How To Be Your Own Lover After A Breakup

By Jennifer Elizabeth Masters

Coaching my 19-year-old daughter for the past four months after a damaging breakup has brought the anguish and heartbreak to my door. When we don't feel loved by our partner, we feel inadequate. When we face rejection, betrayal or abandonment in our relationship, how can we take care of ourselves?

First of all, you must know that once love exists it can never be taken away, no matter what another believes. Love is. Love is energy, not an emotion. Loving yourself through the aftermath takes compassion, gentleness and acceptance.

You Are Enough!

No matter what happens in life, you are already enough. You are whole and complete. There is nothing to do, nothing to change, nothing to eradicate. You are enough. When we focus on the pain, what went wrong, trying to be a Monday morning quarterback, rehashing all that you should have done, and asking yourself why only serves to make you feel worse. 

You Are Loved

Love exists as a vibrational energy. Love is in every plant, tree, a blade of grass, molecule, atom and breath you take. Breathe in love. The Divine loves you. Source energy loves you. The angels love you. The plants and trees love you. You are important on this planet.

You Are Unique

Trying to be different to please someone else means you aren't you. Be the best version of you that you can. Don't apologize for being you. You have your talents, abilities, and personality. You may be quirky like me, maybe even a little bit weird, that's okay. Be YOU! Be yourself fully. Speak your truth. Allow your authentic voice to speak. Speak your personal truth. There is no need to change who you are for another, it only weakens your power. 

Be Gentle

Often we can be our worst critic. Harsh words or thoughts directed towards yourself for what you did or didn't do are not loving. Soften your gaze when you look at yourself. Hold yourself in a loving, gentle energy of love. Know you did the best you could. Be kind. Be loving and be gentle to you.

Look For The Silver Lining

When we feel damaged, broken or hurt it is easy to blame and feel that the breakup and even relationship was a waste of time. Nothing is a waste of time. You learned something from this experience. There is always a gift and a lesson. Look under the pile of crap for the gift. It is in there. Find it. Write about it, but love yourself through the process. 

Love Is Always Present

No matter whether you have been told that you are not loved by your partner, or whether you have been cheated on, there is still love there. Love cannot end. It exists. Anger may mar the feeling of love. Betrayal may make you feel hurt, angry, broken. Once love

Is shared between two people it is always there. Even in death love remains. When I read The Akashic Records for others, I feel the love between two people. I also feel the love that Source energy has for you. It is tremendous and unending. Know you are loved. 

Focus

I noticed with my daughter that her boyfriend telling her he didn't love her was her total focus. When I tapped into the energy he was holding, I felt anger. Anger was his focus. However, under the anger was love. Deep, unending love. Have you ever noticed after your anger clears you still feel love? It is because it is always present. No matter what is said. You always have a choice. What you choose to focus your attention, however, is what forms your world and beliefs. Choose to focus on being enough. Focus on thoughts that empower you, and make you feel whole, rather than broken. 

Healing Mantras

Your broken damaged heart is real. You may feel damaged beyond belief. I feel for you. There are several things you can do to help your body-mind-spirit feel less broken. Mantras heal the mind. They also shift your heart. They may sound simple but have great power. Here are a few to repeat slowly when you are meditating, first wake up or right before sleep. Using mantras when your mind is in neutral allows them to slip into your unconscious mind that is the software for your life creating your outer world. 

• I am loved
• I am safe
• I am secure
• I love me
• I am whole
• I am perfect
• I am powerful
• I am strong
• I am harmonious
• I am loving
• I am happy
• I am big, not small
• I am powerful, not weak
• I am beautiful
• I am loved

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How Being Silent Can Intensify Your Sensory Experience

By Jennifer Elizabeth Masters

The past three weeks or more, I have been feeling unrest regarding my work, which is unusual for me. I have been getting signs that I need to shift my focus in my business. I have been getting conflicting information, which shows me something needs to change. I want to write a best-selling book and reach more people around the world. I needed clarity on what direction to take. I love what I do, I just need a shift in who I do it for.

While I was considering all the possibilities of shifting my business model, I received guidance to shut off from the outside world. It was clear to me I needed three days of complete silence. I needed to shut my mouth and listen. From Friday evening till mid-morning on Monday, I focused on being in silence. 

