is how many relationship areas you have inside your home. You also have relationship areas outside your home as well. You can plant flowers to enhance the area, use up-lighting outside and use the cures below.

The Relationship Area

Giving special attention to our relationship areas can foster loving, harmonious and lasting relationships built on trust and unconditional love. 

Right before I met the love of my life, John Armbruster, I did all the things listed below. It was a matter of weeks before I met John. I also walked around my whole house both inside and outside and got rid of anything that depicted a single element, one tree, one flower or a person alone. I had plenty of artwork that depicted one element. I didn't realize how I was subconsciously self-sabotaging myself as well as avoiding love. 

It can be very telling to examine all your furnishings, artwork and photos. Be a super sleuth and write down all the things you have in your home that depict a single person, rather than a couple. You will be amazed! Gradually changing these single pieces for pairs or groups will help your relationship greatly. 

Below are both suggestions and areas to be watchful for if you have conflict in your current relationship, or you want to draw in a new love.

Want To Heat Up Your Love Life?

At the same time each day turn on your bedside table lamps. Leave them on for 3 hours every day for 27 days. Your love life will really heat up. This really works! I have had women come back to me after making just one or two changes and found love quickly.

Here are 8 ways to amp up your love life and draw love in:

1. Clear your clutter. Clutter represents the past. You want to create love in the present. Clear your clutter first before doing any of these cures. Clutter in the mind will clutter your relationships with issues. Clutter is a big no-no when drawing love or wealth. It is a sign of too much on your mind. Too many things

   

   Sage stick - to clear negativity 

   left undone unfinished business, projects etc. Clean your bedroom thoroughly. Make sure there is no mess or clutter under your bed, as energy circulates underneath the bed. Get into corners and burn sage if you  have it. Sage will clear sadness, negativity and any left over conflict from past arguments or relationships. 
2. It Takes Two! Make sure you have two bedside tables in your bedroom, one on either side of your bed. Two end tables on either side of your couch are necessary as well. This shows that you are open to having someone else share your space.
3. Symbolic Artwork. Make sure that each of your relationship corners (SW) have artwork depicting happy couples touching and more than one element. Place pairs of statues that symbolize love to you in your relationship corner in each room. Look around your home and move artwork or any photos that have only one element in them. (You can use those in other areas - just keep solitary trees, or people out of the relationship areas). For example

   

   Peony

   a photo of a lone tree in the landscape. You want artwork that depicts couples, loving and touching. Paintings of a bunch of flowers in a vase, rather than a single flower. Peonies are especially auspicious for love and romance, both in photos, artwork and fragrance. 
4. Crank up the heat in your bed! Sheets that are white, bright green or even red will heat up your love life. Use red sparingly, as it could burn your relationship out. Red denotes fire. Use decorator pillows sparingly. Beds that have too many pillows are a turn-off for men (too much work to make the bed). 
5. Two pink candles in your relationship area will add some spark and heat up your relationship if you are currently in one. Light them together. Pairs of animals, cranes, ducks, in the SW corner of your room placed close together, or touching will draw love to you. Two cozy chairs (no table between them) also works. You are creating a comfy place for two.
6. Make Room! If your closets are over-stuffed and can't fit another article of clothing, clear out the old stuff you never wear. To draw love in, you want to create space for it to come
   
   in. It is called creating a void. When we create a void by emptying closets, drawers and getting rid of what isn't loved or used we make room for something new. When our homes are busting at the seams with furniture, decorations and belongings, there is no room for anything new to come in. 
7. Best Master Bedroom Colors are: rose, purple, pink, green. Avoid peach as it can lead to philandering (affairs). 
   
8. A Vase of Fresh Cut Pink Flowers in the relationship area will raise the vibration of the room faster than anything I mentioned previously. Fresh flowers in the home can transform the energy instantly. Do not used dried flowers, they denote death. If you can't do fresh, silk are the next best thing.

Bedroom Do's And Don'ts

• Make sure your bed is in the commanding position within your room
• Doors knobs that open into one another or clash, can cause conflict in the household
• Mirrors at the foot of the bed or on the side that reflects the couple can lead to negative vibes, serious issues within the relationship
• No Television in the bedroom - creates issues within the relationship and also reflects the couple in the glass
• No mirrors opposite windows
• If bathroom is attached to your bedroom, always keep bathroom door closed
• Bed accessible on all three sides to keep your partner. Bed scrunched into corner of room does not allow chi (energy) to circulate properly - creating stagnant chi
• Find your Kua number to discover which direction to sleep in for optimum personal/relationship health and deep sleep
• Use wooden beds. Metal beds provide cutting energy and are not good for a bedroom
• Closed headboard - open headboards with cabinetry creates a heaviness around the head and negative chi. Never use a stand alone headboard that does not attach to the bed
• Queen sized bed - allows enough room, but not so much that you have space between you
• Relocate exercise and computer equipment to other areas - bedrooms are for two things, sleep and sex
• No chandelier over the bed
• No fan over the bed - gives you an uneasy feeling and can affect sleep 
• Clutter especially on the floor lowers the vibration and attracts negativity and can cause depression if left for long periods
• Do not give the commanding position (rear of house) bedroom to a child. Can cause power struggles between parents and child (whoever sleeps in the back bedroom commands the household)

I would love to hear from you. How did this post help you? What experiences have you had with Feng Shui? 

