By Jennifer Elizabeth Masters
The older we get, if we have lived fully, we may have lost count of the number of painful experiences in relationships we have had. If we were put down, emotionally abandoned or betrayed these experiences jade us. Friends and family can also betray us and cause us painful experiences. Our tendency is to only allow someone in so far, protecting our hearts from further hurt. The problem is that we are not loving fully and we certainly are not thriving.
If we are in fear, we attract relationships where we will find many things to be afraid of. If we are afraid of anger, we will attract partners who rage and yell. If we have low self esteem, we will attract others who may be addicted, lie or cheat on us, or abuse us in some way, because we feel unworthy of love.
Jennifer Elizabeth Masters is the author or Orgasm For Life, Odyssey Victim To Victory and a new book which shall remain a secret for now. She guides you lovingly to see the truth of who you are so that you can allow love to flow and your radiance to shine. When you lovingly accept yourself the way you are, everything in the world is brighter, people will be attracted to you because you radiate love back to them. You will find joy living in the present.
When we are young and our heart's are pure, we have the ability to open up easily and allow someone in. As we experience hurt, betrayal, abandonment, lying, cheating or abuse, we begin to shut our hearts down. When our hearts are closed we begin to turn away opportunities to experience wide-eyed wonder and amazement, because we are so afraid of being hurt.
The older we get, if we have lived fully, we may have lost count of the number of painful experiences in relationships we have had. If we were put down, emotionally abandoned or betrayed these experiences jade us. Friends and family can also betray us and cause us painful experiences. Our tendency is to only allow someone in so far, protecting our hearts from further hurt. The problem is that we are not loving fully and we certainly are not thriving.
I know first-hand what betrayal, rejection and abuse can do. Each time someone puts you down, a little love is chipped away. Over time, you may feel that there is no love left. Sometimes we become hardened or sceptical that anyone could really love us, without hurting our hearts. Many married people stay together, but separate from their spouses, living an almost robotic existence. Married, but not loving each other.
All You Have To Do Is Choose
All it takes is one person with the desire to repair the relationship, or get assistance from an outside source, like me. Remember you can't solve a problem with the same mind-set that created it. Having an outsider guide the two of you through the process of forgiveness and letting go of the past, you can move into the present.
Wounded People Hurt Others
When we are hurting we cause pain to those closest to us. We lash out - even react emotionally to those that love us. Those who are closest seem to get hit the hardest. Sometimes, we are actually daring someone to love us.
Look Inside
There was love there once. It is still there, under the hurt, the painful words, bleached clothing or damaged hearts. Our relationships are all about us. Our partners reflect back to us what is going on inside us. If we have conflict in our relationships, it is not
that we are a victim. We have internal conflict. We are at war with ourselves. Believe me, I have years of personal experience with internal conflict. My relationships involved warring, arguing and unrest. I did not recognize that I had an internal battle raging within me.
We Attract What We Are
If we are in fear, we attract relationships where we will find many things to be afraid of. If we are afraid of anger, we will attract partners who rage and yell. If we have low self esteem, we will attract others who may be addicted, lie or cheat on us, or abuse us in some way, because we feel unworthy of love.
Love Takes Risk
To love fully, you have to allow yourself to risk everything. I recently met a man who wanted to date me, but wouldn't tell me his last name. He had been wounded and had something to hide. You can't fall in love if you won't allow someone to know who you are. Allowing yourself to be vulnerable takes courage, but is so worth it when love arrives on your doorstep. Without vulnerability you are not allowing the opportunities in the universe in. You are saying a very clear, "No, not yet." When you do, love will allude you.
Take The First Step
Hire me to coach you through becoming vulnerable and allowing love in. I will lovingly and compassionately guide you through processes that will heal your damaged beautiful heart and lead you back to the love that you truly are. Your radiance will shine through again, as you connect with your True Self. I love you already! Allow your light to shine, stand up and be all you truly are. You already have what you need inside you. I just help you remember.