The Art of Listening

As humans, we want to be heard understood and appreciated. Often we speak when no one is listening. We say things that have little meaning to others. We repeat ourselves just to be sure someone hears us. We may even say something to another that upsets them. Closing our mouths and listening, rather than speaking shifts our perspective. Instead of being focused on what we want to say, we listen to others. 

The Gift of Silence

Meditation is one way to become quiet. Sitting still, going within allows us to listen to our inner voice, our higher intelligence. Some of us are so busy talking we don't hear what we are being told.

On Friday morning, I let my adult off-spring know I would not be communicating with them for three days. I called my mother and informed her of my silent retreat. She understood the importance and promised to wait to hear from me. 

A gentleman I had one date with took my retreating inward to mean he needed to fix me. He suggested I call a meeting and talk to wise council. He offered many Bible verses and an invitation to his church on Sunday, saying he wouldn't talk to me if I went to church with him since I would be on a silent retreat. He didn't understand that the wise council was within me. He didn't understand that his insistence on me going to church during a silent retreat was disrespectful to me. 

I wondered how my dogs and cats would respond to my silence? They quickly got my hand signals and found a way to communicate with me, as they communicated silently with me daily. 

How Did I Do It?

I closed my mouth. I stopped making inane comments that were needless during the day on Friday. I began to recognize how much of what we say is superfluous. 

I prepared by doing my shopping in advance. I cooked dinner mindfully, in silence. I did not listen to any music or Netflix T.V.

On Saturday morning, I took my dogs out to the desert and walked in silence. I didn't do my usual dancing routine. David Bowie somehow didn't fit into my silent retreat. Instead of going home after our walk, I drove northward to the town of Mojave.  I jokingly looked for David Branson at his Virgin Galactic building; no one was home. 

Wind farm on the way to Tehachapi

I continued northward to Tehachapi and went to my favorite Mediterranean restaurant, Petra for their famous Baklava. I have eaten Baklava all over the world, and Petra's is the most scrumptious I have ever eaten. It is moist, rather than dry using a honey and butter syrup between the layers. I took a note in so that I would not have to speak. The owner thought I had a sore throat, which was fine. It was easier than trying to explain with sign language that I was just being silent and not speaking for three days.

I was initially going just for the Baklava. However, The Universe had other plans for me. Petra was all out, and the fresh batch wouldn't be ready for another two hours. I ordered a Mediterranean salad, and I recognized that the dogs and I were to take our time,

stroll around the quaint, historic town and spend some time at the park. It was a beautiful sunny day, with temperatures in the mid-70's and I had all the time in the world.

My Secret Discovery

Having two hours to wait might have bothered me a few years ago. There was some reason we were to kill a couple of hours in silence in this little town. We walked the entire perimeter of the park. There were several families having birthday parties for their children. Large expansive tables were set up with a feast for many. The children played on the swings, and some stopped to talk to my dogs. 

I found a place in the shade, under a large Redwood tree. I removed my jacket and stretched out on the soft cool grass and closed my eyes. Karma was happy to lay down and rest. Yoda had other ideas and ran off to play with the group of little boys that liked him. Once I had him quieted, I got an amazing piece of information.

In Silence, There Is NO EGO!

Laying on the grass with my eyes closed, I could hear everyone's conversations without straining. I could separate individual conversations. I heard voices that were far away as if they were right beside me. My other senses intensified when I shut my mouth and listened!

With my tongue still and my mouth shut, my mind quieted. There was no ego!

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I could feel the soft damp grass beneath me. I heard birds chirping, children squealing, laughing and yelling. None of it bothered me. My ego wasn't nagging at me to make me feel angry, triggered or upset. None of the noises disturbed me at all. In fact, I was experiencing the children's joy and happiness by witnessing it all from a place of no mind.

Sex Intensified In Silence

When I get an amazing thought like I just experienced, I extrapolate it across all sensory experiences. I began to wonder about silent sex. Instead of talking, bantering why not, just feel? When we close our mouths, shut down our egos while feeling each other's beautiful bodies, we can experience an expanded level of

pleasure. Our sense of touch becomes heightened. We deepen our other senses. We are more able to communicate soul to soul without speaking. 

