You Are Beautiful No Matter How You Look

By Jennifer Elizabeth Masters

Beauty is at the core of our being. The more beautiful we feel, the more beautiful we look. Examine a tree in the springtime. A blooming tree knows it is beautiful innately. It doesn't try or attempt to be something it's not to be more beautiful. 

You are beautiful  - a bloom of love at your core.

It's time we felt the beauty that is already ours without a rule book to follow or opinion of another to "know" that we are beautiful. Beauty is a radiance that comes from self-acceptance and diving deep into authenticity and personal power. The more beautiful you feel the more you radiate love and beauty to the world. 

The more loving and accepting of yourself, the more beauty you see in others.

You need to love your body too!

Beauty comes from within. Your soul essence has a natural beauty. It has nothing to do with how large your booty or breasts are, or how small your frame is. Beauty is at the center of each molecule and every atom that is you. 

Many people searching for love are resistant to love and are not aware of it. We reject a heartfelt compliment by saying, "Oh, this old thing?" Or "I don't know how you could say such a thing about me!" 

We often have behaviors that reject love and compliments. We might want love, but when it shows up we send love packing! The exact opposite of what we desire. Old patterns come from fear of intimacy or being hurt, wounded or rejected in the past. 

We can't truly love another until we fill ourselves up with love. Try the following on a daily basis. When someone gives you a compliment, accept it gracefully by saying, a heartfelt, "Thank you." Most people that don't feel loving toward themselves will put down a compliment. We might even push love away. 

Try these new behaviors daily and see how differently that you feel about yourself and others.

1. Affirm your beauty in front of your mirror, "You are beautiful!"
2. Give compliments to others, "Wow, you are so beautiful!" You have no idea what a small statement can do for another person. Giving compliments to others also is something that will make you feel good as well. 
3. Notice the beauty around you. There is beauty in simplicity, in plants, trees, in the face of a stranger, a newborn, an infant in a shopping cart. The more you begin to notice the beauty that surrounds you the better you will feel. 

How To Love Yourself Fearlessly Everyday

When you notice the beauty in others, it is a reflection of the beauty within you. You are beautiful. You are loved. You are so worthy. Give to yourself and then give to others. See the joy on another's face when they hear those three simple words, "you are beautiful."

Jennifer is a love and passion coach and energy healer. She empowers women to love themselves fearlessly so that they show up in their relationships with their love tank full, in love with themselves with plenty to give to another. 

If you keep repeating patterns or aren't happy with yourself, life or relationships set up your free discovery session to see how life could be with your love tank full happy with you! Find Jennifer's books on Amazon.com or set up your free discovery session with Jennifer here. 

Anyone Can Turn You On - Does He Take Your Breath Away?

By Jennifer Elizabeth Masters

Some men pride themselves on their ability to turn on a woman. My assertion is that is easy to do. The key to great sex isn't the ability to turn a woman on. Can you take her breath away?

Women are different than men. They don't heat up like Ferrari's on nitrous oxide. Women are more like diesel engines; slow to warm to even the idea of having sex. If you skip steps while making love, you will only piss her off.

Great sex is not about getting off; it is about the journey. Rushing to the finish line isn't going to cut it for most women. Women need their mind turned on first before you go fumbling with her underwear and poking fingers into places when she isn't ready. 

If you have annoyed her recently, you better pay attention to what you ignored, put off or didn't do. Telling her you are sorry does not mean you lost your machismo. As a matter of fact, the ability to give a genuine and heartfelt apology shows intelligence and an aptitude for what a woman wants and needs.

If a woman is upset with her man, she won't be the least bit interested in sex. Get over yourself! Women don't think like men. They don't look to sex to relieve stress, anxiety or anger. Women need to feel close to their men first, have trust, intimacy (which is not to be confused with sex) and not be afraid of you. If you bash her self-esteem at every turn or threaten her with physical harm, you have a serious problem. Get some help for your anger issues before you hurt someone. Hitting, or pushing a woman, or even threatening physical harm to a woman does not make you more of a man, nor does it show how much in love with her you are. It is the exact opposite. 

NEWSFLASH: Spanking May Not Turn Her On At All!

Since 50 Shades of Gray came out, many men have the misimpression that slapping a woman's ass is a turn on for all women. I have news for you smacking a woman who has been molested, or abused will not be a turn on at all! If you do so one time without asking, it might just be the last. Just because you saw it in a movie, does not make it right for her.