Jennifer Elizabeth Masters is the author or Orgasm For Life, Odyssey Victim To Victory and a new book which shall remain a secret for now. She guides you lovingly to see the truth of who you are so that you can allow love to flow and your radiance to shine. When you lovingly accept yourself the way you are, everything in the world is brighter, people will be attracted to you because you radiate love back to them. You will find joy living in the present. 
What is Venus Retrograde? Occasionally, Venus appears to be moving backwards in the sky. "Appears" is the key word here, because, technically speaking, no planet actually moves backwards in their orbits around the Sun. In fact, they don't even slow down. Retrograde-station-direct cycles are essentially illusions that result from our point of view from Earth, simply because the Earth is also orbiting the Sun at a different speed than the other planets. Venus is Retrograde approximately 40-43 days every 18 months.
Aries and Aries Ascendant: This Venus Retrograde cycle occurs mostly in your fifth house of romance, pleasure, speculation, and children. Because the cycle directly affects your sector of romance and speculation, you should be especially wary of jumping into arguments with a lover and taking risks with gambling. You may feel you are on shaky ground in the romance department. You don't need to share all your feelings with a lover right now, and you shouldn't jump to conclusions if your lover needs a little space either. It can be hard to derive satisfaction from your romantic and creative activities for the time being. An old lover may resurface in your life, complicating matters. As well, Venus rules your partnership and income sectors, and both of these things may come up for review during this retrograde cycle.
Taurus and Taurus Ascendant: This Venus Retrograde cycle occurs mostly in your fourth house of home and family. Relations with your family may be a little strained. You might want to wait until Venus is direct before you express your frustrations with family members! What you say now may be costly. Furthermore, if you take the time to think about things, your approach to dealing with these issues later is likely to be much more productive. The desire or need for warm relations with family members, or for support and a feeling of security, is especially strong but the path to satisfaction may be hard to find just now. This is a great time to think about how to improve your home, but not necessarily for going forward with projects. You are ruled by Venus, and you are likely to be more withdrawn than usual, which can be a source of concern for your lover. People from the past may resurface either physically or simply coming to the forefront of your mind. You may be dealing with past karma now. With Venus as your ruler, you are especially sensitive to all of the Venus Retrograde issues described above. Venus also rules your work and health sector, and the desire for satisfaction and warm relations on the job is likely strong now, but hard to get.
Gemini and Gemini Ascendant: This Venus Retrograde cycle occurs mostly in your third house of communication, siblings, and neighbors. You may withdraw from chit-chatting during this period, and this might alienate a few people, especially siblings and perhaps neighbors. Conversely, you might find it hard to derive satisfaction from these people, or from learning situations in general. Communications may seem insincere. In fact, you may have a hard time getting your ideas across in a warm, genuine manner. You may be misreading body language as well. For some, conversations about love or about past relationships can figure strongly. Because Venus rules your romance sector, don't jump to conclusions if a lover is acting a little distant. Wait it out. Venus also rules your twelfth house, and your desires from love and relationship may be hard to figure out for the time being.
Cancer and Cancer Ascendant: This Venus Retrograde cycle occurs mostly in your second house of money and values. As such, in addition to the general situations associated with Venus retrograde, hold on to your money. Take the time to re-think your sources of income and how you spend your cash during this period, and avoid making any big purchases until September, or better, October. You might use this time to work on how you attract (or repel) the income you deserve. Relationships with friends and family may be a little strained, as these are Venus-ruled areas of your chart.
Leo and Leo Ascendant: This Venus Retrograde cycle mostly occurs in your sign, affecting your first house of personal appearance and mannerisms. This cycle certainly affects the personal image you project to others. Others may misunderstand what you do and say, and misread your body language. Others may not be seeing you in the most favorable of light, and events may be such that you feel the need to rethink the way you present yourself. You may be coming across in a harsher, even militant manner without even realizing it. Try to keep things status quo with regards to your love life. Don't worry if a lover isn't quite "getting" you for the time being. Things will change once Venus turns direct. Also, take this time to review your instinctual responses to new things and the first impression your make on others in terms of how these things help or hinder you. Venus-ruled areas of your chart are career, authority figures, and communications. These may not satisfy as much as you'd like just now. Extra caution in these areas of life may be necessary now.