What people are saying about Jennifer

I met Jennifer at one of her workshops that a friend recommended to me.  At that time I was searching, and wanting some help out of my deep depression and anxiety.
Keeping in touch, I joined her on line workshops, and eventually her coaching once a week.

One of my earliest coaching sessions with Jennifer, I felt complete trust, like I have never felt with anyone in my ENTIRE LIFE.  I told her my deepest darkest secrets, and she welcomed me into her loving space.  For this, I will never ever forget, and will be eternally grateful.    

She allowed me to be where I was, no rescue, no high expectation - no pat advice that I have heard over and over - not landing anywhere in me that could really grow.
Her advice was simple and doable, small steps to move forward - with kindness, and no judgment allowed me to open up.
The meditations helped me see my guides and myself in a new light.  As I grew in compassion and respect for myself as a result from the coaching sessions, vast changes in me occurred.I feel happier, more peaceful, more truly loving now.
In both my professional life and personal life, the changes though subtle, were highly significant:  I easily am present with people and they sense this.  If nothing else occurs, I feel that this is a huge gift, to be able to connect with people so that they feel heard and significant. N.A., Atlanta, Georgia

If you want to truly work with a master of energy, Jennifer is the one to work with! Not only is she a master of her craft, she is professional, genuine and caring. She makes sure your experience was everything you were expecting and more...plus she gives you tools to keep help you on your journey! L. Roosevelt

Jennifer Elizabeth Masters is the real deal. If you are looking for someone who is more than a coach, who gets you, is direct, authentic and healed herself, Jennifer is the one. She has traveled this road and created tools that you get to keep and use daily, even after you graduate and are working on your own. 

Do you keep attracting relationships that don't work, or can't attract a relationship at all? If you are looking for lasting happiness, a guide along the path of life to assist you find your passion, to be rid of anxiety, or clear beliefs and pattern that limit you, e-mail her for a free, private discovery session - 60 minutes.

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7 Minutes In Heaven

By Jennifer Elizabeth Masters

Remember those days in your teens, playing spin the bottle? Seven Minutes In Heaven is an updated game that teens from 13 to 18 play today. Instead of kissing uncomfortably in the circle, after spinning the bottle and finding out who you are paired with, the paired couple go into a closet or bathroom. They are timed and must stay in the closet for 7 minutes. If the person you are paired with is someone you don't want to kiss, 7 minutes could feel like hours. If it is someone you are attracted to, think is cute, or even dreamed about, your dreams come true. A whole seven minutes!

I am not suggesting that adults play this childhood game. Though the average duration of the sex act for many couples is only 7 minutes and 43 seconds for each encounter. For 45% of men, sex is over within 2 minutes or less according to The Nerve. The recent study has confirmed Alfred Kinsey's research from the 1940's and 1950's. A recent study of Canadian and American sex therapists recently concluded a study stating that the average sex act lasts between three to seven minutes, not counting undressing.

Think You're A Stud? 

Most men love sex. They like to think that they are satisfying their partners. However, a recent study shows that men think they are doing a good job when they are actually missing the "O" mark. A 1992 study by Edward Laumann of The University of Chicago found that 43.5 percent of the men thought that their partners always had an orgasm, compared to the 28.6 percent that saw a glimpse of heaven. But that was in 1992, you say. An updated study was done in 2010 which elucidates this issue. 85% of men felt that their females partners had a great time, versus the 64% that looked like the cat that swallowed the canary. Hence, my book, Orgasm For Life.

The Two-Minute Marvel

Having a relationship with a man where sex only lasts two minutes or less can be extremely frustrating for both partners. For marriage partners, it is a source of extreme conflict. Speaking from experience it caused constant friction, of the non-sexual kind. I

know of many women who eventually have affairs and divorced their men due to their nonfulfillment. Many stay but are extremely dissatisfied with the sex. Alfred Kinsey dryly reported that men would be irritated with their wives, "Are you done yet?" (forty minutes). 

Author's Note:

A reader commented on an article I wrote about the length of time most women need to reach orgasm - between twenty and  forty minutes. He responded that I must be using a vibrator or touching myself too much. The truth is I don't own a vibrator, I prefer the real thing to something that buzzes, vibrates, whizzes and bangs without ejaculating. 