Real Men

Real men can be soft, gentle and loving. They can open their hearts to be vulnerable while still maintaining their machismo. Real men will tell their woman how beautiful she is and how often he thinks of her when he is away from her. This is what a woman needs to hear. Men that are afraid to tell their woman that she is beautiful have low self-esteem. I have had several men tell me that they refuse to tell their wives they are beautiful because they are afraid she'll have sex with another man. She needs to hear you love to look at her. She needs to know you think she is beautiful. Tell her. Being afraid she will sleep with another man is ridiculous! If a woman is going to have an affair, it won't be because you told her she is beautiful. How long have you been together? 

A woman wants to know she looks beautiful to you, not that she makes you hot. Anyone can turn on a man. 

Leaving a woman gasping for breath after a kiss, or a love-making session is so much more meaningful than just getting her to breathe heavily. Here are ten ways to take her breath away. 

1. Buy her flowers for no reason. Make sure they are her favorite type and color. Ask questions.  Get to know what she likes rather than assume. I know one man who gave his wife the wrong color roses for over twenty years because he assumed it was what she liked. ASK!
2. Make reservations for dinner on your own. Plan a romantic evening with theater or concert tickets and dinner. 
3. Write a romantic note with an invitation and give it to her the days before, so she can think about it.
4. Buy rose petals and candles for your bedroom. 
5. Run her a bath and light some candles. Let her bathe without your interference. 
6. Give her a glass of red wine to drink in the tub so she can luxuriate. Red wine is a turn on (just don't get her drunk it could have the reverse effect).
7. Plan a picnic at a beautiful spot. Take care of all the details yourself so she doesn't have to do a thing but enjoy. 
8. In the morning before you leave for work, make the bed, put the toilet seat down and leave a single rose and love note on her pillow. Tell her all the things you love about her and how you want to take care of her when you get home.
9. Give her a massage. Put her hair up with a hair clip. Place a towel underneath her. Start with her back, using olive or coconut oil (something natural). Avoid touching between her legs, you can tease her massaging her buttocks, thighs, and calves. Don't forget her arms, hands and feet. Have her flip over to her back. Take turns giving without expecting anything in return. Sex may happen, but don't expect it. 
10. Ask before touching her breasts or vulva. When a man asks permission, it shows respect, rather than ownership. In Tantra, permission is always asked before venturing towards an area. Trust is developed and deepened when you ask permission, even if you have been together for years. "May I touch your breasts?" This one thing might be the way you take her breath away tonight!

Jennifer Elizabeth Masters is a love and passion coach. If you don't have passion in your life, there are many things you can do to rekindle the fires and turn up the heat. 

Jennifer's foundational work is self-esteem. When we love ourselves, we are much more satisfied with our lives and therefore, our partners. We are more available to give and receive love when we come to the party already full. If you don't love you, maybe it's time to contact Jennifer to change your perspective permanently. E-mail Jennifer private here.

Being Beautiful and Happy With You

By Jennifer Elizabeth Masters

Being happy with you, the way you are is probably the biggest gift that you can give yourself. Teaching people how to love themselves is the cornerstone of my work. Why do I do it? Because I used to hate myself. I was filled with feelings of guilt, shame and unworthiness. I know how debilitating those feelings can be. They can take over our thoughts, create illness in our bodies and destroy our relationships. In essence love of the self is the biggest gift you can give yourself and your family. When you love and accept yourself the way you are, you become so much more of a benefit to everyone you come into contact with as well.

You can look good without having to spend a fortune. No matter how much money I make, I am thrifty without being squeaky. I used to spend thousands in one shopping spree. Since I healed my shopping addiction, I avoid malls and shop in small boutiques. Now I find great joy finding bargains at consignment shops for clothing and my home. I also shop at country antique stores. You would be surprised what you can find in those out of the way places!

My mother and I used to go to the trendy village of Yorkville, in Toronto where there was an abundance of high-end consignment shops. My mother taught me to look for well made clothing, rather than trendy styles. 

I find that I have more compassion for others as well and can give more freely to those who need a little help when I don't spend every cent I earn on make-up and clothing. Giving to others also feels good. It opens our hearts. If we are generous with our money, we are more generous with love as well.

