What is The Difference Between Being Conscious and Unconscious Spiritually?

By Jennifer Elizabeth Masters

It has been said that everyone is awake, we are just not aware of it. Can one really be conscious if we can't see it? The difference between being conscious and unconscious is an increased awareness of the aliveness of everything in our world and how we are supported in it. 

So do you choose the red pill or the blue pill? Either way, you come to the end of the road, one way will bring you happiness and bliss, the other endless suffering.

In the movie the Matrix, Neo has a choice between the red pill, reality, or the blue pill, illusion. Before awakening or being conscious, we live in illusion. We think things are a certain way because we can't see the truth. Once we take the red pill, the blinders come off and we recognize the signs in nature, our intuition and the way The Universe really works. 

We might begin to hear things in the news that we don't believe. We recognize that everything we hear isn't necessarily 100% true. We might hear a voice in our head telling us something, but we push it away and ignore it. 

The universe is always supporting us whether we see and believe it or not. Our intuition is there, guiding us whether we listen and act on it, or whether we shove it down and ignore it. 

We might drive down a road because we get a hit or gut feeling that we need to take a turn along a road we have never been on before. When we do, we might be looking for a home to rent that suits us perfectly and we are guided directly to a perfect home on the perfect piece of land we were imagining, only better!

Awakening is a gradual process for most people. We begin to notice a hawk flying overhead just as we get an amazing idea. We are able to see things from a very different perspective like a hawk does. The hawk is a guidepost along the road of life to show us we are headed in the best direction. Nature brings us signs that our prayers are answered or that we are moving in the best direction in many different ways.

Around 2002, I had a profound experience. I had gone against my husband's advice and mowed my friends' one-acre yard. It was right before Thanksgiving and they were expecting a crowd to celebrate. I took the job as it was paying cash and a favor to my friends. I had never been to their home before, as I had interacted with them on a professional basis, mowing and maintaining their business property in Atlanta. I maintained  both residential and commercial properties. 

I was beginning to believe my husband was right because I got three flat tires on my $10,000 Zero-radius mower. I ran over three metal pike flags that I couldn't see in the tall grass. I knew my mower would be out of commission for days and cost me more than half what I made on the mowing job. I was beginning to beat myself up for choosing to take the job when I had other things to do to prepare for Thanksgiving.

We Begin To Recognize We Are Guided

What happened on my way home, though made up for any loss. I got the feeling I should turn down a particular road that I had never been down. When I did, I found a 100-year old farm house for rent on seven acres surrounded by 100-year-old oak trees. There were beautiful rolling hills, pastures, room for horses and shade from the beautiful trees. The place had a barn to store my landscaping equipment and was idyllic.

Trusting my guidance and following it began to prove an easier way to live my life. I followed my gut feeling and found an incredible place that I could live following my divorce. I love old houses with character. This farm was an incredible find! A beautiful property with trees is more important to me than any house. This property had a lake at the back and a place to have horses for my daughter. The Universe had guided me to the perfect place, that I would never have found on my own. 

As we begin to wake from our slumber we recognize that inner voice is always operating for our highest and best good. When we follow the inner voice we are always rewarded. We might be directed to speak with a person, we might be Guided to apply for a particular job. Our internal guidance system is our God-given gift of insight. Following and learning to trust it is part of awakening.

Life Becomes Easier When We Trust The Process 

When we stop trying to control our environment and our world, life takes on a different hue. Instead of pushing with our energy, we begin to use Universal energy instead. When we allow things to unfold rather than attempting to make things happen, the outcome is so much more beneficial for all concerned.

Unconscious vs Conscious

When we are unconscious we don't notice the signs and take turns and twists that could be avoided. We make things hard for ourselves. We don't know that there is an easier way. We are unaware of the way we create our lives with our thoughts and feelings. 

We make ourselves sick, literally

with what we think and believe.

When we are unconscious, we eat to suppress our feelings. We tend to eat whatever we want without being aware of how our diet can damage or heal our bodies. We give our power away to doctors and health care practitioners expecting them to fix us with a pill. 

We use food, sex, alcohol or take drugs to mask our feelings, rather than feeling our feelings fully and allowing them to move through us. 

We act in self-destructive ways because we can't express our feelings constructively. 

We breathe shallowly because we don't feel worthy. When we begin to breathe deeply, we begin to affirm life in every breath and begin to live in the present moment. Everything is happening in the present. Connecting to the present is needed for awakening to occur. 

We blame others for the way we feel rather than taking responsibility for ourselves, our happiness and our world. We look for a job or relationship to make us feel happy, rather than looking inside for the answers to our deepest issues. 

We don't recognize that when we suppress our anger that simple act leads to depression. We look to a pill to fix something that we have done to ourselves. A pill is not a cure, but rather a band-aid that masks the real issue. 

