Emotional Availability

By Jennifer Elizabeth Masters

It is easier to notice emotional unavailability in others than to notice it within ourselves. When we are able to point it out in others, it is time to look within. We rarely see issues in other people unless, we too have them within us. If you don't believe me it is time to book your cruise up Denial. (Not to be confused with the River Nile.)

Recognizing that we are emotionally unavailable can be difficult. We feel broken in some way, perhaps even shut down. Which is true. Being emotionally unavailable means that we are not able to connect deeply with another. In our relationships we have superficial affection and love, rather than deep connected and authentic love. We often blame others for our circumstances and have difficulty taking responsibility for our own part in situations.

I am a master at emotional unavailability because I was one of those who pointed it out in my husband and lovers. I know how difficult it was for me to recognize that I was emotionally unavailable. I had been on my healing journey for over 20 years when it hit me. I had it too!

Alcoholics, addicts and co-dependent people are emotionally unavailable. Take your pick I used to fit in all of the categories. 

I was married to a workaholic. I dated an alcoholic. I was a shopaholic. I battled a sugar addiction. I used to be extremely codependent. Actually, my sense is that most people deal with codependency at some point in their lives. We attract others that are emotionally unavailable. Our partners provide a mirror to our own soul, issues and trigger mechanisms. As infants we are extremely codependent. If we are not given the love, affection and acceptance in our childhood, we remain codependent as adults. When trauma occurs in childhood, we are often frozen emotionally in this place and time. Our inner child never matures. We continually go back to the point of trauma when we are triggered in our relationships. 

Being codependent means that you need another to feel fulfilled. Without a person or substance to fill the void that you feel inside emotionally, you can feel empty, broken, afraid or all of the above. You could fill that hole inside with work, shopping or food. Alcohol, pot, sugar, pain-killers, relationships, or even methamphetamine could be your drug of choice. Most humans have some form of addiction at some point in their lives. Being aware of it, rather than in denial is part of the healing. Taking responsibility for our part and recognizing we have the issue is a huge part of the process.

Before I began to heal from my own addictions and codependence, I was reactive in relationships and often depressed. I looked for a man to fill the void that I felt inside me. It never lasted long, because I continued to feel unhappy with life, myself and the world. 

Often we blame our bosses, co-workers or parents for where we are. If you are blaming anyone for anything right now, you are likely emotionally unavailable and probably codependent as well. You are in good company. Most movie stars, rock stars and famous people are the most needy. Just because people look beautiful on the outside does not mean that they are confident, self assured and strong on the inside.

When we love and accept ourselves, the codependence diminishes. Eventually we recognize that it is no longer present at all. We no longer feel lonely, afraid or in need of another to fill the void, because there is no void any more. We feel whole, complete, happy alone, no matter where we are. There is no longing for something to fill us, or complete us. We are already complete. 

For me, the process of healing began with the ending of my third marriage. In the ten years between marriages I worked diligently on myself. I studied, read, learned and evolved. I saw healers, chiropractors, acupuncturists, psychics, hypnotherapists and Reiki masters. I became a hypnotherapist, energy healer and deeply connected in the process of my healing. I experienced an awakening in 2012 that changed my life forever. This awakening changed my heart and filled me to overflowing. Loneliness, longing does not exist for me any longer. Instead, I live in peace, love and joy. 

The key to healing emotional unavailability is complete self acceptance and unconditional love of the self. This is what I help my clients with. I have done it myself. There was never anyone more emotionally broken, shattered, negative or codependent than me. If I can do it, so can you!

You cannot love yourself when you hold a baseball bat in one hand to beat yourself up with and a magnifying glass in the other to magnify all your faults. We all have faults and we all have a shadow side. Loving all those parts is what unconditional love is all about. Doing this on your own could take you a lifetime like it took me. Or you could ask for my help. The choice is yours.