Macho Man? Or Are Women Just Misunderstood?

His comments highlight the misunderstanding that many men are under. Just because a man can get it up and off in two minutes doesn't mean that women can. We have yonis (vaginas), not lingams (penises). Women can orgasm through digital stimulation in four minutes or less without a partner. Add another physical presence and women and their vaginas change. 

Erections and Arousal In Men

The subject of men and the way they are wired is fascinating. The differences in men and women sexually are astounding. Men can become aroused and erect as many as 11 times a day (on average). Women may think of sex once a day or less. The challenge is overcoming our personal issues and getting to the place of joint pleasure, rather than pleasure for just one.

Two Minutes Or Less For Many Men

For those men who ejaculate within two minutes,  other ways to satisfy your partner need to be found, because penetrative sex does not last long enough for her. It is not because sex is too infrequent. William Reich, supports my hypothesis and theory. Anger blocked emotions and inner rage is what lies underneath this pre-mature ejaculation or HTP, as I have termed it in my book, Orgasm For Life. 

Yes, I work with men to help heal these emotional issues. I have had really great success healing sexual dysfunction in both men and women.

How Long Does Orgasm Take For Women?

Dr. Harry Fische  has a post which I wholeheartedly disagree with. He writes that most women can achieve an orgasm within 7 minutes. He states that women who take 40 minutes to have an orgasm need to get themselves checked. Other scientists and medical professions disagree. Most women need between 20 and 40 minutes to achieve an orgasm unless they are self-stimulating. 

Men The Deep Fryers - Always Hot and Ready To GO!

Men and like deep fryers, ready to go at a moment's notice and can become erect, ready-to-go just by simply seeing an attractive woman on television. They can turn their attention to the woman they are with very easily with that arousal. Whether it is a magazine photo, article, or a movie, seeing a naked woman can be enough for many men to be aroused enough for sex.

Women The Slow Cookers - Slow To Warm Up

Women are like crock pots or slow cookers. We are slow to arouse. Our minds need to be engaged, free of thoughts and worries about the kids or family members hearing, dishes in the sink, or vacuuming that needs to be done. We perform so many household tasks a day, that there are often things that are undone, plaguing us. When our minds are not present, sex is next to impossible. If our recent encounters with our men have been less than satisfactory, we may be even reticent to have sex with you, thinking "What's the point?" It may be simpler and much more gratifying to just masturbate. At least, this way we know we will achieve an orgasm.

Making orgasm the focus for the man usually ends up with a frustrated woman. Which is why we are currently in the predicament in society today. Pornography indulges the male fantasy that women are always ready to go down on you or mount you at a moment's notice. 

The Truth 

Only 25 percent of women have orgasms through penetrative sex alone. Most men spend a few minutes fingering and then enter, thinking what they did was enough. It wasn't. If you are not spending time satisfying your woman through other means, orally, digitally or with a vibrator, most women will not achieve an orgasm. There is a problem. Ask her. When you care about her pleasure, sex will happen more frequently. 

It has become commonplace for women to not have orgasms through sex. This is called the orgasm gap. If one partner has an orgasm, both should. 

Betty Dodson, New York sex educator says, penetrative sex is okay, "But I prefer a talented tongue on my clitoris."

Interesting Fact About Orgasm

Women take approximately the same time to orgasm when they masturbate by themselves as men, about 4 minutes. Women report that they have fewer orgasms with their males partner than women who have sex with women.

The Clitoris

Yes, it is the female pleasure center. It is located outside the vagina and does not come into contact with the penis while penetrative sex is occurring for most women, which is why so many women have difficulty having an orgasm this way. The clitoris has twice the number of nerve endings than a man's penis. For some women sex riding on top of the man is the only way she can sometimes reach an orgasm through penetrative sex. If the woman straddles the man and leans forward friction can be possible against the shaft of the penis with the clitoris for some women.

The clitoris is what is removed in some cultures so that women don't experience pleasure when they have sex. 

Many women have no idea what or where their clitoris is. In a study of undergrads, many men and women thought that the clitoris is another name for the G-spot (it's not). No wonder some men can't find it either. The clitoris is like a little

button of pleasure measuring from 4 inches in length to seven inches in some women. It is hooded and is not the place where women pee. The urethra, where urine is emitted from is below the clitoris towards the vaginal opening. The clitoris branches out internally. Some scientists believe that the internal G-Spot is the root of the clitoris (found on the upper inside wall of the vagina). Orgasm For Life has a complete description of the G-Spot and how to arouse this area.