When you love yourself, you take care to get enough sleep. You do your nails not for your boyfriends or husbands, but because it makes YOU feel better about you. It does not take any longer to put real clothes on versus a sweat suit and will make you feel infinitely better about yourself as well. Dress for you. Dress to please yourself. Wear clothes that fit rather than hang on you. Many of us buy clothing that is too big, trying to hid behind a baggy shirt or top. 

How Can I Love Myself?

1. Get enough sleep. Don't stay up watching movie after movie and then drag yourself up to bed at 3:00 AM. Go to bed at the same time every night. Get up at the same time every morning. Your body will feel so much better for it. You will also have more of an interest in sex if you get enough sleep. 
2. Eat within the first hour of waking up. This will wake up your metabolism. When you wait hours to eat your first meal, your body thinks you are starving and will store more fat. You will also end up devouring muscle to feed your body. It is not a healthy cycle to get into. Eat within the first hour of waking.
3. Exercise daily. Walk outside. Take your dog for a walk. Get yourself outside. Nature, fresh air and exercise will help you feel more valuable, and healthy. Moving is something that many of us stop doing as we age. It is exactly the opposite of what our body needs. Keep moving. Do it for you! Moving daily keeps your body well-oiled. 
4. Paint your toe nails. Even if you live alone, take care of you. Pamper yourself and give yourself a manicure. You don't have to spend a ton of money on a weekly manicure, do it yourself! Looking down and seeing your pink toe-nails can make you smile, feel pretty and even sexy!
5. Recycle! There are tons of second-hand, nearly new consignment shops around. You can look smart without spending your paycheck. I buy better quality clothes second-hand than I could afford new. Many people buy clothes and
   
   never wear them, recycling at consignment shops. You are doing two great things by buying from a consigner: you are helping out the environment and the seller by purchasing their cast-offs!
6. Wear pretty clothes! If you wear clothes that are big, bulky and frumpy, you will feel big, bulky and frumpy! Dress for joy! I was recently in San Diego with a client. When I stopped by in my second-hand dress that made me feel - oh so happy, she noticed it too. She told me I looked sexy! 
7. Wear pretty night clothes. Sleeping in sweats makes you feel frumpy. Dress to feel happy, pretty but comfortable all at the

   

   You might not stand like this, but it will make
   you feel pretty and sexy!
   

   same time. I love soft fabrics, as well as comfort, but I always wear something pretty at night - for ME!
8. Dress for you! Wear what you love and it will show. I don't follow fashion rules or trends. I wear what looks good on me and makes me feel good. I don't dress for anyone else than myself. I recommend wearing colors that suit you. Everyone has colors that they look best in. Stick to the color pallet that suits you best, rather than following color trends.

It is easy to sink into lower vibrational feelings, not shower, do our hair, makeup or dress attractively. When we continue to throw on sweats rather than something pretty, we can feel unattractive. Feeling good is an upward spiral. We think good thoughts, we feel better. We get up and shower, and that makes us feel better. We put on makeup and dress in something pretty that fits well and we feel even better.

Not dressing to feel good becomes a downward spiral. We wake up and feel bad, so we don't shower. We throw on sweats because no one will see us anyway and then feel even worse. Instead dress to feel good - for you. Shower to feel refreshed and positive for you. Do these things so that you feel better, more positive and your day will go better.

Focusing on the material is not what this article is about. Being materialistic is a very different discussion than the one we are having. When we are feeling depressed that is the very time we need to pull out the dress or outfit that makes us feel terrific, beautiful and attractive. Paint your nails not because you are going out - but because you are staying home and it makes you feel pretty, attractive and girly.

No matter our body type, we can find clothes that fit and make us look more attractive, which in turn helps us feel better. Clothes don't make us, but they can detract or add depending on how we feel in our clothing. When we throw a dress on instead of work-out clothes, or even a pair of crazy pants with fringe, we feel happy, glad to be alive and it shows. 

Jennifer Elizabeth Masters is a coach, empowering women and the men that ask to feel happier more connected and find their spiritual purpose. When we live our life on purpose rather than allowing life to happen to us, everything shifts. Jennifer is a compassionate coach who lovingly roots up your issues and will call you on your crap when you are standing on a very large pile of it. If you are stuck, depressed, unhappy, not sure of what the heck life is all about, Jennifer will guide you into living a life fully expressed in joy in each and every breath! Click here, to be connected with her private e-mail to set up your first session or discovery session now.

Loving Yourself Makes You More Beautiful

By Jennifer Elizabeth Masters

Want to look and feel more beautiful? All it takes is a little more love. 