Virgo and Virgo Ascendant: This Venus Retrograde cycle occurs mostly in your twelfth house of all that lies beneath the surface of things. People from the past may resurface either physically or they might simply come to the forefront of your mind. You may be dealing with past karma now. What you want from love--your desires--are very ambiguous and obscure during this cycle. Deal with your past so that you can put it behind you, but don't do it at the expense of your present. Venus rules your money and possessions sector, as well as your ninth house of adventure and discovery. Watch for impulsive spending. Take the time to review your finances. Try not to feel disillusioned with life in general - think about ways to improve your life experiences.
Libra and Libra Ascendant: This Venus Retrograde cycle occurs mostly in your eleventh house of friendships, groups, and aspirations. Your friendships or associations with groups may be a little strained during this period--a time when you may withdraw and others might misinterpret your intentions, or when friends are distant. You may get the feeling that friends are either disinterested or insincere during this cycle. Venus rules your sign, suggesting that you could be distancing yourself, questioning whether others are truly good for you. Your eighth house of shared resources and intimacy is Venus-ruled as well, and you might find your intimate life leaves you wanting, and that it's hard to find emotional (and financial) support when you need it most.
Scorpio and Scorpio Ascendant: This Venus Retrograde cycle occurs mostly in your solar tenth house of career and reputation. For the time being, the social aspect of relationships on the job may be compromised somewhat. Be as non-judgmental as you can with co-workers during this cycle. You might find that your professional reputation is not as favorable as it typically is, at least not from your point of view. You may not know how exactly you would like to come across, and this could be the reason for any confusion just now. Your partnership sector is ruled by Venus, and you could find some challenges relating to a spouse or close partner during this period. Past lovers may figure strongly in your life now. With Venus ruling your privacy sector, you could also be dealing with past actions or karma. It's time to redefine what (and possibly who) it is that you desire.
Sagittarius and Sagittarius Ascendant: This Venus Retrograde cycle occurs mostly in your ninth house of faith and adventure. An argument over personal philosophies of life can get you into hot water, or you could be reassessing your faith, during this cycle. It may be that your larger, broader plans and visions don't satisfy you very much these days. This is a cycle during which you might redefine these visions. Friendships and working relationships are Venus-ruled in your chart, and special care should be exercised in these areas of life. Be patient if these matters fail to satisfy you for the time being.
Capricorn and Capricorn Ascendant: This Venus Retrograde cycle occurs mostly in your eighth house of intimacy, shared resources, and personal transformation. Hold onto your money, work on a budget, and resist arguments with loved ones that revolve around intimacy and sexuality. A disagreement over joint finances can also get you into hot water. Hold back. What you say now can have annoying ramifications. You may find it hard to feel supported by others, and your intimate life may seem superficial or even strained. You might use this time to review past purchases or to handle financial matters such as taxes that you have put off (or you may be forced to do so). Venus-ruled areas of your chart are also affected--career, as well as relationships with lovers and children.
Aquarius and Aquarius Ascendant: This Venus Retrograde cycle occurs mostly in your seventh house of one-to-one partnerships. Misunderstandings with your partner now can be troublesome. If you need to talk through problems, do your best to be as non-judgmental as possible, and don't over-react to what your partner has to say either. A close partner could be distant emotionally, or a partnership can appear stalled for the time being - something is up in the air. Watch also for less than warm relations with family members, and avoid purchases of new property just for now.
Pisces and Pisces Ascendant: This Venus Retrograde cycle occurs mostly in your sixth house of work, health, and habits. In addition to the general cautions outlined above, the social aspect of relationships on the job may be strained for the time being. Do your best not to let people get to you. The desire for warm relations on the job is strong, but the path to satisfaction hard to find. Schedule major beautification processes around this cycle if possible. There can be focus on healing and processing when it comes to health. This retrograde cycle also affects the Venus-ruled sectors of your solar chart, which are your communications and intimacy sectors. You may be feeling unsupported emotionally and financially, and you may feel a little withdrawn when it comes to daily communications and light chit-chat.