The clitoris is comprised of thousands of nerve endings (8,000 to be exact,) twice that of the penis, erectile tissue, like the penis. The clitoris becomes engorged with blood as arousal begins. It becomes erect and swells in size. When a woman is not aroused, it appears shy, hidden and often obscured. If you are interested in seeing photos and description of the female anatomy from a scientific perspective, here is the link.

Over the last hundred years, 61% of all divorces are filed by women. Why? Women are getting fed up with giving and not receiving equally in return. If you are seriously interested in saving your relationship, buy my book. Orgasm For Life explains in great detail how to bring a woman to orgasm with regularity. Orgasm For Life is more than a book about sex, it is a guide for relationship communication and understanding of men and women. It will help you build intimacy, deepen the love between you and save your relationship.

For Men

The following description of how to make love to a woman is a small part of what a woman needs to feel loved, accepted and adored. Taking the time to make love to her at least once a month this way will increase intimacy and deepen your bond.  Rushing through to orgasm is a sign that sex is unconscious and robotic. 

There are two of you. Make sure that you take care of

your woman first. If you get her deeply aroused before you engage in penetrative sex, her orgasm will happen with ease and your sexual encounter will be erotic, expansive with amazing orgasms. Hold off your orgasm. Stop what you are doing to slow down and keep yourself from coming too soon. Change positions, pull out and go down on her - again. This will slow down your building pleasure enough to keep yourself from coming. Giving to your woman first can be amazing for both of you.

What MOST Women Need To Achieve An Orgasm And Want To Have Sex With You AGAIN and AGAIN!

More Than 7 Minutes in Heaven

1. Tell her you love her.
2. Tell her how beautiful she is, often. While making love, if you don't tell her at least 3 times, you are missing the whole point of LOVE-MAKING.
3. Hug her and touch her outside of the bedroom and when you are not expecting sex. Many men only become amorous when

   

   "O- Face" Orgasmic woman

   they expect sex. Again, we are not wired the same as you. We need to know you adore us, love us and like us. The only way we know this is through your actions. If your actions are not loving, we feel used.
4. Kiss. The kiss can be a huge turn on. Not too much saliva. Don't shove your tongue down her throat. It is not a rape scene. A kiss can express your desire, a nibble of the lower lip,  gently touch of your lips together, pull away and look at her. Make eye contact. Then go back again and begin to slowly, slide your tongue in between her lips (mouth, not vagina). There is an art to kissing. I will write an entire post about the kiss soon. Spend time kissing her. Act as if you actually like her. Show her how much you do. Don't rush to the good stuff, you will miss how turned on she can get with just kissing. Some women can achieve an orgasm through kissing alone.
5. Nibble and kiss other places. Ears, neck, shoulders, gradually, slowly make your way to her abdomen. Kiss her all over. Stop thinking about yourself and having an orgasm. Take your mind off yourself and focus on HER. This will pay off in dividends.
6. Touch. Finger light touch along her arms, massage her hands, let her lay back and just enjoy herself without having to give to you. Gently touch her shoulders, across her breasts with gentle fingers or a feather. Brush her inner thighs without touching THE TARGET, (the vagina or vulva), touch her calves, gently brushing along her inner ankles, massage her feet. Hear her groan. Give her pleasure all over. She has an entire body. If you aren't touching her everywhere, you are just fucking, not making love.
7. Roll her over, massage her buttocks. Rub and massage her back. Take your time. If you rush, she will know it.
8. Kiss her buttocks, nibble a little. Massage her thighs getting close but not touching her vulva. Tease her with your fingers. Her back will arch as she becomes more aroused.
9. You can use your whole body to rub hers at this point, let her feel you along her torso, without putting too much weight on top of her. This is to be pleasurable, not controlling.
10. Ask if you can touch her vulva. If she says, yes, or "HELL YES!" place a flat hand on top of her vulva and hold it there. She will begin to vibrate. Gently tap her clitoris with your flat fingers. Then you can begin to massage her clitoris. The most sensitive region for most women is at 1:00 as you look at her face. In other words for those of you who can't tell time, look at her clitoris, just to the right of her navel, towards her right hip. Massage in circular motions, pressing gently. Ask her how the pressure is.
11. You have two hands, use them. Ask her if you can put a finger inside her. Using a lubricant, insert either an index finger or
    
    third finger inside her. Don't poke her. Using a come hither motion curl your finger upwards along the upper portion of her vaginal wall. This is where the G-Spot is located. Massage this area. She might have to pee. Let her do so. When she comes back, resume. After about five minutes here you should be ready to enter her. I am very interested in hearing your perspective. Did this article help you, educate you or offer a different perspective? What would you like to know more about? What subjects have I written about that you liked and want more of? What has been your experience?

Every woman is different. However, I have talked to hundreds of women in person. I have only met two women who had orgasms easily. The other women need a slow gentle build to achieve an orgasm. They need 20 to 40 minutes of pleasure to get there. Most men think they are doing a great job. Their partners do not agree. 

