9 Break-up Strategies To Help You Move On

By Jennifer Elizabeth Masters

Breakups aren't easy. Whether you have dated weeks, years or months a breakup will leave a painful void where there was once laughter, love, affection and fun. It is natural and normal to feel this way. 

With social media and texting, getting in contact can be so easy and yet, so difficult to resist when you know you need to.

Stalking your ex's pages to see what they are up to is like putting pins under your fingernails, it is torture. There is always a silver lining, we just have to look for it.

What you do post-breakup can change your life in positive ways. These are my best heart-healing strategies for overcoming and moving on from a relationship gently. 

1. Give yourself time to feel. When we have experienced life together and their toothbrush is no longer in your bathroom, you will feel more than a brief pang. You are going to miss them. Allow yourself to feel the loss and grieve. Sadness will come up even when you know the relationship didn't work on some level. Thinking that you shouldn't feel is crazy thinking. If you had sex, laughs, fun, enjoyed each other's company and shared your lives, there is a loss. Allow yourself time to grieve. When sadness comes up allow yourself to feel it, rather than attempting to stuff it down. 

Cry if you need to. Crying is a tremendous healing release, allowing stress to leave your body and calming your nervous system down. It's okay. Crying will not kill you. It is natural. 

2. Assess. Spend some time examining the relationship without judgment. Each experience we have with others brings us lessons and teaches us more about ourselves. 

Look back at what you were attracted to, what you liked and didn't like. Assessing will help you find clarity about what you want. Journal about what was good in the relationship. No relationship is all bad. Until you know what you want, need and don't want you will continue to attract people that you are compatible with you. 

No one is perfect, but there are some characteristics we might not be able to accept. Did you think you could handle a smoker, but found out you couldn't? Are you a drinker and they weren't? What are your deal breakers? Ask yourself the following questions about your most recent relationship:

• What surprised me?
• What was different from other relationships?
• What would I like from this relationship in my next?
• Was this person attractive?
• How did they treat you?
• What characteristics or values didn't mesh with yours?
• What did you find you must have?
• What did you learn about yourself?
• How did this relationship help you grow?
• What are you grateful for?

3. Don't start dating too soon. Many people jump from one relationship into another because they are afraid of being alone  (this used to be me.) When we are afraid to be alone with ourselves, it is because we don't feel loved. We look for someone else to fill that void in us which leads to disaster. 

The worst thing we can do after a breakup is to get back in the saddle before we have had a chance to grieve and assess what happened and what we want. Take some time to visit friends you haven't seen in a while. If you gave up yoga for your relationship - get back into it. Nurture yourself, rather than trying to fill a void or emptiness with mindless dating. 

Dating too soon means you haven't taken the time to heal your heart; it isn't fair to yourself or the next person you date.

4. Be Definitive. Once you have broken up, don't second-guess yourself or your partner's decision. Attempting to reconcile or being wishy-washy after a break-up does you no good. 

5. Don't be surprised if you crave your ex. A relationship loss is like giving up an addiction; it has a chemical and scientific basis. Find something else to fill the cravings and the void that supports you in positive ways. Do your best to avoid filling this void with sweets, carbs or foods that you know don't support you.

6. Exercise. If you feel the need or craving come up, go outside for a walk, run or do some yoga. Support yourself by getting some healthy exercise. Play music that helps you feel happy. Exercise with music allows you to exert yourself a little more and lifts you up when you are feeling down. 

7. Meditate. Meditation will help calm any anxiety you feel or misgivings regarding your breakup. Meditation relieves stress and can help get you grounded. Breathe deeply, filling your lungs to the top and exhale slowly. Continue to breathe deeply and slowly following your breath. If thoughts come up, just allow them to float off in a bright colored balloon, rather than to critique the fact that you had a thought. 

Envision light is coming through the top of your head into your heart and then send it down through your core, your legs, your feet into the center of the earth. Having a spiritual practice can help you feel happier with you and your life. 

8. Nurture yourself. Self-love is necessary for a happy life and healthy relationships. Have compassion for yourself. 

Giving to yourself in positive ways will help soothe your spirit and your mind. Instead of beating yourself up, use positive affirmations that are loving, caring and kind. Take a candle lit bath in Epsom salts before bed. A soak in a bath tub can relax your body and allow you time to do inward and meditate calming you right before bed so that you sleep better.