Eye contact and touch become our only method of communication. 

What Silence Can Do For YOU

1. Quiets the mind.
2. Your ego takes a back seat and gets quiet.
3. You can hear your deepest soul's calling.
4. Your other senses intensify.
5. You hear and feel more deeply.
6. You become completely present.

Are you ready to commit to a deep connection with yourself? Are you ready to live a happier life, free of negativity, fears and anxiety? Are you ready to let go of the PTSD, molestation, pain and suffering and live a fearless life? 

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10 Powerful Ways To Fill The Emptiness Within

By Jennifer Elizabeth Masters

Author's Note: I pulled this article out of the archives from December 2013. It is still pertinent and powerful today.

Feeling lost, unfulfilled and empty? 

Half of my life I felt broken, lost, depressed and empty. I began my quest at the age of 16. I was looking for the answer to the age-old question, "Is that all there is?" I knew that there had to be more to life than the rat race of school, work, family, and death.

I searched for answers. I studied different religions, attending workshop after workshop. I longed for this void to be filled. It did not matter if I fell in love, had a relationship or did not, the empty place could not be filled. I searched for years, through one relationship after another. I became the ultimate consumer, shopping for clothes, cell phones, houses, and furniture. None of these things filled the void.

I got married, had children, thinking that that was the answer to what was missing. I felt better, but still not complete. 

Not until I began to heal my own life, did I find what was missing. As I became certified in hypnotherapy, energy healing, life coaching and began to read The Akashic Records. I started a healing practice. In helping those in need I found fulfillment. 

Through healing myself of unworthiness and self-hatred, I found that I had a knack for helping people to bring up their own issues, naturally. Just sitting in a room with someone, they would begin to cry and talk to me about their most intimate and profound issues. Even men who never spoke about their wives who left them, or their deep sadness, would begin to open up and spill their guts to me. My search for love led me to help others to heal their lives. I was able to help others change their lives by being the catalyst in theirs. It was here that I found the secret component to life and fulfillment.

What I found was that I could help people in simple ways or profoundly helping women and men change and heal their lives.  Anytime I helped another I was filled up. My passion for helping others is what carries me through my days. I awake with the names of people I don't even know in my consciousness and pray for them for whatever it is that they need at that time. Every time I open a door for another, offer a generous gratuity in a restaurant I am  filled up. The simplest of gestures can change someone's life. When you begin to notice the pain others are going through, it makes you realize how wonderful yours is.

I also found having a deep and profound Spiritual connection (no religion required) brought me a deep and profound joy. Meditating and teaching others how to quiet their minds has helped so many come to a place of peace in theirs. I had such a difficult time meditating at the beginning. It was not until I learned a few techniques that were simple yet profound that I was able to sit in silence and allow the peace and love wash over me that I recognized that this is available to everyone. We just have to be open to receive it.

A quiet mind creates harmony in one's life. From chaos and suffering to living in joy in each breath is what our lives are all about. Here are some of my secrets to living a life of joy, peace and bliss in the moment. 