I cannot thank you enough. Nothing is overnight in this life, but I have turned a corner here and sooner than I thought I would. C. Ebert

Jennifer Elizabeth Masters is a sex educator, and empowerment coach for women and men. She is compassionate, direct, honest and the most adventurous and interesting woman you will ever meet.

She has been on hundreds of radio shows across the world. For a private coaching session or a clearing of your anger issues, you can e-mail her here.e-mail Jennifer here.

My Gratitude For You Today

By Jennifer Elizabeth Masters

I absolutely love Thanksgiving. The energy of our country expands and is lifted as people raise their vibration into a state of Gratitude. You can feel the difference. There is peace, gentleness and love. The smell of turkey roasting in the oven, the laughter of friends and family. It is a wonderful day. Our focus is one of gratitude, love and joy!

From my family to yours, I wish you a blessed, joyous Thanksgiving. It is a day to celebrate all the ways we have been gifted. Whether it is food, funds, family or fun, it is a day to give thanks for all that we have received. I am grateful for the healing and profound growth that my clients have experienced. I am also grateful for the open hearted sharing and trust in me.

From my family to yours......  Today I celebrate you. I congratulate you for opening your hearts and raising your vibration. I am in deep gratitude for you. I love to write. Writing makes my soul sing! Having you reading my posts gives me a purpose. I am inspired daily by life,

your questions and experiences. Thank you to those of you who have been brave enough to share, or ask. For those of you still waiting in the wings for the perfect time, it is perfect now. Right now is even more perfect! Whenever you are ready, I will be here and the timing will be absolutely perfect!

I am so grateful for my family who has traveled so that we can experience wonderful times together. 2014 has been a wonderful year. I am grateful for the safe travels to and from

Colorado 4 times this year. I am so grateful for all of you. I am also grateful for my mother and all she has shared with me. I am grateful that after 92 years that my mother is still vibrant and healthy. I am grateful I will get to see her in December! What joy!

I am grateful for the over 41,000 hits this blog has had. Thank you for sharing my posts with your friends and family. 

I am grateful for Digital Romance, Dr. Donald Ketterhagan, Devi Ward, Linzi Levinson, PK Spearman, Hollis Chapman, Eric Jones and the morning crew and all the wonderful radio show hosts that have had me as their guest this year. Thank you!

Thank you for showing up. Thank you for opening your minds and hearts. Thank you for your courage to grow and heal. 

Much Love to you All!

Enjoy the many Blessings that continue to flow,

Jennifer

Sex Pot - Going Green For Orgasms

By Jennifer Elizabeth Masters

Sex with pot? You might be wondering if I have lost my mind? Is this post supposed to be SEX POT?  No. This is a subject that many people are discussing. I have been wanting to open up about my own personal experience with pot way back in Toronto in the 80's. 

I grew up in the hippy days of Love Ins, and the pot smoking 70's. Marijuana was different back then. There weren't 100 different strains. As a matter of fact, there was only one and it was green!

To get high in order to avoid feelings or avoid life is not what this article is about. Marijuana used in a sacred or medicinal way is what I am writing about. Celebrating life, rather than escaping from life is living fully. 

Medicinal Marijuana

Marijuana can reduce pain, depression, cure cancer, stop children from having 100s of seizures a day, stop the effects of many chronic diseases and help a woman who is non-orgasmic, get to multiple orgasms. The body of evidence is piling up almost as tall as the marijuana plants themselves. 

Back in the 70's and 80's pot was filled with seeds that popped, not that I would know, of course! Joints were rolled and very few people used a pipe. Marijuana was not used for medicinal purposes, but recreational use, because no one studied the positive side effects. There are many reasons why people like Martha Stewart or even John Stewart smoke it. Today people prefer one of the two strains Sativa or Indica. Sometimes it is a mix of both.

Sativa 

When we lived in Boulder, Colorado the American mecca for pot, we be-friended a man who had formerly been an alcoholic. He had a very rough childhood, molested by his mother. His brother committed suicide at 21. He smoked weed because he could not function in life without it. He had terrible PTSD from childhood. 

He had reformed, given up alcohol completely and switched to pot. He became a connoisseur of marijuana. It was one of the things he talked about endlessly. He educated me on the different strains. He said that Sativa was a head-high and that Indica was a body-high. Sativa will open your mind, expand your horizons and quite possibly make you chatty. 

Indica

Indica hits your body and can make you a couch potato. In other words, if you want to enhance your sexual encounter you probably don't want to smoke 100% Indica, as you might be locked unable to move, smile or even open your eyes. 