Most of us are our own worst critic. We focus on the little bulge around our middle, our crows feet or other imperfections. It is amazing how letting go of trying to be perfect will take years off your face. You begin to look softer, younger and certainly more radiant.

When we focus  on our negative traits, we create acidity in our body. We worry, become uptight, rather than relaxed about life. Our anxiety over the small details not being perfect change everything we eat into acid. Even our thoughts are acidic. Acidity creates disease. Cancer and other diseases thrive in an acid environment.

To be able to love yourself, you have to let go of a few things. When we recognize that it's okay that we aren't perfect, there is only one being that fits that bill, and it ain't us! We can relax a little more. We can be the best mom we can be, without having to be perfect.We can be the best life coach we can be without having to be perfect. 

I will tell you a little story........  I used to try to be perfect. I used to look to others to validate me, especially my parents, even into adulthood. When I realized that others do not create my self worth, I do, I let go of trying to please anyone else but myself. It does not mean I am selfish, I just don't have to be liked by you, to love myself. I'm okay with that. Not everyone is going to like someone like me. I might push buttons, make you cry by being near you. That could make you feel uncomfortable. 

I let go of looking to others for my self worth. I look within instead. I know I am loved. I have a deep connection with The Divine inside me. I feel deeply connected to nature, all the time. This connection fills me up. I don't feel empty or lonely - ever. That changed for me in 2012. I know I am never, ever alone. I know I am always loved. I love and accept all parts of myself - even though I have faults. I don't have to be perfect to love me. I have come to accept myself as I am, without trying to change me. It also means I don't attempt to CHANGE OTHERS either. That is what unconditional love is. TO LOVE NO MATTER WHAT. Love is not based on good behavior. 

When my oldest son and his girlfriend were going through a difficult time, they lived with us for a while. Klarissa was a sweet and beautiful young woman, but had very low self esteem. She agreed to help me with my website (my old one). She was extremely creative and gifted in many ways. When she wanted my feedback, she found my ADD distracting. Yes, I have the innate ability to focus on 10 things at one time.....  maybe not effectively, but I am easily distracted and I have to work very diligently to stay on point, focused and complete a task. Amazing isn't it that I have written two books and have created so many blogs? It still surprises me at times. Some of my blogs may be very focused and to the point, where others tend to wander a little. I have let go of the perfectionism.

Klarissa said to me at one point when she was working with me, "You may find your ADD cute, but it is very distracting!" What she failed to understand, is that I had embraced my imperfection. I knew I had ADD, but I loved that part of me anyway. Instead of trying to excise it off me, like cutting off an arm (which would be excruciatingly painful.....  I loved that imperfection.) I had to work diligently to focus on one thing at t time and complete it. When I return e-mails I can fixate on one thing, and skip over (or look like I ignored) other questions. I had to explain that I was not trying to be cute with her, but instead I was being loving and accepting of my faults. I had work diligently to stop bashing myself for those things that didn't smell so good, or that weren't absolutely pristine and beautiful. I let go of trying to be perfect. I softened my gaze towards myself. I dropped the proverbial baseball bat and magnifying glass. 

Most people focus on their faults and make them bigger than they are. When you begin to love your faults, they become less of an issue. You learn to adapt, or work around those things, like a fear of numbers (which I used to have). I cleared those issues and feel better about them. 

Softening your gaze when you look at yourself can be as simple as to stop being such a tough task master for YOU! Look at yourself as if you were a newborn infant. You would not beat up a newborn for crying, or pooping in it's diaper would you? Of course not! So stop beating yourself up love those little idiosyncrasies that you have. We all have them. Stop worrying about what others think about you. It is none of your business anyway.

When you relax and let go of the perfection, you will become more radiant, look younger, more beautiful and live with less pain in your body. Most people think I am 20 years younger than I am....  tally up the age of my kids, you can think I started my family at 14, but I was a little older than that!

Remember you are beautiful. You are worthy. You are love. Love all of you. Accept all of you. Stop beating yourself up with that baseball bat. Stop looking at yourself under the magnifying glass. No one looks very good under the scrutiny of a magnifier.  

When we look outside of ourselves for love and acceptance, we will never find it. When we look outside of ourselves for happiness, we will never find permanent or lasting happiness. We may find it for a short while, but it will not last, because our self criticism will show up. We will judge, beat up and scrutinize every detail and beat it up till it dies.