One of the things that helped me was The Divine Presence Process Meditation. I did it daily, sometimes two or three times a day. I had mystical experiences during this time. On one such day, I climbed into bed in Boulder, Colorado for a nap and showed up on a pool deck my son, David was cleaning in Atlanta, Georgia. We are so much more than you realize. You have the power to fill this void. I would be delighted to assist and empower you to do so. http://youtu.be/8RNHrXoWWsc

Below are some ways to begin to open up, let go of fear and allow someone in:

1. Awareness of an issue shines light where darkness has been. Once you are aware, your issues can begin to change.
2. Tell your partner you are working on some deep issues. Ask for support in your growth process.
3. Know that you are not broken. Your heart closed up to protect you. When you feel safe enough you will begin to open and let down the walls.
4. Spend time in quiet, repose. Go within and forgive yourself. Self forgiveness is the first step in letting go of walls that divide you from deep authenticity. 
5. Use the Kahuna healing prayer and talk to your inner child envision your inner child and look them in their eyes while saying: I am sorry, please forgive me, I love you thank you.
6. Envision yourself hugging your inner child. You may cry. You may feel relief. 
7. Notice ways that you run away from conflict, deep conversations, and sexual intimacy. Pay attention to times that you begin to separate from conversations that feel too deep. Remind yourself to stay connected during love-making. Make eye contact with your partner instead of closing your eyes. Disassociation is common with sexual intimacy. Stay with your partner instead of separating from your body. 
8. Relax and breathe. Being in the present moment instead of focusing on the past and future will help you stay connected to what is going on in the now.
9. Develop deep trust with your partner with soulful communication. Being conscious, aware and connected, rather than busy with your cell phone, Internet, and television. All of these devices can increase separation from self and deepen emotional unavailability. Alcohol, drugs, and work are areas which we can avoid deep intimacy. Notice where you shut down using these things. 
10. Hire a coach that has healed these issues. A coach can provide insight into your patterns that create separation and avoidance. 

Jennifer is a life, love and sex coach, author of the forthcoming book: Orgasm For Life. She has healed codependency, emotional unavailability issues, Epstein Barr syndrome, Fibromyalgia and breast cancer. You can schedule a discovery session with Jennifer to see if you are a good fit for her work. E-mail her NOW!   Her website is: http://www.JenniferElizabethMasters.com

Sensuous Mouth Loving Heart Connection

By Jennifer Elizabeth Masters

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I love it when the light bulb flashes over my head and insight comes to me. I love when life inspires me, as it did yesterday. I visited my least favorite place in the world ....... the dentist. Driving away from my appointment, I began to realize how deeply our mouth and hearts are connected. Our mouths are personal, private and usually the first point of contact between us and another.

Our mouths communicate our feelings and desires to another. This connection between our mouths and heart is more profound that we ever thought. Our bodies systems work together, in synch and in amazing ways. Any issue that you have in your mouth goes to the heart. If you have periodontal disease, you will have an infection around the pericardium. Knowing this could save your life. Even the names are similar. 

We rarely think about the connection between the mouth and the heart. In July, 2012 when my ex-husband, died in his sleep from an abscessed tooth, his death drove home to our family, the importance of dental care, flossing and regular check ups. I wrote about this in one of my first blogs. Heart disease can be exacerbated by issues in the mouth, ultimately causing death. Being at the dentist drove home the connection about the heart and mouth in a different way.

Think about your first kiss. You may have connected through your eyes, before you connected with your lips. The anticipation of your lips first brush with one another is exciting in itself. Your heart raced, your face blushed, you were filled with an electrical charge. The heart produces electricity. As a matter of fact, it acts as our body's generator. A kiss brings an electric jolt to the heart. There is no doubt that a romantic connection exists between our mouth and heart. 

A kiss for men releases oxytocin, which helps to bond us together. Oxytocin is known as the God hormone, or cuddling hormone. A kiss is no small thing. It is a intimate moment where time stands still. An electric current ignites and moves between two people during a kiss. 