Today pot is smoked by 65% of the population, although the government reports very different statistics saying nothing has changed since the 80s. I know very few teens who have not smoked marijuana today. From Oprah Winfrey to Lady Gaga, President Obama to President Clinton. There is even a list of the 50 most influential marijuana smokers on the Internet. Although, Clinton lied about his sexual escapades he also lied about not inhaling. We all know the purpose of smoking pot is to get high. You don't smoke it if you have no intention of getting a buzz.

I have written about my personal feelings about pot. I like my life straight. I am really happy with life as it is. I know that my kids and most of their friends smoke it. 

Personally, I prefer to have a clear head. I am not anxious, depressed or unhappy. Many people smoke for those reasons. People also smoke to relieve PTSD.  I am open minded enough to see that marijuana can be beneficial if used wisely. For me, though, I have never been a stoner. I might have a glass of wine once or twice a year. I smoke pot even less. I have been offered to smoke hundreds of times and say no. When I do, it is a very rare occassion. Then it is only one puff and my kids have to pick me off the floor. The other downside that I have seen with pot smoking is that it opens holes up in the aura. When there are holes, the physical body and soul are without the normal protection. You can get attachments and entities on you from pot smoking. 

I do however, recommend it to couples who are having challenges getting to orgasm. Pot has it's place. I like a clear head to write, meditate and live. 

What Pot Does To Your Body

Smoking weed can make you incredibly aware of your sexuality. You may feel tingling in your vagina, breasts and a heightened awareness of everything. It can relax you. It could also make you incredibly sleepy and dopey, depending on the strain. 

Pot releases oxytocin in the body in great doses. Oxytocin is released upon sexual arousal, during breast feeding and labor. Oxytocin is the feel good hormone also known as the cuddle hormone.

The key is that pot is different with everyone. Your response could be different depending on your mood, partner and where you are physically.

Multiple Orgasms

My first experience having a multiple orgasm was while smoking pot. My senses were enhanced. I relaxed and my inhibitions fell by the wayside. This was well over 20 years ago, so my remembrance of all the details are hazy. That should make most people laugh. I do remember the sex though and the guy. It was the most amazing sexual experience I had had. 

I had another experience while on a sales training for Lanier dictation equipment, also while in Canada. Our whole sales force was taken to a lodge where we had a hay ride, and I had quite the roll in the hay!

For women who are uptight and non-orgasmic, marijuana could be THE TOOL used to lighten your mood and relax. However, the downside of smoking the green stuff is that if you are afraid, it will heighten your paranoia. If you feel quirky, it will heighten your quirkiness. Whatever mood you happen to be in, will be raised up to the power of 10, especially if you don't smoke it regularly.

Pot is a way to help a woman loosen up and get beyond her road blocks about orgasm and sex. It certainly worked for me.

Here are the strains the experts say are the best for sex:

Best Sativas for energy: Flow and Skunk 1 (very stinky)

Relaxing Sex: Blueberry

The rest are not for the faint of heart. The names, I did not come up with. So forgive me......   A few flying "F" words. 

The following is an excerpt from an article on ALTNET's home page:

What’s in a name, you ask?- Some strains, by name alone, suggest a fun roll in the hay, like: “Fucking Incredible,” “Burmese Fucking Incredible” and“Matanuska Thunder Fuck.”

Just like Viagra- What strains are specifically heralded for their Viagra-like effects?   For seduction and mental wooing, Kirkman recommends “Voodoo” as the key to unlocking unbridled passion. To unleash the sexual beast within, Kirkman recommends “Godbud,” and “ Afghani Bullrider.”

The Heart's Intuitive Intelligence

By Jennifer Elizabeth Masters

The Scientists at The Institute of Heart-Math have done some amazing work to shed light on the power of the human heart. 

The Institute of Heart-Math is an international non-profit organization that works to help people live consciously from their hearts, rather than their minds at home, school and play. They have some amazing tools and workshops to help us do just that. This study has proven that the magnetic field created by our hearts is far more powerful than that of the brain.

The Torus Pattern that our hearts send out is like a beacon into the universe.

Every thought we think, every feeling we feel is sent out from us into the Universe. The earth is surrounded with consciousness. This field is filled with everyone's thoughts, feelings and emotions. Each time there is a riot, an argument between two people those emotions are emitted and sent out into the soup of thoughts and emotions that surround us. Conversely when loving thoughts are sent out by a group, as in prayer the consciousness of the planet is positively affected.

It has been thought for decades that the human brain was the most

powerful organ in the human body. This study proves otherwise. The human heart creates an electromagnetic field. When a fetus begins to develop, it is the heart that is first developed, not the
brain. The heart is an electromagnetic broadcasting device that sends signals to the cells of the body as to how the baby will develop.

According to neurocardiologists 60 - 65 percent of the cells in the heart are neuron cells, not muscle cells. The studies that they have done show that the heart works similar to the brain, and is in some ways superior to the brain. 20 days after conception, the heart begins to function. The brain does not begin to function until 90 days after conception.