How To Be Your Own Lover After A Breakup

9. Be grateful. Be grateful for the love you shared. Be grateful for what you received. Be grateful for what you learned about yourself. Be grateful that you are still alive. Gratitude is one of the fastest ways to open our hearts and feel love. When we look for it, there is always something to be grateful for even if it is that we learned what we don't want in our next relationship. Once we have a love for someone, love is always present - even if they aren't with us any longer. 

Breakups aren't easy. Navigating your breakup using healthy strategies, surrounding yourself with positive, supporting people and keeping your body moving will help you process your emotions in a healthy way. 

Not every relationship is destined to go the distance. Know that this ending is also a new beginning as you are that much closer to finding what you need and desire.

My heart goes out to you. 

Jennifer is a healer and love coach that clears limiting beliefs, heart ties, blocks and self-sabotage from the past so that you can have the life, love, and happiness you desire. A healed healer herself, she helps others overcome anxiety, depression, low self-esteem, guilt, shame, insecurities that block you from having healthy relationships and happiness. 

Connect with Jennifer to schedule your free discovery

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Happy Here, Happy Anywhere:

The Step-By-Step Guide to Overcoming Anxiety, Depression, and Unhappiness Without A Perscription!

7 Minutes To Happiness

By Jennifer Elizabeth Masters

In just seven minutes a day, you can shift your mind, body and soul to a state of well-being and happiness. The human body was wired to move. Dance, swift-paced walking, and exercise daily can do it for you in just 7-minutes. The New York Times created a work-out Scientifically proven to shift you in just 7-minutes a day. 

Exercise has a profound effect on happiness, depression, stress relief, Alzheimer's and even memory loss. Exercise has been proven to relieve depression. In a study cited in Shawn Anchor's book The Happiness Advantage three groups of patients treated their depression with medication, exercise or a combination of the two. The results were remarkable: All three groups improved similarly in their happiness levels early. The follow-up assessments showed radically different results. 

The groups were then tested six months later to assess their relapse rate. Of those who had taken the medication alone, 38 percent had slipped back into depression. Those in the combination group were doing only slightly better, with a 31 percent relapse rate. The biggest shock, though, came from the exercise group: Their relapse rate was only 9 percent.

If you sit at a desk all day, chances are you aren't getting enough exercise. When your body moves you receive the benefits of endorphins, fat burning, helping your body become more flexible, stronger increasing cardiovascular health, longevity and eliminating aches and pains caused by sitting. Science has shown that even if your body shows no physical signs of exercise you still feel better!

Developing Healthy Habits Leads To Happiness

Self-discipline is part of a happy lifestyle. When we regularly forgo the ice cream in lieu of a green drink we feel better. Our confidence rises when we feel good about our choices. When you choose a healthy routine and food not only will you feel better, you look better and will live a longer happier life.

The New York Times workout only takes seven minutes. 

Not Interested In A Workout?

My workout isn't Scientifically proven, but in the time it takes to dance to three songs a day I promise you that you will feel better, look better and be happier than you were living a sedentary lifestyle. 

I began dancing in October while walking my dogs. In less that the time it takes for three songs to play, you can be fit in months. The great thing about dancing is that it is free! 

I haven't visited the gym since then and my body is more fit, toned and slender than after months at the gym. My arms became strong and toned as well. We look younger when our body is fit. 

I prefer dancing to bending over machines in the gym. If you are in Atlanta this week, you can see for yourself, meet me at The Inner Space this Friday night from 7:00 PM - 8:00 PM in person. 

In just 7-minutes a day you can change your perspective. Ready? Let's GO! If you liked this article, please share it with a friend. 

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When we lovingly accept ourselves as we are with all our faults and flaws, we have healthy self-esteem. 

Jennifer Elizabeth Masters is the author of the forthcoming book: HAPPY HERE, HAPPY ANYWHERE, The Guide To Overcoming Depression and Anxiety Naturally. 

What Clients Are Saying About Jennifer's Work

May 26, 2016

I wanted to let you know that I am feeling absolutely wonderful spiritually and about myself! After our session yesterday I felt energized and HAPPY for the first time in years! Despite my Fibromyalgia pain, I feel light, like a huge weight has been lifted from me. It's so nice to feel like I can actually take a deep breath and breathe. Life feels happy and optimistic again (I haven't felt this way in over 10 years!). Thank you, thank you, THANK YOU! 