Men find women's lips sexy. Why? There are so many reasons why this is true. Men may begin to think of all the things they want to do with our mouths. Beyond the sexual, the sound of our voice that comes out of our mouths can make someone fall in love with us. A first kiss, can be like an electric jolt that runs through our body, culminating in our heart.

When we connect through a kiss with someone, a wave of current flows between us, igniting our hearts. Love begins with the first kiss. 

Our mouths can bring joy. Speaking kind words, telling someone how much they mean to you. Kind words can deepen love for someone. When we first get to know someone, talking on the phone, our focus in on their voice. We are entraining our energy with theirs through our voices. The words we speak to a loved one can have a tremendous effect on them, positive and negative. 

Our mouths can also bring heartache. When someone opens their heart to you, your words can also cut like a knife. Being careful to be compassionate, honest, open and loving in your communication even when delivering bad news is important. Using conscious communication means that you are thinking about what you are saying, before you speak the words. When we speak hurtful words without thinking, damage can be created that may never be undone or forgotten. Once we speak words, we cannot turn back the hands of time and take them back. 

There is no doubt that the heart and lips are connected, like a closed system working together for us to feel the magnitude of a loving connection. This spark, is like the small embers of a fire. When someone opens their heart to you, it is a tremendous gift that needs to be nurtured, protected and fanned to create a deeper for meaningful connection. With trust, honesty, integrity and compassion these small embers will burn into a fire that warms and bonds the two of you together forever. Love never ends. Our connection with another is always and forever remains. No divorce, death or severance of relationship ties puts a love completely out. It may grow smaller with time, but it is always present.

Join Jennifer tonight when she continues to discuss the chakras (2nd chakra - sexual energy) and how a blocked sex/second chakra can cause you money issues, issues getting ideas out into the world, as well as confidence.

(605) 475-4000 Pin 939401#  5:00 PM PST and 8:00 PM EST. Live and FREE! 

Jennifer is the author of the forthcoming book: Orgasm For Life

Here website is  JenniferElizabethMasters.com . Jennifer is a life, love and sex coach, hypnotherapist and energy healer. She has been a hypnotherapist since 1989, an energy healer since 2007. Her first book, Odyssey Victim to Victory is available on Amazon. Jennifer offers private coaching sessions to empower, create clarity, focus and find your soul purpose.

The Key To Lasting Happiness

By Jennifer Elizabeth Masters

Photo courtesy of Sarah Perkins Photography

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Interested in hearing who Jennifer is on the air? Join her this Friday at 1:00 PM EST and 10:00 AM PST as Hollis Chapman, author of the book Pursue Your Passion interviews Jennifer about her forthcoming book: Orgasm For Life.

This is Jennifer's second time on Hollis' show. Our last time was synergistic, laugh-filled and very entertaining. Find out what makes Jennifer tick, and more about her book.

Now more than any other period in history, people are struggling with their sense of identity. We think we are mothers, wives, husbands, and fathers. We believe we are lawyers, doctors, teachers, and farmers. Yet our role as a parent _fill in the blank is not who we are. Our profession whether it is a medical professional or a teacher is not who we are. We mistakenly identify with our profession. What happens when our professional role ends? What happens to us when this part of us dissolves, through layoffs, termination or retirement? What then?

When we are born we have no such identity. We come into the world as an infant with a fully formed soul intact. Our soul is not one of an infant - our soul does not see ourselves as a baby. Most people have not ever considered the fact that our souls live on after leaving our bodies. They have never considered what happens when we are reintroduced into a new body. The soul in your infant child was a fully formed being. 

Each and every soul on this planet has a purpose. Every person we come into contact with is influenced in some way by our presence. It does not matter whether we choose to be a parent or not, we still have the power to influence others. How we choose to be in the world is up to us. 

Feeling Lost?

Many of my clients come to me because they have looked for happiness in work or relationships. Although they may be happy and fulfilled by these things for a short while, the happiness is fleeting. It does not last a lifetime. Why does this happen? 