1. Breathe. Most people breathe shallowly because they feel unworthy. Breathing deeply shows that you are worthy. Breathe deeply. Exhale completely. Stop several times a day and place your feet flat on the ground. Uncross your arms and legs and just breathe. You will find this brings you into the present moment.
2. Stop the mind chatter. There are several ways to do this. Here are two: Sit, breathe, relax. Breathe and relax some more. Drop your shoulders and smile to your heart. Turn your eyes upward towards the ceiling without moving your head. Continue looking at the ceiling for 5 minutes or more. Each time you do this you will find the mind quiets. The second way is to envision a laser beam going through the back of your head exiting through your forehead at your hair line. This will also quiet the mind. 
3. Meditate daily. Beginning with quiet meditation without prayer is the way we open up to hear what God has to say to us. Our minds are so active, we need to become quiet and peaceful so that God and The Universe can speak to us. Beginning each day with upright chair meditation will calm you, bringing order into your day, life and world. Harmony within, harmony without. 
4. Be grateful. Each day I wake up and immediately pray a prayer of gratitude for being alive another day. I always say "Thank you for my vibrant health." I believe that this is how I have become so strong and healthy when many at my age have aches and pains. I have none. When we are grateful for what we have, we will receive more to be grateful for. Without gratitude for all you have, you will find more lack and things to be ungrateful for. 
5. Love everyone. We are all connected whether you believe it or not. When you are angry with another, vengeful or harmful in any way, you are hurting yourself.
6. Forgive everyone. No matter what they have done to you, there is no point in hanging onto anger, resentment and rage. All these negative emotions will do is cause you illness, disease, and more suffering. Eventually, you will say thank you to your perpetrators for teaching you the lessons that you needed to learn. Then you are on the path of healing and wholeness.
7. Experience nature. Being outside in beauty and appreciating it will help you to feel better, happier and connected with the earth, and the heavens. Nature teaches us acceptance for what is. Nature is in constant change. We need to accept that things will always be changing and resisting change only causes more suffering.
8. Love yourself. This actually should be number ONE! I have heard Buddhists criticize me for this saying that loving oneself leads to selfishness and loneliness. I have to disagree. Since I have begun to love myself I have been more connected to God and others. I no longer feel like a victim and have taken responsibility for myself and my life. I never feel lonely or alone. Self love is the key to understanding others and being compassionate for you and others. Self-love is the key to healing all relationships.
9. Accept others as they are. Trying to change another is folly and egocentric. Everyone is on their own path. Everyone is finding their own way. If they ask you for help, that is another story. Giving advice when it is not asked for is like my spiritual teacher used to say, "Throwing pearls before the swine." They will find their way in their own time. Who are we to judge what is right for another?
10. Be generous with your service, gifts and love. The more generous you are, the more others will be generous with you. We give without expectation, however, the laws of The Universe are designed that the more you give, the more you receive. It is a natural law of The Universe. 

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How To Find Happiness

By Jennifer Elizabeth Masters

What if I was to tell you that everything you ever dreamed of was possible? What if I was to tell you that you already have arrived? You already have everything you need. It is closer than you think.

Most people search for happiness as if it is at the end of the road somewhere. Many look for happiness through the success they might achieve in their work. Others look for happiness in their next relationship, sexual encounter or even in a new car or home. Some confuse pleasure with happiness.

Happiness is a state of well-being and contentment. 

Pleasure is a feeling of satisfaction, gratification, and enjoyment.

Why You Haven't Got It Yet?

The problem with searching outside of yourself for joy, bliss and happiness is that you are barking up the wrong tree. Thinking that something other than you will bring it to you is the issue. Happiness is already within you. You just have to choose it.

You Have The Choice Everyday

Happy people know what makes them happy. They focus on those things daily. Winning the lottery isn't it either. Happiness is a breath away. Make the choice to choose happiness. Instead of focusing on all the bad things happening in your world right now, try looking at the good that is in your life. The following will help you determine that you already have these things within you, you have just been focusing on the wrong direction.

What Makes You Happy?

Write a list of the things that bring you happiness. Happiness is different than pleasure. Pleasure is what you feel when you have an outside experience, eat something delicious, or experience bliss through sex. Happiness is a feeling that bubbles up from inside, from

seemingly out of nowhere. It can happen when you connect with a friend, send someone a card or gift. Happiness can be just enjoying some time with family, friends or your dog. 

For me, it is being outdoors, dancing in the desert, connecting deeply with my Divine. My connection to nature and God has a lot to do with the state of joy and happiness I am in every day. Happiness is with me wherever I go, no matter where I am and no matter who I am with. My happiness is a state of being from inside of me. I cultivated it over time.

What Can You Do RIGHT NOW To Be Happy?