I hope you are having a wonderful day, and I truly appreciate everything you have done for me!

Love and Light,
Lauren

From Lauren's Mother...

Hi Jennifer,
I am so amazed and delighted in the difference that you have helped Lauren achieve thus far!!!  Her whole aura and energy has totally changed.  I saw Lauren smile & really laugh for the first time since Nov 2015!!!  I'm so grateful for you and your wonderful, kind and compassionate work with her. You are a God-Send.

Also, the energy in the whole house has changed, it feels sweet and clear, no negativity hanging around. I want to thank you with all my heart for helping her.  Your gifts are so abounding.

Julie

10 Easy Things Scientifically Proven To Make You Happy

By Jennifer Elizabeth Masters

“Happiness is a state of activity. Kahlil Gibran

Happy people are more productive and accomplish more. Once we become happy with ourselves and our life, we feel a sense of satisfaction, fulfillment and joy just by being. When we are unhappy, we consistently focus on what we don't have and the
problems that surround us. Shifting our focus is one of the fastest ways to feel happier. The following suggestions are based on Scientific studies. Try doing one new thing each week and watch how differently you feel about life and you. 

1. Exercise. Daily exercise of even 7 minutes can be enough to shift you from feeling sad, or depressed. What works for me is daily dancing. I dance to three songs, and I am good for the day! Music raises our spirits while exercise raises our mood, heart rate, and vibration. (Pick happy songs like Happy by Pharell Williams). Make exercise a daily priority and be happier every day.

The Happiness Advantage by Shawn Anchor sites a study on depression. Three groups were studied those on anti-depressants alone. Those with anti-depressants and exercise and those only doing exercise. The biggest surprise came with the relapse rate. Those on anti-depressants had the biggest relapse rate, where the ones exercising alone had the lowest, only 9 percent.

Science backs the efficacy of regular exercise. People who exercise regularly feel better about their bodies even when there is no physical or noticeable change.

You don't have to be depressed to reap great rewards from exercise. You increase your brain power, ability to focus and bathe your brain in endorphins with regular exercise. What's not to like? Play this video while you read and feel happy while you read.

“The two enemies of human happiness are pain and boredom." Confucius

2.  Get more sleep. Your focus will be on positive emotions. Sleep-deprived people have been scientifically proven to be more negative and depression prone. In a ground-breaking book NurtureShock, by researchers Po Bronson and Ashley Merryman they site sleep deprived people failed to recall happy memories but were easily able to recall negative or sad memories just fine.

Your mood early in the day affects the rest of your day says a study on Customer Service employees.

3. Focus on Friends and Family rather than money. The money will not bring you happiness. In fact, the focus of money and material gain can reduce your happiness.  One of the biggest regrets of the dying is not spending more time with friends and family.

Quality rather than quantity of our relationships is what matters. We only need one close personal relationship with a network of friends where we can have full disclosure of our feelings and issues not to feel lonely. In elderly patients loneliness can lead to depression and death.

4. Get outside. Sunshine makes us feel better as do warmer temperatures. Twenty minutes outside on a beautiful day broadens thinking and increases positive attitude. In fact, a meteorological study found that temperature of 57 degrees and higher make us feel better. Give

yourself a triple-dose of goodness by exercising outside in a beautiful environment increases telomere length and slows the process of aging. Park settings are more pleasing to the senses than urban environments.

5. Help Others. Those who spend over 100 hours a year, or just two hours a week helping others are the happiest. Wharton Business school professor Adam Grant in the book Give and Take, says you only need to spend five minutes helping others to feel happier and more productive. Those in service industries, healers, and those who help others have the highest sense of fulfillment and happiness.

Spending a windfall on others has been proven to have a lasting effect versus spending it on yourself. Martin Seligman writes in his book, Flourish, a book which illustrates the change in the human psychology movement from merely relieving suffering to improving the human condition. 

6. Smile and mean it! Smiling has been proven to reduce pain, improve brain functioning and improve your mood. A real smile versus a fake grin will make you feel better offering the same change in brain chemistry that exercise does. A fake smile will cause you to feel worse as your day wears on. I smile to my heart when I meditate which gives me the triple whammy I so love of endorphins, brain chemistry changes and relaxation of stillness. The Nineteenth-century psychologist William James went so far to say that if an emotion hasn't been expressed it has not been felt. 