The heart gives us universal characteristics and the brain provides personal characteristics. Since the heart gives us universal characteristics and is the key to bonding with others, listening to our hearts, rather than our minds will create more peace, love, compassion and understanding in our world. 

What we feel is transmitted out of our hearts into the universe. It brings back to us energy that matches how we feel. When we are angry we attract angry people. When we are compassionate and loving, we attract compassionate and loving people. 

Our Auric Field

What the scientists found is that our emotions are encoded into our magnetic fields. By shifting our emotions and how we feel we change what is coded into our field. Have you ever met someone and instantly taken a dislike to them? Or have you ever met someone and felt an instant connection with them? You like the way they are coded. It feels good to you. Which is why we want to be expressing happiness, joy and gratitude, because these emotions change the coding of our magnetic field.

Trust Our Hearts - Not Our Minds

What all of the spiritual teachers teach is living in our hearts, rather than our minds. We do this because our mind is ego based. Our hearts are connected with the universe. Hearts are what connect you and I together. We are all interconnected, brothers and sisters. We are all part of the whole. When we connect with our hearts we recognize the divinity in our brothers and sisters and see the love between us, rather than the hate. It is this connection we need to focus on and expand. Connecting with our hearts and trusting our hearts to know what is best for us takes trust. 

Building trust can be as easy as trusting your body. Trusting your gut instinct. I recommend that you ask questions. Questions will bring you guidance. Rather than making a statement - will only make you right. 

We can tell we are in our heads and minds when we use phrases like, "I have to FIGURE OUT........" Figuring out things is not what you want to do. Trusting your heart, following your heart and trusting the guidance you receive is the way to go. Often we choose an ego-based decision and end a relationship because we are either afraid of opening up, or we are angry. Either way, our ego is running the show. When your heart is trusted, you will follow your desire. Your heart knows what it wants. All you have to do is learn to trust.

Broken Hearts Are Real

There are many things that break our hearts. Having a loved one die before their time, is one of the most heart-breaking events that we can experience. I recently spoke to my dear friend, Diana Davis'

mother. Diana left her body September 22nd, 2012. She was one of the most lovely women I knew. She was a fellow healer, and the reason I began doing energy healing. She held the workshops at her home in North Georgia.

Bonnie talked to me about two weeks ago and recounted the last hours of Diana's life. She and I cried together while she told me that they could not regulate Diana's heart beat and blood pressure. Diana could not speak, because she was on life support, but was able to send a message through her eyes to both her mother and her son Forrest before she passed. She told Forrest she loved him through her eyes. Diana shared intense emotion through her eyes with her mother as well. Bonnie told Diana she would make sure Forrest would be well taken care of. Forrest was 16 at the time. Bonnie was heartbroken afterwards, understandably. Her life has not been the same. 

About a year later she was rushed to the hospital because one of the two ties that hold the heart in place in the chest cavity, had been literally broken. Her heart was truly broken from the experience of grief of her daughter's death.

When my beloved, John died, my acupuncturist made a house call. He told me had I not had acupuncture to clear the blockage, I would have most likely had a heart attack. My heart was broken also. Time does not heal all wounds. Our inner work is what does the healing. 

Bad Marriages - Cause Heart Disease and Heart Attacks in Women

A recent study by Michigan State University has found that older women that stay in bad marriages have a higher risk and incidence of heart disease and heart attacks than those who are in happy

marriages. This study found that women who remain long after they recognize they are unhappy are at a higher risk. Men however, were less affected. The study looked at couples in their 50's and up.

Men's health was less affected by their bad marriages than women's. Why? Because women take care of their husbands, watching their diets when they are sick. Men do not take care of their wives in the same way. In fact, in many marriages once a woman gets sick, some husbands leave. Which is another reason that women who file for divorce are less likely to remarry. They are not inclined to find another man to take care of.

Dr. David Cziner of West Med in White Plains, NY, also cited a phenomenon called takotsubo cardiomyopathy, also known as broken-heart syndrome, is much more common in women than it is in men.

Remember Your Emotions Are Like A Magnet

The bottom line is what we feel, we send out. What we send out comes back to us. Think of what you want. Then think of what message you are beaming out through your heart megaphone into the Universe. If you want to be loved. Then LOVE yourself. If you

want to be accepted, then accept yourself. If you want peace, then find peace within. It all comes down to us. How we think, feel and treat ourselves. If you work tirelessly, giving to everyone but yourself, you are not loving yourself. You are doing to try to manipulate people to show love to you. If you need constant pats on the back telling you what a wonderful job you have done - you  need to take a look in the mirror. If you need constant validation from others, it is because you don't love and accept you.

Love begins and ends with ourselves. 