1. Decide. Once you decide you will not let outside influences mar your day, you choose to focus on being happy. 
2. Choose Happiness every day.
3. Look for the silver lining. When something goes wrong, know that something better is on it's way to you.
4. Look Up! There is always light above. When we spend time looking down at the bleakest of circumstances, we focus on what we don't want rather than what we want. The sun is up in the sky shining somewhere. 
5. Notice the beauty around you. Nature is amazing. Nature grows from within, so do you. 
6. Be grateful. Gratitude will instantly shift you when you tap into your heart and are truly grateful (not just going through the motions). 
7. Forgive everyone! This is one of Louise Hay's famous tenants. It is what I live by. You can't be happy if you still feel hatred, anger or resentment towards an ex, your parents or anyone who has every hurt you. Let it go. It doesn't mean that you are diminishing what happened. Forgiveness is for you. It releases you from the burden of the past.
8. Love yourself! The greatest gift you can give to yourself and the world is the love of yourself. If you can't find a reason to love yourself, see number 9 below.
9. Hire me! If you want to be happy, work with a coach you know is. JenniferElizabethMasters@gmail.com

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Are Bladder Infections A Problem? 5 Simple Cures To Use Today

By Jennifer Elizabeth Masters

Bladder infections often occur following sexual activity for women.  An infection of the kidney, ureter, bladder, kidney or urethra is known as a UTI (urinary tract infection). 

A UTI occurs when bacteria enters the urethra and travels into the kidney or bladder and multiplies. When bacteria multiplies in the bladder there may be a feeling of anxiety and burning urge to void or pee. This urge and burning will increase within hours. Empty the bladder often. It can become very uncomfortable when left untreated. A bladder infection may wake you in the night. 

What Are The Signs Of A Bladder Infection?

1. An urgent need to urinate.
2. A feeling of anxiety and burning upon urination. 
3. Urination that disrupts sleep.
4. Cloudy or blood tinged urine.
5. Fever in children and elderly.
6. Heaviness and achy bladder.

There are several reasons why you might be getting bladder infections after sex. The last one might surprise you. You might think you can get a bladder infection from your partner, you can't. You can get a bladder infection from having sex, but not from being infected by a partner. 

Why Did I Get This? 

1. Urinate right after sex! The act of sex opens up the urethra and can plunge bacteria into the bladder. After eight hours of sleep the bladder can be filled with bacteria that leads to infection. To be safe, rather than falling asleep after sex, always empty your bladder (pee) so that the bacteria doesn't build up. Drink extra water after sex to flush out bacteria.
2. Avoid Cross-Contamination. Physiologically speaking, the candy jar (vagina) is very close to our point of elimination or rectum. If you and your partner engage in rectal stimulation, E. coli can easily enter the vagina if the same finger or penis is also used in the vagina. Shower before engaging in sex. If a shower isn't on your agenda, wash immediately to avoid bacterial contamination before inserting a finger or penis back into the vagina, or touching the clitoris.
3. Just a slip of the tip! Even if you don't engage in rectal sex or stimulation. As stimulation occurs and penetration follows the penis can accidentally slide into the rectum and then back into the vagina. A slip of the tip can be all it takes to infect the bladder with E. coli. Have a soapy wash cloth handy to wash and rinse off before reinserting the penis into the vagina.
4. Anger might be the reason! If you are with the wrong person, you might find you get a bladder infection even if none of the above occur. Anger towards your partner could be the reason you are getting a bladder infection you might be "pissed off". 
5. Sexual trauma or molestation causes repressed anger towards your molester or perpetrator. You may not even be aware of it, which is how it happened for me. I had so many bladder infections that I required bladder neck surgery at the age of 21 to remove scar tissue. The issues of molestation lie dormant under the surface and never go away. If you have never told a soul, these secrets eat away at your soul. They need to come out and be healed. This pain, sorrow, humiliation, guilt, and shame needs to be cleared. This is the deep integrated work that I did for myself and now help others with. You don't have to relive the memory to heal it. Until I healed my past and forgave everyone, I continued to get bladder infections.

Men can get bladder infections from E. coli and/or blockages in the urethra. 

An Ounce of Prevention

Drink plenty of water. Begin your day with the juice of half a lemon in a 16-ounce glass of water to alkalize your body. If you have a bladder infection drink one eight ounce glass of water every hour. Avoid sugar and spicy foods, sugar increases the opportunity for bacteria to multiply and spicy foods can cause firey urine that increases the burning sensation.

Vitamin C taken daily can reduce occurrences and also be a cure when taken in high doses between 1,000 mg and 2,000 mg a day.