Just because you are divorced doesn't mean you can't have fun!

7. Plan a vacation! Planning a vacation gives you more of a rush of feel-good hormones than actually taking your vacation - even if you never take one. Those studied did not feel happier after their vacation, as they returned to their old life. I travel at least five times a year to places I love to visit friends and family.

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I resolved differences with ex's so that we can spend time with our children at the same time. I focus on the travel before I leave home, which expands my level of happiness and satisfaction. 

8. Meditate daily to re-wire your brain for positivity and stress reduction. Meditation reduces cortisol levels, can help with addictions and relationship issues. Daily meditation can take as little as ten minutes a day, sitting in quiet stillness merely focusing on your breath or involve repeating a mantra in the background of your mind. 

Massachusetts General Hospital studied brain scans of sixteen patients over and eight-week period while they participated in a mindfulness course. In each of the participants their compassion and self-awareness increased, where the parts of the brain associated with stress shrank.

I recommend meditation to all of my clients to help them feel more connected, grounded and happy.

9. Practice Gratitude Daily. Humans can easily focus on what is wrong. Gratitude will shift your focus quickly to your blessings and gifts faster than anything. Spending a few minutes each day recognizing the good in your life and giving thanks for it will raise your happiness quotient and open your heart. 

Writing letters of gratitude will do even more to make you happy. Expressing your thanks to others for what they do for you makes you both feel good. 

10. Move closer to work or work from home. The benefits of living close to work will make you happier than a bigger house. A long commute adds stress, tension and creates a longer work day. Traffic can be trecherous raising stress levels for years. 

Many of us buy homes in places far from work because of economics. Over the long haul those hours of driving cannot be returned. It has been twenty years since I had a long commute, yet when I think of corporate America, my commute is what I remember rather than my success.

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5 Simple Ways To Cure Your Anxiety

By Jennifer Elizabeth Masters

Stress causes a slew of heath problems Some of which are of heart disease, depression and anxiety. According to the Substance Abuse and Mental Health Services Administration, 6 million full- and part-time American workers suffer from anxiety. Many of these 6 million have desk jobs. There are simple ways to alleviate stress most of which require you to get off your butt!

Why Be Concerned About Stress? 

A little stress can help you focus. However, long-term stress increases the risk of conditions like obesity, heart disease, Alzheimer's disease, diabetes, depression, gastrointestinal problems, migraines and asthma. 

Once home, many people "unwind" by watching 2 hours of television (36 %) or playing an hour or two of video games a night (10%) while some get on their computers for an hour or more (29%). All of these activities can increase stress, rather than decrease it. Depending on the shows or movies you watch, action

adventure or thrilling movies can further increase your stress levels, rather than reduce it. Video games also can cause blood pressure and heart rate to rise. There are alternatives to sitting around after work that are better for you. A combination of meditation and movement will improve health, mood and reduce anxiety.

1. Meditate daily. Daily meditation with visualization can reduce stress and anxiety. Begin your day with 20 minutes of silence,
   
   going within. Visualize your best possible day and set an intention for the best possible outcome for all concerned. 
2. Take a walk with your four-legged friends, family or partner. Exercise reduces stress and eliminates anxiety. Being out in nature can shift your mood and emotions faster than anything you put in your mouth.
3. Work out in a gym three times a week or more. Working out can boost endorphins making you feel good. The added benefit is that your body becomes healthier while your anxiety levels are reduced. You might have to get a license for those guns!
4. Sex reduces anxiety and stress. Whether you have sex for one, or with a partner, having an orgasm releases feel-good hormones and will drop your stress level 50% or more.
5. Use a mantra in the background of your mind while doing mindless tasks, like driving, changes brain waves from
   
   incongruent to congruent, as if you are in a sleep state while waking. Congruent brain waves also help to alkalize the body, preventing disease. A mantra could be as simple as, " The Universe loves me." 

Happy Clients!