We don't take responsibility for our happiness or our health and give it over to other people to take care of us. 

When we are unconscious we are doing, doing, doing. When we become conscious we stop pushing our energy to force things to happen, and we live in a state of being instead. When we stop forcing our energy we live in a state of allowing. 

A state of allowing is where we stop trying to control everyone in our lives and world, recognizing that there is a higher purpose to life than a rat race of education, work, children, and death.

Joy Is Our Natural State

When we feel sad or depressed, it is difficult to imagine a life of joy. But I promise you, as dark as my past has been being awake and aware brings you infinite joy. In fact, living a life of joy is what we are all meant to do. Joy is our natural state. By clearing the beliefs, patterns, and programs that limit you, the freedom to be joyful opens to you. 

We Are All In This Together

I had a beautiful friend that transitioned in 2012. Joanne Butler was and still is a beautiful soul, full of love, laughter, and joy. Joanne the closest thing to an angel that I have had the honor to know. She made my life so much brighter helping me to see that each of us has our part to play in the game of life. Her favorite phrase was, "We're all in this thing together!" 

We might not see it immediately, but each of us is part of the whole. We each have our job to do on this planet. Each of us is love at our core. When we recognize that life happens for the good of all and that no one is doing anything to us, we recognize the power of The Universe in everything that occurs. Others help us along our path by triggering us so that we can heal. 

Nothing Is An Accident

When we are asleep or unconscious we are unaware of the way that The Universe works. We think we are making things happen. We think we are in control of our lives. We don't realize that everything we have is given to us by The Divine and The Universe. When we wake up, we recognize how we can create more by aligning with Universal Flow and Divine Love. When we are in the complete state of allowing, aligned with the love within and outside of us we create miracles, bliss and magic become a way of life. 

As we begin to awaken and become conscious we recognize how our lives are orchestrated and that each event that occurs is for a reason. We are meant to learn something from our experiences so that we grow. Even having what we consider a bad or negative experiences, like trauma or abuse teaches us something and is for the good of our soul. 

We Create What We Expect

When we are unconscious we beat ourselves up with our thoughts and beliefs. We feel unworthy, have doubts, beliefs, and thoughts that cripple us. 

When we are conscious, we recognize that we create with our thoughts and expectations. When we begin to expect the best, it happens!

The Gift Of Choice

We are presented with choices. We can choose to experience something and move forward with a relationship or job or not. We can make the decision to not date, or marry a particular person and choose someone else instead. Each experience is to stretch us and make us grow. We are meant to learn, grow and expand. The experiences in our life are meant to teach us to be okay with whatever is going on and find ways to not let certain issues bother us. 

We Always Get What We Need

Once we take the red pill, like Neo did, there is no turning back. You won't want to. What do you choose? 

Like the Rolling Stones song, we don't get what we want, but we get what we need. We may want a new car or relationship, but if it hasn't happened yet, there is a reason. Perhaps you have a lesson to learn. Maybe you need to learn to be more conservative with spending. Or perhaps you don't lovingly accept yourself. The more loving we can be with ourselves, the better our life turns out. The bottom line is whether we are awake or asleep, we are supported by The Universe waiting for us to ask for assistance along the way.

The Universe and God Love Gratitude 

Jennifer isn't just a coach. She is a multi-faceted powerful healer, hypnotherapist, NLP Practitioner and vibrational light worker that clears past patterns of negativity,

trauma, and abuse so that you can feel comfortable in your own skin, anxiety-free with a clarity and peaceful inner being so you can be happy with you. When you are happy with you everything in your life becomes one of ease and Grace. Happiness is within you; Jennifer helps you find it permanently.

Get your FREE 30-minute session with Jennifer to find out if her work is a good fit for you. Book your session with Jennifer right now and become happy with yourself and your life so you can attract a healthy high-quality relationship instead of someone who mistreats you.

 Jennifer is the author of three books, the latest is:

Happy Here, Happy Anywhere:

The Step-By-Step Guide To Overcoming Anxiety, Depression, and Unhappiness Without a Perscription!

The Policy Of Truth

by Jennifer Elizabeth Masters

Truth is the quality or state of being true. Truth encompasses integrity, character, honor. Telling the truth is a refusal to lie. What about half-truths? What about white lies? Are they just lies disguised as niceties? Is it okay to lie about your age?

While in Atlanta, I had a discussion with a group of women about the subject of telling the truth. The higher our vibration becomes, the less we lie. We are held to a higher standard as we become awakened. The more honest we are, the better we feel. Dishonesty affects our self-esteem. Honesty is a sign of strong character. 

Telling the truth consistently and speaking your truth are two components of authenticity that speak volumes about who you are. 

Parents lie to their children then wonder why their children lie to them? Adults lie to their peers and receive the same in return. What we send out we get right back. We see our president blatantly lie, politicians also lie for him. 