True radiance comes from radiating the love that you are from within. Join me in radiating your inner beauty and looking 20 years younger than we are, live life in joy today. Set up a time to meet with me so you can begin to soften your gaze and love you. If not now, WHEN?

Jennifer Elizabeth Masters is a catalyst for healing and growth. She is the author of Orgasm For Life, a book to help you live yours with passion. She is also a certified life coach, Intuitive, hypnotherapist and Neurolinguistic Programming Practitioner. She assists others to love themselves, using the tools she created while learning how to love herself and overcome addiction, trauma and self hatred. In the process of healing herself she also healed insomnia, depression, Fibromyalgia, Epstein Barr syndrome and other pains in her body. She is almost _____ and lives pain free!

Contact Jennifer about your FREE 30 minute discovery session to find out if you are a good fit for her program. Not everyone is. You have to be committed to heal, to feel better and to want to be happy!

Living Life Fully Expressed

By Jennifer Elizabeth Masters

Why would you want an orgasm for your life? 

What if the greatest sex ever, was not you getting off, but giving to another instead. What if the greatest satisfaction you can feel is the joy of knowing your partner had an amazing time touching you, kissing you and being held by you. What if you could feel this good every day - even when you are not having sex? Buy The Book Now!

I used to be negative, a glass is half-empty kind of girl. I complained about my friends, parents and husbands (yes, plural I was a very slower learner). I used to dwell on what I didn't do, what I did do that wasn't good enough and long for the future, when I was sure to be happy. The weird thing is that when I stopped looking over my shoulder at the past, beating myself up for my stupidity and flakiness...... I began to live in the present. I began to enjoy life more. I didn't miss everything that was going on. I began to show up. Not only did I show up, I began to be ON TIME! This was a huge thing for someone with huge control issues. 

Why We Control Others

Did you know the reason we control others is because we are afraid. We attempt to control our environment and other people, usually because we are afraid they will leave us. I have heard some men tell me that they will not tell their wife of 36 years that she is beautiful, because they are afraid she will go off and schtup some other guy. That is Yiddish for the horizontal mambo.  Can you imagine having such fear that a woman who has been married to you for 36 years, would leave you if you told her she was beautiful? This blows my mind. Men, tell your wife, lover, partner that she/he is beautiful! Women, tell your man, lover, partner that they are gorgeous. That they turn you on. That they smell good. We all want to be loved and accepted. Of course, we have to love and accept ourselves first. (Yes, I do digress, not really). 

When we feel inept, or insecure, we tend to live in fear. We fear we aren't good enough. We fear our penis is too small, or won't work. (I don't but some do). We fear that we are too fat, our stomach is saggy, or we look old. We fear that our partner's won't accept us when we are at our worst. We fear that our partner won't love us when they find out who we truly are. (Some people's worst fear.) 

When you are authentic - transparent and honest about who you are, you don't wonder what you have told to whom. You can relax. You can be yourself. Ahhhh! Inner peace and joy results. The joy of being authentically you. This is what I delight in helping my clients achieve. Did you know that the more you love yourself and accept yourself, the more easily you will have an orgasm - women?

Men, when you love yourself and accept yourself completely, you don't have to suck in your gut - although most women prefer men with a six pack..... we know we don't necessarily have the perfect models' body either. Loving and accepting ourselves means we are comfortable in our own skin. Being with your partner becomes an art form, moving together, in unison, in synch, where sex becomes a spiritual experience rather than just banging body parts together. This is what an orgasm for life is. Living life to the fullest, authentically as you are. Being true to yourself, grounded in the present, in joy for being fully alive.

An orgasm for your life, could mean that you are fully alive breathing in the gift of life and enjoying life for all that it has to offer. What a kick that is! I know. It is what I do! I love you guys. Thank you for buying my book. Thank you for reading my blog. Thank you for sharing my posts. This book needs to get out into the world. Share it with whoever you feel might be interested. Thank you.

You make it worth while. 

Jennifer is not your average life, love and sex coach. She is a hypnotherapist, Master energy healer, Neurolinguistic Programming Practitioner, channel, Mystic and Spiritual mentor. She is an ordained minister. She performs weddings and funerals. She helps men and women heal sexual dysfunction, insecurities and codependency. Living life to the fullest is what Jennifer can help you do. Happiness is an inside job. It is not a relationship, a dress, or a car. It is a way of life. Her website is: http://www.JenniferElizabethMasters.com  To schedule a private session you can do so through her e-mail: JenniferElizabethMasters@gmail.com

Final Assignment

By Jennifer Elizabeth Masters

Volunteering changes us. It opens our hearts and helps us to see what others are doing in a world different from ours. I am posting my daughter's final assignment and essay about volunteering. Her insight is inspiring.