Thank you so much Jennifer for your excellent online course "Love Yourself Fearlessly" and one-on-one coaching. I now have more self-love, and appreciate the great importance of it. Your statement that self-love is the quickest path to enlightenment says it all. The lessons were one big eye-opener after another; collectively they made a considerable impact on my life, on the way I think about myself and on how I view and interact with others. The effect of the past life clearings you facilitated has been amazing, I feel like a life-long burden has at last been removed from my shoulders. In addition, you helped me see my codependent habits through your coaching, more clearly and I feel better prepared to attract my perfect divine partner. I'm so grateful. With love and appreciation, Colleen K.

Jennifer Elizabeth Masters is an author as well as a love and passion coach. She is available for private sessions. Her private e-mail is JenniferElizabethMasters@gmail.com. 

She is working on her third book currently and a brand new program to heal your love story. Each person has their personal story about love. Rejection, broken hearts, divorce, can leave us feeling broken. Jennifer helps you heal the past so that your heart is open to receive love.

You've Got To Move It Move IT!

By Jennifer Elizabeth Masters

Whether it is taking a walk, a mountain hike or a swim in the ocean, moving our bodies does a lot more than just make us fit. Exercise enlivens the brain. It makes us feel good. Exercise releases endorphins

and oxygenates our brains and bodies. Exercising outside is even better. Being outdoors provides us with God particles (Adamantine particles) that clear our energy and make us feel good. Being out in nature gives us many added benefits. Anything that makes us feel good without taking drugs, medication or alcohol is GREAT in my book! Moving helps to relieve depression or stress and can make us feel happy and alive. 

I know a lot about depression. I had chronic depression for over 20 years. I had insomnia as well. My thoughts were negative, I created illness in my body with the thoughts I was thinking. I know what a difference getting outdoors can make for the way we feel. Getting outside and just walking can change your mind and improve your mood. Why not start today? Moving your body moves stuck energy. See those stairs on the left? I walked all the way up to the top. 12,000 feet to the summit. My 18 year-old daughter sat in the car, while I walked it with her boyfriend. It made me feel accomplished. It made me feel positive. I did it for me, not for anyone else. 

Today, I went to the gym ostensibly to do a yoga class. The yoga instructor got sick at the last minute. Rather than leaving the gym, I stayed and ended up having a private session with a very fit young man who taught advanced yoga for years. How fortuitous, I thought! The class is cancelled, and I get a private class instead. We were still doing yoga as a group of very lively women began to enter the studio. I asked what class they were arriving for and was told "Zumba." I have watched people hooting and hollering outside of the classroom on more than one occasions. I have to admit I judged it. 30 years ago I remember doing a fitness dance class in England to get my big old butt back in shape after my second son was born. I knew it worked! Two of the women immediately suggested I stay. Being a white woman, and anything but graceful on the dance floor, I moved outside of my comfort zone and decided to stay for the class.

Although I was usually behind the instructor by a step or two, I kept up with the class however clumsy I was. I stayed because things happen for a reason. This lively group, the music and the movement made me feel good. I didn't focus on the fact that I couldn't do the dance steps perfectly, or the fact that I sweat my butt off. The bottom line was I was doing something new and adventurous. 

Doing something new can bring more happiness into your world. Stepping out of your comfort zone can be just what you need right now. Moving your body will help clear depression, and improve your sex life. Unlocking your hips, pelvis and body can help you enjoy sex more. Just walking actively for 30 minutes every day can be enough to make you feel better and get your heart in better shape. If the weather is bad, you can always do laps in the nearest mall.

I have added one of my favorite Disney songs from Madagascar. They have the right idea: I like to MOVE IT!

More about exercise and depression here on Webb MD: http://www.webmd.com/depression/guide/exercise-depression

If you are unhappy with your life, love, relationship or sex life, filled with drama, uncertainty and chaos, it is probably time you gave me a call. I help women create a life that they love, so that they can choose whether they want to be in a relationship or not. When you are happy with you, you will radiate your inner beauty out. You look better, feel better and look younger. I will be 60 in October. Not only do I not feel it, I have been told, most would place me in my 40s. 

The happier you are with yourself and your life, the healthier and more radiant you will be. When you are happy with you, and have inner peace, synchronistic events begin to happen, you move into the FLOW. Life then is no longer a struggle, but effortless. Join me in living a life of ease, grace and happiness - every day. Buy my book! or Call me (770) 480-5500. Jennifer's website is: http://www.JenniferElizabethMasters.com If you are wanting to hear Jennifer, check out some of the recorded radio shows on the blog Jennifer On The Air. She has been on hundreds of radio shows talking about her work and her books. This is a good way to find out more about her and how she thinks and what she does in her sessions.