Question: Is it okay to tell your child that a parent abandoned you? Or is it better to tell your child a made-up story about why the parent isn't around, like that they died when they didn't? 

Answer:  Never lie to your child to cover up the truth. Energetically, your child knows at a soul level that they were lied to. The second reason you want to be honest is that you teach your child lying is okay by modeling bad behavior.

Does This Dress Make My Ass Look Fat?

The subject came up while dining in a restaurant. What do you say to someone when they ask if an outfit makes them look fat? What if the answer is, "Yes, it does?" We can respond compassionately to this question by saying, "I have seen you look better in other outfits." We are not lying, but also not hurting the other person's feelings.

I have not been able to lie for over three years. When I make a statement if it is not completely true, I am Guided by a question from my High Self, "Is that completely true?" Or sometimes, I hear, "Are you sure you don't want to change that response?" Other times, it is like a pregnant pause and more of a feeling. The end result is that I cannot lie. I have to tell the complete truth.

Lying About Your Age on A Profile

A friend of mine told me today, "Everybody lies about their age." I don't agree with that statement. I don't lie. I don't lie about my age. I don't lie about the number of times I have been married. I don't lie about anything. I know others that don't. When I posted my profile, I was honest about my age. 

A fellow practitioner recently asked me what I would say to a client that began to date a man from a dating site and lied about her age on her profile. She was youthful and radiant even though she was in her seventies. She didn't say she was one or two years younger. She stated that her age was twenty years younger than her chronological age. The man she met began to fall for her. "What should she do?" was the question the practitioner asked me. 

My response is always, "Tell the truth!"

Why Should You Tell The Truth?

A relationship based on a lie will never work. When mistrust is the foundation, there can never be trust. Even if you never come clean about the lie, the undercurrent you emit is negative. Whatever you send out comes back to you. If you lie, others will lie to you. If you cheat, others will cheat on you. If you lie about your age on a dating site, someone will lie to you also. Honesty is always the best policy.

We can also lie to ourselves. We lie about how happy we are. We lie about our relationships. Asking questions and going within will help. Lying to oneself is denial, not the river in Egypt.

Lying Is A Low Vibration

Lying lowers your vibration. You attract what you are. If you lie, you are a liar. Through the law of attraction, you will attract others that lie also. 

Liars, cheaters, and abusers have a low vibration. Dating a married man is cheating. You are cheating by taking someone else's partner. 

If you say that you have been faithful, but send texts to other women or men that are suggestive, you may as well be cheating. Your vibration suggests that you are. Cheating involves betrayal and rejection, both of which leave the other person broken and wounded. Flirtatious texts make you unfaithful in your heart. If you want to have sex with another person, be honest; get a divorce, breakup, but don't cheat or lie.

10 Rules For Dating That Keep You From Experiencing Guilt

Honesty Is A Higher Vibration

Being honest carries an upward or rising energy. Your vibration rises by being consistently honest. When you stop telling all lies you become a person of strong moral character. People will trust you. Your vibration attracts others with a higher vibration. You feel better when you are a person with strong character. Your self-esteem rises as your character becomes stronger.

The best policy is the policy of truth.

Contact Jennifer for your discovery session to find out if her work is a good fit for you. 

When we lovingly accept ourselves as we are with all our faults

and flaws, we have healthy self-esteem. 

Jennifer Elizabeth Masters is the author of the forthcoming book: HAPPY HERE, HAPPY ANYWHERE The Step-by-Step Guide to Overcoming Anxiety, Depression, and Unhappiness Without a Prescription!


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A Personal Question

By Jennifer Elizabeth Masters

I recently received this courageous question. I felt that the question and my response was worth sharing. My personal journey is an open book. I share quite openly in my book, Orgasm For Life. 

I hope you remember me, forgive me for asking this question ! You are all this and that but you are single and how are your fulfilling your sexual desires ? Do you have a partner ? or what is it ? have you overcome those needs in your process of attainment of wisdom in life ? or did you simply choose to be guru for others benefit ? what is it ? thanks for letting know your secret.

Best
Naresh

On 10/25/14 5:17 PM, Jennifer Elizabeth Masters wrote:
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Naresh,
I have to say that my spiritual journey had led me to be much more spiritual than sexual. This truly is where the human race is heading through enlightenment, self actualization and evolution.