True Happiness

Happiness cannot be found permanently through work, love or a child. Our happiness must come from within us. If you are filled with self-loathing, condemnation and criticism, you will feel unfulfilled and maybe even depressed. I was chronically depressed for over 20 years. My depression created many other issues. Insomnia, restlessness, and chronic fatigue were among some of my issues. I also battled constant bladder, sinus. and chest infections. All of my self-criticism and self-loathing made me ill, it made me feel ugly. I recognized that there is an emotional component to all illness. When we are stuck and unable to cry, or release anger these emotions are lodged in our cells, causing bladder infections, bronchitis, sinus infections, pneumonia, and even cancer.

Moving Into Love

When we stop looking at ourselves with a magnifying glass, amplifying our faults and then beating ourselves up with a baseball bat we can begin to accept ourselves. Society teaches us to be perfect. Yet there is no such thing as a perfect individual. 

We all make mistakes. We can all be misguided. Our emotions, self-doubt, and fear get in the way of choosing the best direction for ourselves. We often choose partners that end up betraying us, hurting us or leaving. When we recognize that we are okay as we are, and begin to love ourselves unconditionally, our body relaxes, our fear falls away. We don't have to change, only our perception of ourselves has to.

Changing Thoughts

The greatest change anyone can make for themselves is to change their thoughts.

Self-deprecating comments have no place in your head. JEM (Yes that is my motto.) 

I usually have great success when I tell my clients, "If God would not say these things to you, why do you?" When you begin to discipline your mind to think only positive thoughts about yourself, you begin to feel more positive. You accept yourself even is you don't choose wisely. You begin to use the events in your life as teachable moments. Learning from the events, rather than beating yourself up. 

You Are Not Your Thoughts!

It is possible to change your thoughts. There was probably no person on this planet that was more negative than I was. I was raised in an environment where criticism was rampant. It was all I knew. I became what my parent taught. I condemned myself and judged everyone else. There was a turning point where a boyfriend hit me between the eyes telling me how judgmental and critical of others I was. I began to listen to the voices in my head. Someone else had to tell me, I could not see this for myself. 

It took effort, but I began to stop those thoughts that didn't support me. I had begun to believe all the negative voices in my head saying I wasn't good enough, I wasn't smart enough and I wasn't deserving. It took effort, but this was the start of something really wonderful. 

As I began to think more positive things about myself, I began to feel better. My illness that was so prevalent went away! I stopped having sinus infections, bladder infections and bronchitis. Even breast cancer was healed with loving thoughts about myself and my mother within months. 

Who Are YOU?

When you look at yourself now, who do you see? Do you see the beautiful radiant light that is within you? Do you see the wise woman, or man that guides others with your truth? Do you see the beauty and grace that pervades your life? Do you see the unlimited opportunities for joy and happiness when you stop beating yourself up for not being perfect?

You are not your thoughts. You are not your job. You are not just a sister, brother, technical writer or doctor. You are so much more than that. You are the light that permeates all that you do. You have a purpose, people to lift up with your light, children to guide, lives to change. 

Adam, Ariel, David in Boulder, Colorado

When I was in my thirties, I thought I was just a mother. Looking back at my adult children now, I see three beautiful adults serving humanity in their own way. I used to feel small, as a stay-at-home mother. I felt unintelligent and uneducated in comparison to my husband who was so smart. Now, I no longer compare myself with others. I am my own light. There is no one else like me. There is no one else like you. There is no one else who has your gifts, talents or wisdom. There is no other person on this planet that has your exact soul purpose. You are the source of your happiness. No one else can give it to you.

If you are still not feeling it. Isn't it time you set up a discovery session with me to find your inner light. To begin to love every part of your soul, body and who you truly are? If you are not finding the joy and happiness where you are - contact me right now! Your life will change in beautiful ways.

Visit my website: http://www.JenniferElizabethMasters.com

Or send me a private e-mail to discuss finding your inner happiness. JenniferElizabethMasters@gmail.com

Jennifer Elizabeth Masters is the author of Orgasm For Life. She is a love and passion coach, speaker, certified hypnotherapist, life, Master Energy healer, NLP practitioner and light worker. She is intuitive catalyst for self growth. 