For the next few days, I will be traveling and caught up getting my daughter established in Colorado. Her 18th birthday is on Wednesday. I will return to my life here in California and regular writing on Friday. If I am able to post during my travels, I certainly will. Life inspires me to write. 

In the meantime, It is my hope that you will visit my website, my videos on You Tube and consider my group coaching program that begins on May 31st. My book will be launching soon. I hope you will purchase it on the first day and spread the word to make this a global best-seller, so that men and women will heighten their ecstasy and improve their sex lives, so that they are happier in their relationships. 

I am posting a photo of my daughter with her blue hair. Her current hair color. Many have judged her because of the color of her hair. It was a valuable lesson to me, to see how other's view themselves. When we judge others we also are judgmental of ourselves. Remember to never judge a book by its cover, you might be surprised at it's contents.

Ariel at the Renaissance Fair, May, 2014

Here is my daughter's s Awesome essay.

Ariel Resuta

Credit 55/18/14Reflection EssayThroughout my experience of volunteering, I learned how to become more evolved in my community. I am always a hard worker when I am truly invested in the job I am doing; luckily for me, I absolutely love animals and books. The volunteering was indeed a fantastic way to get me out into the community; it was all in all a positive experience for my myself. I enjoyed working with other people, but I also enjoyed the time to myself; during the hours I was working at the library in Kern County. I tend to be reclusive at times when I am around new people, but for the time I spent volunteering I was very excited to work with new people. Although, it was mostly just a lone wolf kind of experience, I still enjoyed it. Unfortunately, working hard did come at a price. Boy, did my back ache from picking up those heavy books and bending over to place them on the shelves. I felt like such an old woman after I was finished, I needed an Advil. 

My supervisor had repeatedly told me that I could take breaks, but I continued to work through til the very end. Time flew by as I re shelved all of those books; I felt as if I wanted to read every book in that section. I was very interested in the task at hand, as was I at the horse rescue center. When I went to the Francis horse rescue in November it was still quite hot outside; I gave one of the horses an award winning bath. I, myself, have had four horses, eight dogs, and eight cats, in my lifetime and I have loved each and every one of them unconditionally throughout the years. I enjoy their company, just the animal’s present calms me down. Animals have become the center of my existence; they carry so much love within them, that it just passes through whomever they touch. At first I looked at this credit as just a requirement to graduate and now I see it for what it really was, a chance to make a slight difference within my community and myself. I had looked at this credit as the one dreadful thing holding me back from graduating and then I became aware that not doing the credit, would mean I was the one holding myself back. Don’t get me wrong, I am not exactly the librarian type but books and animals are a passion of mine, and I fully intend on continuing this passion of mine. 

Life is beautiful but it’s complicated, I did not want to learn anything from this volunteering experience, but I did. I have learned that anything worth having doesn’t come easy. Since the first week of freshman year, I couldn’t wait to be a senior with a whole lot of responsibility. I have reanalyzed my existence up until this point and wondered why I wanted to grow up so much. We as humans, always want to live in the future; most people can barley live in the present. I learned that I need to live in the now and when a problem presents itself I need to handle it right off, the bat instead of waiting until the last possible moment whilst freaking out. Thank you for allowing me this opportunity to redeem my former qualities that had been long forgotten. 

You can visit Jennifer's website: http://www.JenniferElizabethMasters  Don't forget to sign up for Jennifer's group coaching program where you will get live coaching at a fraction of the cost of private coaching. It is a great opportunity to avail yourself to Jennifer's insight and guidance. May 31st - Group Coaching program for 6 weeks. Put it on your calendar. $397 for 6 weeks 90 minutes of live coaching each week.

Positive Body Image Contributes To Better Sex

By Jennifer Elizabeth Masters

Are you naked healthy? Do you feel good clothed or naked? Or do you quickly undress and slip under the covers and hope no one notices? 

We may long to have the perfect body. Looking around, there are not many that have a perfect model's body. It is important to feel beautiful just to be you. It is possible. You don't have to be a bathing suit model like Adam Gates, above. (This is my son in the photo.) Great genes? Maybe. He works very hard to maintain his body. He is a fitness coach AND a model. It is his profession. 