The wisdom I receive is heavenly - Universal in nature. I am still very human, but the sexual desire although can be ignited, takes a back seat to teaching, coaching and healing. Meditation and the work I do keeps me very satisfied and fulfilled. The longing that once was present is not as prevalent. This does not mean that I am dead......
I am currently single. I had had a partner recently, however, it is very difficult to find someone that resonates with me on all levels. Tantra, spiritual and sacred sex is what is needed for a high level creative and synergistic bond with a partner.
I hope that answers your question. I appreciate your courage in asking.
Blessings,
Jennifer

His reply:

I always knew something about you is very special. Thanks for taking the time to reply to me. I am not enlightened by your thoughts and mastery of your countenance. I am humbled to know you and be your friend. It is an honour to be friend.
Best regards
Naresh K Lagadapati 


Jennifer Elizabeth Masters can be reached via private e-mail for sessions here: 

Her book, Orgasm For Life is available on Amazon.com. This book will give you guidance to be a better lover, increase intimacy, turn you on and certainly help to bridge the gap between the sexes, for better understanding, compassion and love!

Buyer Beware: Hiring A Coach

By Jennifer Elizabeth Masters

There are thousands of coaches in the United States. It is one of the fastest growing professions today. As with any profession there are those who are great at what they do and then there are the others. Many people are in coaching because they are still trying to heal themselves. Recognizing who you are hiring and why is important. Having an intention in mind prior to hiring a coach will help you. Make sure you hire a coach who is certified and do your due diligence.

If you have been reading my blog and wonder what working with me might be like, here is the low down. 

Who Do I Work With?

I work with people committed to heal, grow and evolve. I help people who want their lives to improve. I help people recognize the power that they have, the beauty within and who they truly are. I help people connect with their High Selves, live each day fully, feeling happy with who they are, happy with their lives and happy with what they are doing. If you don't want to heal, evolve, recognize the beauty within, live each day in joy and happiness or don't want your life to improve, don't hire me.

How Do I Help People Heal?

I don't know when it happened, but a while back, I became aware that I triggered people's issues. Some people call me a catalyst for healing. I can't stop being a catalyst pushing up your issues, anymore than I could stop breathing, it is part of me. When clients talk to me, their issues just come up. It is not that I do anything, it just happens. It is one of my healing gifts. 

Sometimes when a client in extremely codependent and sitting in victimhood, they blame me for the way they feel. I am no more responsible for your emotions than anyone else is. Part of healing is that you take responsibility for your life, your actions and your emotions. Healing is a responsible act. 

Everyone has hot buttons or triggers. These triggers are from an event long ago. As long as the trigger exists, you will continue to react with emotion when that button is pushed. One of my gifts is helping you to heal the triggers. I have many different ways that I do this. I can use Hypnotherapy, Neurolinguistic Programming or Spiritual Response Therapy, among other things. It does not matter if one way does not work for you, I have many other tools in my large tool box to help you move through this challenge. Everyone is unique. There is not a cookie cutter fix - that I use for everyone. Even when people are dealing with sexual issues, I find that the source of the pain and suffering is lack of self love. 

Sometimes, something happens in a session that causes your emotions to surface. As a matter of fact, when you work with me, you can count on it. If you don't want to feel, cry, or emote, you may not want to work with me. What happens though, when you allow emotions to move is that you move out of depression, insomnia and anxiety. Body ailments heal naturally and you enjoy life much more.

My Promise

I  promise to accept you as you are, with all your faults and foibles. I am very good at what I do. However, I am not perfect either. If you are looking for a perfect coach, it is not me. Sometimes life happens. Sometimes I am on the road and have to change an appointment because of a book tour, or working with clients in another community. I promise to do the best I can to assist you in every session. I am very good at what I do. I cut to the chase and have the innate ability to get to the source of your issues quickly. I cannot promise that you won't cry. I cannot promise you that you won't feel. What I will promise you is that you will begin to find that your anxiety, depression, mind chatter, negativity, unworthiness will lesson as time goes on. By the third session, most people are amazed at how different they feel about themselves and their lives. What I am not good at is taking the blame for your feelings and your emotions.  

I do not judge you. I expect the same of my clients. I do not blame you. I expect the same of my clients. I am not the cause of your pain or suffering. I am here to help you grow and evolve. Without emotions moving there is no forward movement in your life. Know that crying won't kill you. It will help to release tension, stress and feel good hormones in your body. When you begin to work with me, it is like popping a cork on a champagne bottle. Once the bottle is opened, there is no turning back - only looking at yourself in the most loving way and having the life you have always dreamed about.

You Found Me

I have found that most people that come to me, find me because of the fact that I have healed my lack of self esteem, sexual dysfunction and worthiness issues. Having someone who has been where you are can be of great help to you. Although I am a certified Hypnotherapist, Certified Energy Healer, Certified Neurolinguistic Programming Practitioner....  and other things, I did not learn how to love myself through a book. I tried many different things and what I use I know works. Whether you just want to become more authentic, confident or loving of yourself, or whether you are looking for that dynamite relationship of your life, I can help you with both. 