Positive Body Image Contributes To Better Sex

By Jennifer Elizabeth Masters

Are you naked healthy? Do you feel good clothed or naked? Or do you quickly undress and slip under the covers and hope no one notices? 

We may long to have the perfect body. Looking around, there are not many that have a perfect model's body. It is important to feel beautiful just to be you. It is possible. You don't have to be a bathing suit model like Adam Gates, above. (This is my son in the photo.) Great genes? Maybe. He works very hard to maintain his body. He is a fitness coach AND a model. It is his profession. 

The truth is that we can feel good about our own body by being accepting. It does not take a perfect body to feel sexy and attractive. The happier you are being you, the happier you will be with your body. The more comfortable you are with your body, the better you will feel getting naked.

Being naked exposes not only your body, but your confidence or lack of. When you feel good about yourself, it does not matter that your breasts may be resting on your abdomen, or that your belly is round rather than flat. Looking at yourself naked, do you see beauty or do you see fat and ugly? Changing your perspective and self talk will change the way you feel without changing who you are.

Standing in front of the mirror telling yourself that you love you can feel a little funny. Put your hands on your butt and tell yourself, "I love my butt!" Put your hands on your belly and tell yourself, "I love my belly!" Standing naked in front of the mirror look at yourself and mean it when you say, " I love all of me!" The more love you give to yourself, the more accepting you will be.

As we get older, age can shift body parts. Many of us don't look quite like we did when we were in high school. Yet, how we view ourselves is more important. Rather than focusing on your belly being fat, why not accept yourself as you are and say, "I love my body." The more loving and accepting of yourself, as you are - the better. The more comfortable you are with your body, the more you will enjoy sex when it happens. If you are busy focusing on how you look naked, you won't be able to let go and enjoy the moment. For women, that can mean the difference between having an orgasm or not.

Remember the key ingredient to great sex is being able to surrender to the moment and focus on the pleasure. You won't be able to when you are thinking about how heavy you have gotten. Some women have a poor body image but have gorgeous bodies. It is a matter of perspective. 

Atlanta photo shoot - Adam Gates

When we use negative self-talk (telling ourselves we are fat, or look awful) is not supportive. We can become depressed and not want to walk or go to the gym. Instead love yourself enough to want to get your body moving. Beating ourselves up for the cookies, chocolate and ice cream we ate over the winter is not going to help us feel better. Instead use the opposite tactic. Affirm that you love your body. You love your body so much that you will take care of it like you would a little baby. You wouldn't give an infant Oreo cookies and ice cream daily, would you? Of course not! Cut back on one of your indulgences a little each day. Allow yourself a cheat day once a week to have something you love. 

Eating healthy and regular exercise is important. Taking care of our health can keep us young, vibrant and sexually active longer. If we become overweight, our heart may labor and we may have high blood pressure. Blood pressure medicine can impede love-making by getting in the way of an erection. 

Limiting sweets and eating more fruit, vegetables and drinking more water can help us become healthier. The immediate issue though is how we feel about our bodies. 

Here are a few suggestions to assist you to feel better about your body right now:

1. Stop telling yourself that you are heavy, fat or overweight.
2. Begin telling yourself how beautiful you are - daily.
3. Look at yourself in the mirror each day naked, and say, "I LOVE MY BODY!"
4. If you are wanting to lose weight; instead of focusing on the negative, tell yourself that you are getting thinner and thinner every day! You mind will move into action and make it so. (This is a hypnotherapy tactic to access your unconscious mind). 
5. Every night before you go to sleep tell yourself: "I love myself just the way I am!" Repeat this at least three times before sleep.

Remember that you can't let go and enjoy sex to the fullest when you are focusing on how heavy you think you are. We need to get out of our heads and into our bodies. Instead, when you are sprawled across your lover's bed affirm to yourself: "I am a beautiful woman." or for men, "I am a gorgeous hunk of a man!" You will be surprised how this consciousness permeates the room. Don't be surprised if you are told, "Wow you are so beautiful!"