Wanting lasting happiness, love and joy in your life? Tired of feeling anxious, sad, depressed, unfulfilled and attracting the wrong types of people? Jennifer is a healed healer. She has been where you are. Through her own life lessons and a deep and profound toolbox of healing modalities, Jennifer is your biggest cheerleader. She will know you better than you know and understand yourself. Wanting a better, happier life? Email her for a private session.  Your first one is your Discovery Session.  Buy her book HERE!

10 Ways To Make Thanksgiving One of True Gratitude

By Jennifer Elizabeth Masters

A homeless friend we helped in Colorado

There are many who are homeless this Thanksgiving. Thousands of people are lonely, hungry and looking for a place to stay warm. Thanksgiving is normally one of my favorite holidays. My mother, brothers and their families all live north

of Toronto. I won't be seeing them. My children will be in other states. I know that I am never alone. Although I won't have family with me, there is community around me. I am grateful for my community. This Thanksgiving, I will cook my turkey, pumpkin pie and take it to the homeless shelter closest to my home. I will carve up my turkey and sit down and eat with some hungry lonely men, women and children. It is an opportunity to give back to my community. I am grateful for an opportunity to do so. If you are alone, hungry or need a place to be with other people, here are some different options. Find one that feels the best for you.

1. Buy Groceries For A Family In Need

Each year communities help those in need. You can help also by giving to charities, providing bags of food at your local grocery stores.

2. Serve Dinner At a Homeless Shelter

Or even serving in your church. Many churches nearby serve a hot meal to those who need one, once a week. It is a chance for people to come inside and sit down in safety and eat in community. They will even give you the leftovers to take home.

3. Give to A Charity

Family-To-Family is a charity that assists families with clothing, food, books and other supplies that they need. You can contact them through this link to find out how you can give. From books, to meals to clothing, if you have plenty and would like to share, there are many who could use your help. http://www.family-to-family.org/

4.  Take a Meal To A Single Person Who is Alone

Cooking for a large family is almost easier than cooking for yourself. I know of several people who are eating a can of soup for Thanksgiving dinner because they don't have money for the food, or they don't have the energy to cook for themselves. If you know of someone who is alone, bring them a dinner, along with a piece of pie.

5. Invite A Someone To Dinner

What is one more? Invite a neighbor you know is alone over for turkey dinner. The holidays are a tough time to be totally alone. Even if they don't stay long, a holiday meal with people is so much more enjoyable than eating all alone.

6. Deliver A Meal To Your Local Fire Department or Other Service Organization. Many people have to work on holidays. It is a day like any other.

7. Visit A Local Retirement Home

Many elderly people are alone. Holidays can be a very difficult time. Bring a plate of cookies or something festive. Home baked goods are always a hit. 

8. Recently Separated or Divorced Men and Women

Invite a divorced friend over. Often one parent has the children and the other is left all alone. For the first few holidays, this can be a very difficult time for a recently separated or divorced person. You will bring some joy into an otherwise very difficult and challenging day.

9. Panhandlers Get Hungry Too

Today our communities have many people who are struggling to make ends meet. Yesterday I saw an elderly man arrested in front of Pet Smart for panhandling. Drop off a meal at the corner where you see people with their hands out.

10.  Give Someone A Blanket

Every town has homeless. They live in tents, on doorsteps of storefronts and even in retention pond sites. They need coats, blankets and food. 

Giving from our heart's unselfishly is kind. Even if you have never been hungry a day in your life, you could imagine it, if you tried. When we give without judgment, we are sharing our bounty and making someone's day a little better. We all know people who have lost homes, cars, jobs, family and friends because of their present circumstances. The holidays can be an extremely difficult time for the homeless and the hungry. Not only will you help out someone who needs it, your heart will feel all the better for it. It is a WIN-WIN for everyone concerned.

Sharing what we have, even if it is small helps us to recognize we still have much to be grateful for. Gratitude helps us look up, instead of down. Gratitude takes us out of self pity and into our hearts where we can see more clearly. Giving allows us to return the wonderful blessings we have been given to those who don't have all that we have. When we are truly grateful for what we have, not just paying lip service because it is Thanksgiving for one day, we are all the better for it. Someone, somewhere has helped us. We have returned the favor. Giving back is what our life is all about.

Jennifer Elizabeth Masters is an author, Spiritual Pathfinder an empowerment and catalyst coach for women. She assists men and women to live from their hearts and love themselves fearlessly. In loving ourselves fearlessly we begin to recognize the Divinity in each other. That they very things we hate in others are the things we hate in ourselves. Self love and acceptance is loving all of ourselves. The more we love our faults and flaws, the less critical we are of others. Relationships heal magically. Her website is: JenniferElizabethMasters.com You can find her on Facebook HERE.