I read a slew of books about natural healing, herbs, Traditional Chinese Medicine, Buddhism, Hinduism, psychology and emotional issues. I did this work myself. Deep emotional release, soul retrieval and healing of soul fragments that happen when we are traumatized as children. Whether it is sexual abuse, rape, or emotional abuse, I have experienced it all and am compassionate and understanding, while being direct. I won't molly coddle you. I will push you to a higher level of radiating your amazing light out into the world. I will encourage and cheer you on when you discover something new, or heal an issue. I am in your corner.

How Does Being A Channel and Intuitive Help YOU?

Since I became enlightened in 2012, I have been in direct contact with Universal energy, The Divine Mind, my guides, my clients' guides and the angels. I hear clearly. I do not stifle, misconstrue, or misdirect those messages. I give them to you as I receive them, without my filters, without changing what I hear. As quickly as those messages come in - they are gone. Channeling is like that. These are not my thoughts, so I cannot hang onto them. I often forget what I have told you in session, because I was channeling a message for you.

These messages are for you. No one knows better what you need and what your issues are than The Divine. This information is loving, direct and kind. The Divine and The Universe is always and in every way working FOR YOU! 

Already Healed

Yes I have credentials up the wazoo. But credentials aren't worth a flick if you haven't already healed yourself. Many coaches are still struggling with self esteem and trying to be happy with themselves. In 2012, I became self actualized and enlightened. Okay, you don't care about buzz words - good for you. I am not crazy about them either. 

What Does That Mean For You?

Being self actualized means I no longer need outside validation. I already have it within me, I know who I am. I am happy with me. I am connected with The Divine. I am grounded, life affirming and confident with who I am. I am not egotistical, arrogant or rude. My delivery is always compassionate, caring and direct. I don't beat around the bush and I don't waste time. It does not mean I don't have emotions. I do. When my emotions come up - I express them fully. I don't stuff them. I am not longer concerned what others think about me. You needn't worry about what others think of you either. You will enjoy life so much more when you let go of this, it is a huge waste of energy and time. 

It is none of your business what others think about you.

Maslow's Theory of Self Actualization and Qualities

What I expect of YOU

I am present with you during our sessions. I expect you to not take other calls, rush around or walk while you are talking to me. I expect you to do the homework assignments each week. Without follow-up work a coaching session does not implement the work in your daily life. You must to the homework. 

I also expect you to dig deep. I expect when an issue comes up, that you will walk towards it. I will guide you through it. I will be there with you. When you resist doing homework or moving towards your issues, you stay stuck in suffering. When you hire me, you are signifying to the Universe and The Divine that you are here to work. You are signifying that you have committed to heal your life and love and accept yourself unconditionally. You can't do that by telling me you don't want to deal with your issues. I might allow you to shelve an issues for one week. I will revisit the same issue the following week. If you refuse to move through the issue the third week, I will let you go as my client. 

I value my time and yours. However, if you don't want to do the work, I cannot work with you. I am not being a bitch about this, I am telling you what my limits and boundaries are. My commitment is to move you forward out of pain, suffering, dysfunction, addiction, and codependency. You absolve me of my commitment by telling me you don't want to look at your stuff. I will lovingly let you go. Should you choose to return to me as a client, you will sign a document that you are committed to do the work. After signing the document, you will be limited to one "walk" or glide through an issue. The following week you have to suck it up and walk through. I assure you, your standing on the dark side of your issues is much more painful and difficult than walking through to the side of happiness, peace and calm.

Sexual Healing

Don't be surprised if we work on self love issues, if you have some type of sexual dysfunction, like erectile dysfunction or HTP - Hair Trigger Penis or inability to orgasm. Erectile dysfunction is often from low self esteem - worrying about size, or worrying will my equipment work. HTP is caused by underlying rage. Don't argue with me about this.....  I can hear you. Truly it is. When the rage is taken care of - the HTP stops happening. Acupuncture works well for HTP as well.

What Changes Can You Expect?

Some of the issues that will eventually be resolved, depending on how much work you are willing to do, how deep you are willing to go and how long you work with me are:

Resolution of:

Perfectionism

Self Condemnation

Criticism

Control

Fear

Anxiety

Depression

Insomnia

Sadness

Heaviness

Codependence

Being A Victim

Addictive relationships

Relationships that you settled for

Feeling Like A Chameleon

Communication Issues

Fear of Asking for what you want

You will feel:

Happier

Grounded

Centered

Positive

Accepting

Balanced

Open

Have a Greater Sense of Self

More Connected

Fulfilled

Passion For Life

Jennifer is a certified life and sex coach. She is the author or Orgasm For Life http://www.amazon.com/Orgasm-Life-Jennifer-Elizabeth-Masters/dp/0692227172

Her website is:   htp://www.JenniferElizabethMasters.com

You can schedule a private free discovery session with Jennifer HERE

 

Enlightened Love

By Jennifer Elizabeth Masters

What is Enlightened Love?

and why would you want it?