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7 Ways To Alleviate Post Holiday Blues

By Jennifer Elizabeth Masters

Courtesy Mark Sisson

Feeling Post Holiday Blues?

Holidays can be a wonderful time of togetherness, love and acceptance. We rush around shopping, preparing and cooking. We bake and cook furiously, putting all our love and energy into our creations. Guests arrive in a rush of excitement. We share with open hearts and enjoy the fact that everyone loved what we created. We begin the clean up of dishes and move furniture back to its original place. Guests and family members leave. Afterwards, many people feel post holiday depression or a drop in their energy. Looking at holidays from a different perspective can help. Here are 7 ways to bust out of your post holiday blues.

1. Expectations

Maintaining a high state of energy all the time is not possible. We can't be floating at the top of the mountain all of the time. Even Masters have to trudge down the slope to be able to climb the next higher mountain. In everything there is an ebb and flow. The pendulum must swing both ways.

To think we could exist in a state of high without coming down at all is likened to an addict that wants to feel "high" all the time. Our body needs to slow down and rebuild after the excitement and high of a holiday. It isn't bad, or wrong, it just is. 

2. Enjoy The Beauty of Contrast

When we can be present with each moment, we enjoy it for what it is. Enjoy the preparations. Enjoy the guests and then enjoy the peace and quiet and rest. It is all just an experience. Each one is different from the next. 

If our relationships were perfect all the time, we would begin to take the perfection for granted. If guests were with us all the time, they would cease to be guests. We would not appreciate the newness of their presence and then their departure. The contrast is lovely. 

With conflict, anger and emotional release we see it for what it is. If we are sad all the time, we don't experience the other end of the spectrum, JOY. If we are happy all the time, we forget what it feels like to be sad. The contrast allows us to see the beauty in each moment. Revel in it, rather than long for the other end of the spectrum to return. The more you resist what is, the more you suffer. It is perfectly normal to feel sad when your loved ones leave. Allow yourself to feel it. Then let it go. 

3. Be Grateful For The Experience

Each experience teaches us something and has a gift and a lesson. Be grateful for each one. Then be open to receive more. The more grateful we are for each and everything in our lives, the more we open to receive more wonderment, more peace, more satisfaction and more success in all that we do. Even having a successful meditation, or a successful walk with our dog. Each event is an experience. Remember to be grateful for the experience it will open you to receive more.

4. Allow Your Emotions To Move

We are human which means we have a physical, emotional and a spiritual component to everything we do. Feeling is natural. Even crying is good for us, as it allows emotions to move rather than stagnate. Stress hormones are released when we cry, which reduces stress levels. This is healthy. 

Venting anger is also needed in a healthy way. Exercise, meditation, chanting, singing are all ways you can channel this energy in a healthy way. Primal screaming is another. If you haven't tried it, watch a 2-year old have a temper tantrum.  The stomp their feet, pound their arms and yell. Afterward you would think the event never happened. They have forgotten and fall asleep. Energy has moved out of their body and they feel better.

5. Being Present With What IS

Enjoying each moment as it presents itself is being present. When we only focus on the past and what we didn't do, or accomplish, our mistakes and the people who wrong us, we miss the perfection of the moment. We don't see the gift in the PRESENT. The same holds true for focusing endlessly on the future. If we focus most of our time, energy and attention on the future, we miss what is right in front of us. We are distracted by thoughts of what might never happen. 

6. Avoid Distraction

Distraction takes us away from the present moment where everything wonderful happens. We can distract ourselves with phone calls, fixing others, visitors, sex or work. The bottom line is that you have to enjoy being alone with you. If you don't, you don't love yourself. No matter what the distraction is you are still there, but not present in the moment. 

Distracting yourself is not a fix. Focus on you. Notice how you feel. If you get depressed after family and friends leave, sit with it. Revel in it. Cry if you have to. Then allow yourself to move on. 

7. Get Up And Move!

Put on some dance music and get up and dance. Move some energy through you. Physical activity is one of the quickest ways to move energy through your body. 

Kool and The Gang, Celebration

Queen, We Will Rock You

Here Comes The Sun, The Beatles, Flash Mob in Madrid