Uva Ursi Arctostaphylos uva-ursi is a plant species of the genus Arctostaphylos (manzanita). The leaves of this small shrub have been used by Native Americans for centuries as a mild diuretic, astringent and in the treatment of kidney and bladder infections for cystitis, urethritis, nephritis and pyelitis and in pyelonephritis. Uva Ursi helps to reduce uric acid as well as relieving the pain of kidney stones. It is helpful in the treatment of chronic diarrhea, as a muscle relaxant. Uva ursi soothes, strengthens, tightens irritated and inflamed tissues. 

AZO is a product you can find in any drug store like Rite Aid, WalGreen's or even Walmart. It is a fantastic aid for eliminating the pain and burning that occurs with a bladder infection. Please note, it does not eliminate the bacteria that causes a bladder infection, just the pain, and irritation. It will turn your urine orange. Don't be alarmed. Cost approximately $8.00 per package of 30 tablets.

Pineapple contains large amounts of Bromelain. Bromelain helps reduce inflammation and helps to heal bladder infections because of this enzyme.

Baking Soda and Water is a remedy many have taken and become poisoned. Use caution when drinking baking soda and water. Large amounts of this stuff can lead to a hospital visit or worse. 

Drink between 5  and eight x eight-ounce glasses of water a day. Most people are dehydrated, especially when consuming sodas or caffeinated beverages. It is possible to drink too much water however, gallons of water or too much at one time, isn't healthy either. Remember everything in moderation.

Avoid alcohol, carbonated drinks, artificial sweeteners, sugar and spicy foods while healing a UTI. All of the aforementioned will intensify the burning and discomfort. Engaging in sex with a bladder infection is not recommended. The bladder is ultra sensitive while inflamed and sex may be quite painful during this time.

Cranberry juice is no longer recommended to reduce or treat bladder infections. Several studies showed no reduction in incidence of infection in women who drank cranberry juice or took capsules. I don't recommend juices with sugar added, as sugar increases acidity and will cause bacteria and yeast (candida) to flourish.

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5 Reasons You Need To Know Your Core Values

By Jennifer Elizabeth Masters

Core values may come up in business discussions, but rarely on first dates. If you haven't discussed your core values by your second date or phone call, you could be in for a wild ride and heartbreak. Marriages fail and crime rates rise because people have no idea what their core values are. Without a focus on our values, they weaken.

Knowing what your core values are what each of us needs to have a happy life and long-lasting healthy relationships. 

What are core values? 

Core values are what is important to you. Core values are not to be confused with hobbies or interests. If you are a spiritually minded person, your core values might include healthy lifestyle, meditation, compassion, truth, respect, love, spirituality and give back. Matching your values with another who has similar core values gives you a greater chance of success in your relationship.

There are core values for business. There are core values for families. Before dating someone a second time, it is important to find out what their core values are. It will save you energy, time, and heartbreak down the road. 

Reason #1:

If your core values don't match, you could be wasting your time with someone that doesn't want to get married, have children or has other opposing values from yours.

My List of Core Values

• Love and respect
• Loving Communication
• Commitment
• Monogamy
• Spirituality
• Responsibility/health/happiness/finances
• Compassion
• Sharing
• Acceptance
• Honesty/Authenticity/Transparency
• Hard Work/According To Soul Purpose
• Forgiveness
• Self-Growth and Higher Learning
• Time with family
• Nature/pets/rescues/environmental responsibility
• Conscious Sexual Expression

Write Your List

Your list might be very different than mine. That's okay. You are different than me. Sit down with a pen and paper and write your list of drop-dead must haves. In my Love Yourself Fearlessly program, I help people find out who they are, what they want and don't want so they can recognize what they want in a partner. Until you know yourself and what you truly desire, it will be very difficult for you to manifest what you want, because you aren't clear.

Don't Want To Rock The Boat?

If you are afraid of losing the person you are dating by having a discussion about values and spiritual beliefs, you are already on a rocky slope. Your boat is already filling with water; you just don't know it yet. If when you rock the boat someone falls out, they weren't meant to be in your boat with you.