Marriages and relationships are not what they were 50 years ago, or even 20 years ago. The little woman staying at home taking care of her household in a pretty dress and full make up does not exist today. Women rarely have the time to bake pies and pastries for our families any more, never mind wear a dress to perform our household chores in. Most households today need to be dual income to continue to live in the way we have become accustomed. Our lives and love have changed and transformed. What used to work does not any more. If you don't want to be a statistic you need to begin to relate to your significant other differently. Getting on the conscious love train is what is required for relationships to work in the 4th and 5th dimensional reality. 

How do you love in an enlightened way?

A conscious or enlightened relationship requires you to be awake. Being awake means that you are aware of what you are saying, doing and thinking. You cannot set your life on "auto pilot" and have a successful relationship. We are all busy. Often we are spinning our wheels and spending time on meaningless tasks that have no positive effect on our marriages, relationships or even the world. When we think with our minds alone, we are in our ego. Our ego gets wrapped up in tasks and events that can often be a waste of our time. Being awake and conscious we are using our heart-mind where we are empowered, compassionate and void of blame and victimization. Enlightened love transcends the ego. It is total acceptance, unconditional love, Oneness. Enlightenment is love. There is no separation, there is just us. There is no judgment, criticism or condemnation.

What is the EGO?

The ego is the like a lens that we view our physical reality through. The ego has gotten a bad wrap. It does have powerful functions, however. The ego is just a fraction of you. The ego passes on information to your consciousness about your physical reality. It is considered the lower self. Its function is to keep you safe, protected, fed, clothed and comfortable. Many people think that the ego is their true self. When we use our ego to make decisions we create challenges and difficulties on our road of life. Symptoms of using the ego to navigate with can cause you to be codependent, addictive, fearful, anxious and feel empty. When we are using our egoic mind we can feel lonely, alone, cut off from the Universe, unloved and uncared for. When we navigate with our ego we seek acceptance and approval. If we seek approval outside of ourselves we often come up feeling unappreciated by loved ones. There is a better way. Life can be so much more fulfilling when we begin to experience it consciously.

What is our CONSCIOUSNESS?

Consciousness is our eternal self. The part of you that lives on after death. This part of you chose to experience physical reality. Consciousness contains all that is you, your higher, lower and middle selves. Your consciousness has access to an amazing and limitless supply of information. It is often termed the spiritual part of you. It is the wiser part of you. It existed before you were born and continues after your death. It's purpose is to experience. Experience could include having multiple marriages and divorces, learning through pain and suffering. When you are in your dream state, your ego is not present. You are fully expressing consciousness. We all have a spark of God (or Source energy) within us. We all have the ability to tap into the higher realms and cosmos where geniuses like Albert Einstein and Michelangelo channeled from. 

Signs your ego is in charge (3D)

1. You keep score. You remember each time your partner did this to you.
2. You have the need to be right. Being right will cause arguments and derision in a relationship. 
3. You often feel anxious.
4. You often feel fearful.
5. You look outside of yourself for love, acceptance and approval.
6. You ask others for their opinions.
7. You are concerned about what others think of you.
8. You often feel ungrounded and scattered.
9. You seek approval and validation from others.
10. You try to please others.
11. You feel unworthy.
12. You feel separate from others and God.
13. You blame others for events in your life.
14. You often judge others for what they do and say.
15. You feel lonely or alone.
16. You experience guilt and sometimes shame.
17. You are resistant to change and new events.
18. You are often rigid, rather than go with the flow.
19. You react to what others say to you. 
20. You make decisions based on your past experiences.
21. You feel jealous or envious of others.
22. You fear death.

How To Create An Enlightened Love (4th and 5thDimension)

Creating a conscious relationship comes from being aware of yourself. Being self aware means that you notice what you are thinking, and what you are creating unconsciously. Our relationships mirror back to us what is going on inside of us. We can only attract those that are of a similar vibration. We magnetize those to us that are like us in vibration. Like attracts like. Birds of a feather flock together. If you want a relationship that is a higher quality than one you have had in the past, you have to resolve inner conflict and inadequacies. Being grateful for the past and the lessons learned helps you to recognize the gift in each of your life experiences. Learning from the past is key. Our past does not equal the future. Following is a guide to creating a conscious relationship. Notice that this is all about how YOU behave. It is all about YOU!

1. Love and accept yourself completely.
2. Accept responsibility for yourself. Don't max out your visa card!
3. Focus on the positive*. Be aware of what you are thinking and saying about yourself and others. This is like a fitness program, it takes time and effort, but this one thing alone will change your life. Whatever you focus on expands, whether it is positive or negative. We create with our unconscious thoughts. Using positive affirmations when your mind is in neutral will help reprogram your unconscious mind. * (More below)
4. Let go of perfectionism, control, judgment, blame.
5. Accept others as they are, rather than trying to change them.
6. Be heart centered. 
7. Be authentic - completely you.
8. Trust yourself.
9. Be honest with yourself and others.
10. Respect and honor yourself.
11. Be spontaneous.
12. Connect with your inner child, allow yourself to play.
13. Have a daily Spiritual practice.