The truth is that we can feel good about our own body by being accepting. It does not take a perfect body to feel sexy and attractive. The happier you are being you, the happier you will be with your body. The more comfortable you are with your body, the better you will feel getting naked.

Being naked exposes not only your body, but your confidence or lack of. When you feel good about yourself, it does not matter that your breasts may be resting on your abdomen, or that your belly is round rather than flat. Looking at yourself naked, do you see beauty or do you see fat and ugly? Changing your perspective and self talk will change the way you feel without changing who you are.

Standing in front of the mirror telling yourself that you love you can feel a little funny. Put your hands on your butt and tell yourself, "I love my butt!" Put your hands on your belly and tell yourself, "I love my belly!" Standing naked in front of the mirror look at yourself and mean it when you say, " I love all of me!" The more love you give to yourself, the more accepting you will be.

As we get older, age can shift body parts. Many of us don't look quite like we did when we were in high school. Yet, how we view ourselves is more important. Rather than focusing on your belly being fat, why not accept yourself as you are and say, "I love my body." The more loving and accepting of yourself, as you are - the better. The more comfortable you are with your body, the more you will enjoy sex when it happens. If you are busy focusing on how you look naked, you won't be able to let go and enjoy the moment. For women, that can mean the difference between having an orgasm or not.

Remember the key ingredient to great sex is being able to surrender to the moment and focus on the pleasure. You won't be able to when you are thinking about how heavy you have gotten. Some women have a poor body image but have gorgeous bodies. It is a matter of perspective. 

Atlanta photo shoot - Adam Gates

When we use negative self-talk (telling ourselves we are fat, or look awful) is not supportive. We can become depressed and not want to walk or go to the gym. Instead love yourself enough to want to get your body moving. Beating ourselves up for the cookies, chocolate and ice cream we ate over the winter is not going to help us feel better. Instead use the opposite tactic. Affirm that you love your body. You love your body so much that you will take care of it like you would a little baby. You wouldn't give an infant Oreo cookies and ice cream daily, would you? Of course not! Cut back on one of your indulgences a little each day. Allow yourself a cheat day once a week to have something you love. 

Eating healthy and regular exercise is important. Taking care of our health can keep us young, vibrant and sexually active longer. If we become overweight, our heart may labor and we may have high blood pressure. Blood pressure medicine can impede love-making by getting in the way of an erection. 

Limiting sweets and eating more fruit, vegetables and drinking more water can help us become healthier. The immediate issue though is how we feel about our bodies. 

Here are a few suggestions to assist you to feel better about your body right now:

1. Stop telling yourself that you are heavy, fat or overweight.
2. Begin telling yourself how beautiful you are - daily.
3. Look at yourself in the mirror each day naked, and say, "I LOVE MY BODY!"
4. If you are wanting to lose weight; instead of focusing on the negative, tell yourself that you are getting thinner and thinner every day! You mind will move into action and make it so. (This is a hypnotherapy tactic to access your unconscious mind). 
5. Every night before you go to sleep tell yourself: "I love myself just the way I am!" Repeat this at least three times before sleep.

Remember that you can't let go and enjoy sex to the fullest when you are focusing on how heavy you think you are. We need to get out of our heads and into our bodies. Instead, when you are sprawled across your lover's bed affirm to yourself: "I am a beautiful woman." or for men, "I am a gorgeous hunk of a man!" You will be surprised how this consciousness permeates the room. Don't be surprised if you are told, "Wow you are so beautiful!"

Jennifer Elizabeth Masters is a life, love and sex coach. Her website is:  http://www.JenniferElizabethMasters.com She empowers women and men to love themselves fearlessly. She helps women overcome sexual dysfunction and low self esteem. When we love and accept ourselves completely, we become stronger, more confident and powerful individuals. We stop looking for love outside of ourselves, because we find it inside instead. When we love and accept ourselves, we become a magnet for love!

When we love ourselves unconditionally, all of our life gets easier. We step into the FLOW, and stop pushing our energy to MAKE THINGS HAPPEN. We become allowing. Living in the present. The key to happiness is love of self. It all begins within. Jennifer is a catalyst for empowerment and self love. Healing her own issues makes her sensitive to what you are experiencing. She is intuitive cutting to the root issues quickly.