Why You Need To Know Your Core Values

Reason #2:

When you don't know what is important to you, you might search and never find what you desire. 

Reason #3:

If you are job hunting, and you know you are an honest person, but choose to work for someone that promises blue skies and dreams but doesn't pay taxes, is a hoarder, holds grudges, doesn't pay his employees on time you will not be happy with your job choice. 

Find Out Early

Before selecting a partner for marriage your core values must match, or you will find too many challenges that your marriage fails. Choosing someone that wants what you want gives you a greater chance of success. If you are dating, you could spend months getting to know someone, fall in love and then find you don't have the same desires for a future together. They might want children, and you don't. You might want sex, and they don't.

Talk About Sex First

Too often sex occurs without a discussion before it happens. Sex is an important part of a relationship. Do we wear condoms? Do you have chlamydia or any other STD? Do you have any sexual phobias or perversions? 

Reason #4:

You might find out that your partner prefers kink while you prefer vanilla sex. Though you might stretch your rules and boundaries to accommodate their desires early, a steady diet of something you find abhorrent like being slapped across the ass or elsewhere, might prove too much to endure in a marriage or long-term commitment if it isn't what you want. It is best to find out early what type of sexual experiences your partner likes.

Religion and Spiritual Beliefs

Religion can be a touchy subject. For two people of differing religious backgrounds to meld comfortably, both need to either not practice their religion, be open to conversion or completely accepting of your differences with respect and without judgment. 

However, religion is a subject you want to broach with a partner you are dating. If you are Buddhist, and they are Christian, even if you have great chemistry, it would take tremendous openness for a Christian partner to understand your mindfulness, meditation or spiritual beliefs. There needs to be respect for each others' differences and a state of allowing for them both to occupy the same space. 

Reason #5

Religious differences may take a smaller role at the beginning of a relationship. Sometimes to keep things on an even keel, we may downplay the importance of our spirituality to maintain the relationship with the guy/gal. If one person is Jewish and the other is Christian what religious upbringing will your children have? Even with Catholic and Christian's backgrounds bringing up children can create havoc and discontent when both parties want to raise their children with their religions.  Having a discussion early about religion/spiritual beliefs and practice will save you heartaches and conflict later.

Knowing how important your religion or spirituality is to you is important. Expressing your need to have and practice according to your wishes needs to be an open discussion. 

Author's Note:

Even when a discussion occurs, some people lie about what they believe and want. I married to a Southern man who said he had no problem with my work. After we had been married, it became quite apparent not only did he have a problem with it, he disapproved. He hid his strict Southern Baptist and Christian views and dogma from me until after we were married. 

I have a close connection with The Divine. I pray and meditate daily. I live in gratitude; I work with God and angels in my healing work. I speak to Guides and spirits. This is a deal breaker for me. You can be the greatest guy in the world but if you aren't spiritual, accepting of my work and beliefs, it's game over!


I believe in authenticity. I am not afraid to ask questions. I stand up for what I believe. I don't keep my beliefs a secret. If I am not open

to having a particular type of sex, I say so. An open discussion ensues when I begin to have a connection with a man before I move forward towards sexual intimacy.

Susanne Alexander with co-authors Craig Farnsworth and John Miller  has an extensive list of 56 character qualities in their book, Pure Gold Encouraging Character Qualities in Marriage. They are: 

Acceptance	Creativity	Generosity	Mercy	Spirituality
Assertiveness	Detachment	Gentleness	Moderation	Strength
Beauty	Discernment	Helpfulness	Patience	Tactfulness
Caring	Education	Honesty	Peacefulness	Thankfulness
Chastity	Encouragement	Humility	Perseverance	Thoughtfulness
Commitment	Enthusiasm	Idealism	Purity	Trustworthiness
Compassion	Equality	Integrity	Purposefulness	Truthfulness
Confidence	Excellence	Joyfulness	Respect	Unity
Contentment	Faithfulness	Justice	Responsibility	Wisdom
Cooperation	Flexibility	Kindness	Self-discipline
Courage	Forgiveness	Love	Service
Courtesy	Friendliness	Loyalty	Sincerity

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Why Am I Feeling Such Chaos?

By Jennifer Elizabeth Masters

Chaos always precedes big change. 