None of this is possible without having a strong connection with Source or God energy. For me, this meant daily meditation. 

*Thoughts become things. Thoughts create. Think of every thought you think as a prayer. As you think a thought it goes out into the Universe. The Universe (God, Source) is there to orchestrate whatever it is you are thinking into manifestation. Each time you think, "This marriage will never work," The Universe makes it so. It does not matter if you think, "I can't do this." The Universe will make it so. The Universe's job is to support you. Whenever you say or think something over and over, the Universe will make it so. This is why so many people can't manifest when they do everything else correctly. Their unconscious mind is running amuck! 

Jennifer Elizabeth Masters is an author, speaker,  intuitive life, love and relationship coach. She is also a certified Hypnotherapist, and Master Energy healer. Her work is profound and life changing. Whether you are looking to expand your consciousness, or find the love of your dreams, her direct yet compassionate approach will move you from being stuck and disempowered to feeling deeply and profoundly connected and grounded. Her own journey from addictions and co-dependency, guilt, suffering and shame brings to the table much wisdom and life experience rather than book knowledge. She has been where you are and knows what it feels like to struggle and feel discontent with life. Wouldn't you rather work with someone who has done it herself? E-mail Jennifer here: NOW!

Excuses, Excuses, Excuses: How The Mind Keeps Us Stuck

By Jennifer Elizabeth Masters

It takes more energy to begin than it takes to accelerate.

A ship that is dead in the water cannot be steered.

Beginning is the most difficult. Have you ever noticed all the things that delay us from the beginning? The planning, the organizing, the thinking about what you want to do, or accomplish. Your doubts keep you stuck, doubled up in fear. You have to decide to start. Excuses keep you stuck. Excuses keep you from beginning. You want to be a painter, "I don't have the money." "I don't have the ideas." "I don't have the talent." All of these excuses stop you. Excuses prevent you from being and having the life of your dreams. Excuses keep you from having the relationship you want. Excuses don't matter.

SAY YES!

You have to do it anyway. The prescription for success is to begin. Get the party started! Say YES to the relationship. Say YES to starting the new business. Say YES to hiring a self-love coach that will empower you.  If you haven't done it up until now by yourself, join me now. I will light a firecracker under your butt and get you off your couch, catapulted out of your Barcalounger, excited about your life, your success and your love. I will help you find the love inside of you that will help you to heal your life so you can have the relationship you want. Use your reasons and excuses and go SUCCEED! 

Once you BEGIN you become a magnet for the Universe to assist you and give you what you want. An inert object is much harder to move than one already in motion. I will blast you with creative Source energy to get you moving, motivated and feeling alive!

Tonight I will inspire you, energize you and help you engage the Universe to work with you and support you. I will teach you how to connect to Source energy and create miracles in your life.

Have you said all the affirmations, meditated and tried to manifest and not gotten anywhere? 

How long have you waited for someone to call you for your highest and best? I am calling you to get off your couch and make a decision.  All you have to do is say YES! Saying yes to The Universe will engage the Universe to assist you to make your dreams come true. 

Synchronicity will begin to happen. The Universe will conspire for your benefit. You have to get off your couch to engage the Universe! 

Jennifer is a life, love and relationship coach, and enlightened being. She is connected to Source energy and brings a new element to her coaching by her connection. E-mail to get your Free discovery session today!

I Want A HIGHER LOVE!

By Jennifer Elizabeth Masters

You have done your work. You have created your vision of your dream relationship. 

Why has your dream relationship not shown up in your reality?

You know you can create your own reality. You hear it all the time. You begin to doubt that it is real because this magical relationship is still not showing up! Why is it taking so long?

There are many reasons why some manifestations take longer than others. Perhaps you have a lesson to learn that you have not learned yet. Perhaps you are desiring something that is so far beyond your energetic vibration at this point in time that you need to make specific changes within yourself to be able to bring it into reality. Or, you have doubts about the fact that it will really happen. 

Manifestation works. We do all the right things. We get present, we are connected to Source energy, centered in love. We envision it, we feel what it would feel like to have our dream come true, by experiencing the joy of having it. We really experience it to the point that we can taste it, smell it and it still doesn't happen. 

Usually the reason a manifestation does not come into our reality in what we think would be a reasonable time frame is because the changes have not happened in our energy field that would support this manifestation. What do I mean?

Let's take a Divine Relationships for example. We desire a healthy relationship. We have done considerable work on ourselves, we have meditated, done chanting, toning, cleared our energy field. We have studied, read, become positive and have even stopped throwing hand grenades at our ex. Why has it not arrived?

An orchestration must take place in The Universe for the perfect relationship to materialize. One of the things that we are responsible for is our own energy. If we want to create a HIGHER LOVE, we have to be THE HIGHER LOVE OURSELVES. We have to be sure that we have forgiven everyone, including ourselves. We have to take responsibility for our own finances, be good stewards of our money, love everyone, heal all our personal relationships even with those who are difficult, or we will not be able to energetically support what we are attempting to manifest. If we have not done sufficient work on ourselves it is time to take a closer look to see what is still hanging on. Is it anger? Is it resentment? Is it un-forgiveness? Are we looking for a man or woman who is of elevated consciousness yet we are still addicted to sugar, meth, or some other substance? Do we still have the need to be right all the time? Do we still try to control our family, feeling that we KNOW better than anyone else? If these things are showing up there is still more work to do.  

Perhaps we still have issues that we have to resolve with self acceptance. Are we in denial? Or it could be that we are unavailable emotionally. This is the biggest issue we have as humans. 

I have found the best way to break down this barrier that we build up to protect ourselves is by watching a program or movie that will cause you to cry, let go and grieve. My favorite program for releasing is Grey's Anatomy. Watching show after show and being able to let go and cry will help you to break down the barriers to intimacy that you have created to protect your heart. You cannot have a deep loving relationship when you have a solid block to love in your heart. This damn has to break. The best way to break it down is to cry. I am not talking about a few tears that roll down your face either. I am talking about slobbering, gut wrenching releasing. Something worth having is worth doing the work to get it.

The problem with most people today is that they are not willing to go the distance to get what they want. Most people are afraid. When you live in fear you can't attract a fearless love. The majority of the population don't want to do the work, but want what they want anyway. It can be difficult to get there on your own. You need to hire a coach who knows how to create intimacy, that loves themselves already.

If you are ready to break through the barriers come to mamma! I am the woman who can help you break through your tough shields you have put in place. I have done it and have helped others do it too. I will help you become fearless and clear the crap that continues to plague you and hold you back. You have got to be fearless and really want it. Don't be afraid to let it all out, you will feel so much better. 

To have it all you have to be able to risk it all. The kind of risk I am talking about is intimacy. Intimacy is not sex. Yes sex can be a part of intimacy but isn't always. Some people have sex and don't connect emotionally at all. Recreational sex, or sex with someone you barely know does not involve intimacy. Intimacy is about a deep emotional connection. You can be married or in a long-term committed relationship and not allow your spouse in completely. The best relationships are founded on deep connected intimacy. To have real intimacy you have to let go of all your fear of being hurt. Focusing on being hurt attracts someone who will feel as you do. You will create a relationship based on fear. It won't work and will not fulfill you. Relationships based on fear usually end up with one person cheating or betraying the other.

To have an open-heart relationship your heart has to be fully opened. To have a relationship where there is no cheating, you have to be completely honest with yourself and others. To have someone who loves and adores you, you must love and adore yourself. To have someone who is gererous with their love money and gifts, you must be generous with your love, money and gifts. You cannot long for your mate to show up, because that creates a state of lack. You have to act like he or she is already here. You have to make room in your closet for another person. You have to feel and be thankful for this person who is in your energy field.

Steps to Finding A HIGHER Love

1. Heal your heart by seeing the gift in the past.
2. Let go of anger.
3. Forgive everyone, including yourself.
4. Accept yourself completely.
5. Love yourself compassionately
6. Let go of control.
7. Let go of manipulation.
8. Let go of the need to be right.
9. Let go of perfectionism.
10. Be grateful for what you have.
11. Be completely happy with you.
12. When you fall in love with yourself you will attract another who loves and accepts you. You will be like a magnet. 
13. Write a list of 100 criteria that you want in your Divine Partner. 
14. Boil this list down to 10 must haves. 
15. Ask for this love to be delivered to you.
16. Say a prayer that you are ready for your Divine Partner to be sent to you. Do not have any doubts. Consider that it is done, say thank you. 
17. Feel this person around you. Feel what it feels like to have them in your life. Be grateful for this loving relationship. 

How long have you attempted to get this relationship on your own? How much longer are you willing to wait? Remember if you have not done the preparation work to raise your own vibration and clear your own energy, you will continue to attract the same kind of person you have been attracting up until now. Hire Jennifer to assist you clear your blocks to love, of yourself and another. She will help you deepen your intimacy in your current relationship and help you manifest your Divine Partner. She has done this successfully for her clients.

Jennifer is a self actualized and enlightened being. She is a master at manifesting love. She has cleared her own blocks to love and healed her self loathing, unworthiness and denial. She knows how to clear emotional unavailability and has helped thousands of people to clear their limiting beliefs and blocks. Working with and asking questions of an enlightened person speeds up the process of healing. E-mail Jennifer now to find out if you are a good match for her work. Order your FREE discovery session NOW!