You can try to avoid it, side-step it or close your eyes to it, but when change is coming there is no stopping it. There is a feeling afoot that everything that was true yesterday or a week ago is no longer true. Or perhaps you are examining your beliefs, purpose or profession. Whatever is coming up for you right now has an undercurrent of chaos. 

For something new to be true, we have to let go of something that no longer is true for us. The old and familiar is what is shifting. Chaos can make you question everything. You may question if you are in the best profession, or if what you have been doing as an entrepreneur is the best thing for you and your clients? You may be questioning what you will do after your last child leaves the nest.

Letting Go

For me, it is the belief that I have to narrow my niche down as most business coaches will tell you. I am a sum of my parts. Instead of cutting out the shadow self, it must be wholly integrated. Whatever you have tried to shove off to the side is showing up front and center where it can't be missed. 

Your Attention PLEASE!

While in the midst of chaos we feel as if we are lost in a shit-storm of dust debris sitting in a boat without an anchor and a rudder. We might feel as if we are spinning out of control. Anger, angst, anxiety may be coming up for you. All of these things are to get your full attention. You can't continue to ignore that change is occurring. 

Change Is Inevitable

The one thing we can count on is that things will change. The weather changes, the tides change, the sun rises, then sets. The moon changes phases while rising and setting as well. We move 

from season to season and month to month. Nothing stays the same. Babies are born and grow up into adults while we grow and others grow evolve and die. We cannot stop change.

Resisting Causes Suffering

When we resist change we feel like we are standing in a wind storm with our feet anchored firmly behind the rest of our body. We become ungrounded and may even fall. Resistance increases feelings of anxiety and emotional outbursts. Just as our children have to grow up and leave home, our relationship with ourselves and others changes as well. 

We may determine that we need a change. We may find we need to get away. We may find that silence is what holds the most poignant answers to our bevy of questions.

Take The Leap of Faith

Most of us are being asked to find a higher calling. For me, it means refining my work, unearthing my higher purpose, risking feeling silly, uncomfortable and out on a limb. It incorporates all of me rather than some of me. Rather than choosing only some of my gifts, why not include all of them? This way, I serve better. 

What Is Your Soul Purpose?

Are you living your life according to your soul purpose? If you are not, you will feel strong tuggings from deep inside your soul to take that leap of faith and move into your higher calling, even if it is on a part-time basis.

No one can keep you from this purpose, but you. No husband, lover or partner can keep you from doing what you are meant to do. Your fear can stop you. You believe that you don't have what you need. These are all false beliefs of the ego in an attempt to protect you. 

When you step fully into your soul purpose you feel a sense of peace, fulfillment and rightness. It may not feel completely comfortable at first because it is new. Anything new won't feel like coming home because it is new. 

If you are having issues with love, finances or other areas of your life it is because you have one foot on the gas and one foot on the brake. One thing that is for sure, however, is that once your conscious and unconscious mind are in alignment and congruent, everything shows up. The love, clients and money!

You Might Ruffle Feathers

I watched Howard Stern's movie on Netflix last night. Howard stepped out into the void. He was different than everyone else. He marched to his own beat. He wasn't a follower. He was and is unique. He was hated and loved all at the same time, but number one Disc Jockey in the country. Those who hated him listened twice as long to him as those who loved him, because they wondered what he would say next. 

Ruffling feathers moves people beyond their comfort zone. I might ruffle your feathers. You might be in disbelief of what I tell you. I know what is true for me. Reading my work might push you to new limits. I might just be the catalyst you need to ask the right questions. These questions might have you wondering how much higher you are able to leap into your personal void. You will always be supported by The Universe. 

Remember The Cheshire Cat, in Alice in Wonderland? WHO ARE YOU?

Who Am I?

I am a Mystic, healer, hypnotherapist, Akashic Record Reader, Master Energy Healer, lover, mother, author, catalytic coach, Intuitive, Medium and Channel, dancer and daughter. All of my gifts come through when I work with a client. I can't shut off who I am more than I can stop breathing. One thing that is for certain is that I will show up fully when we partner to fulfil your dreams of happiness and complete acceptance of you. Who are you?

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