Jennifer Elizabeth Masters is a life, love and sex coach. Her website is:  http://www.JenniferElizabethMasters.com She empowers women and men to love themselves fearlessly. She helps women overcome sexual dysfunction and low self esteem. When we love and accept ourselves completely, we become stronger, more confident and powerful individuals. We stop looking for love outside of ourselves, because we find it inside instead. When we love and accept ourselves, we become a magnet for love!

When we love ourselves unconditionally, all of our life gets easier. We step into the FLOW, and stop pushing our energy to MAKE THINGS HAPPEN. We become allowing. Living in the present. The key to happiness is love of self. It all begins within. Jennifer is a catalyst for empowerment and self love. Healing her own issues makes her sensitive to what you are experiencing. She is intuitive cutting to the root issues quickly. 

Doing The Easiest Thing Rather Than The BEST THING

By Jennifer Elizabeth Masters

We all have responsibilities and jobs to do. Long ago I resolved to be the best at whatever it was I was doing. I may not be the best in the world, but I do the best I can possibly do in my work, coaching and life.

Sometimes we find others that would rather do the easiest thing, rather than the best or the RIGHT thing. I encountered this today, when a client informed me that a letter she wrote to me was returned with "insufficient address." She asked me what was missing on the envelope. There was nothing missing. I wondered if I had died and the post office was returning my mail because of my death. Nope! That is not the case. Still very much alive. 

My daughter's brand new driver's license had not arrived after over a month. We were beginning to wonder what was going on. I had decided to visit the DMV when I was next in town and see what was going on. Since my daughter only has another month here before moving to Colorado for college, it is imperative she has her license. 

My regular mail carrier knows my daughter and I by name. He even knows our dogs. I knew he was not the issue. I wondered if the post office had added something to the zip code that I was not aware of? No. That was not the issue either. They also informed me that I appeared very much alive. That was good to know. I felt so much better.

The post master called Roy, my mail carrier and he replied he had not returned any of our mail. The post master began to dig deeper, because we had Christmas gifts returned and all sorts of other things in the past for no apparent reason. 

What he found was that there were four routes with my street name. Several were with much higher numbers. A female carrier was given my mail by mistake. Rather than locate the correct route and carrier, she had arbitrarily marked my mail, "INSUFFICIENT ADDRESS!"

Laziness, ineptness and apathy are my biggest pet peeves. This woman is just the type that gives "government workers" their bad name. She did not try. She did not ask. She did what was the easiest for her to do. She did not want to walk to the post master or her supervisor and ask what to do. She took the easy way out.

As You Do ONE THING Is How You DO EVERYTHING!

Where in your life do you take the easy way out? Are you  lazy in bed, life or your relationships? Do you slough off your duties, or take the easy way out? Being the best you can be involves all areas of your life. The best mother, father, lover, husband, wife or friend. Will you go to the ends of the earth to help, assist or give? Or do you take the lazy way? Giving your all and being the best you can be involves positive energy, rather than negativity. 

Be The Best You Can Be

Being the best version of yourself helps you feel better about you on a daily basis. You don't have to look back and beat yourself up for not doing your best. Your best may be better than the next person, but it may not be equal to someone else's best. Knowing you are doing your best on any given moment will fill you with satisfaction and happiness knowing that you are being the best version of you.

When you are giving your all, you can attest to that fact. "Sir, I did my level best, Sir, yes sir!" Well maybe your wife is not a drill Sargent, but she might appreciate your humor. You know you gave it all and held nothing back. When all is said and done, knowing you gave your all throughout your life, will give you the satisfaction of knowing you were the best version of you and helped raise your neighbor, your children, your family and the global vibration of humanity a little bit more. Giving your all - makes you feel good about yourself. Leave nothing on the table. Give it all! At the end of your life when you are asked, "Did you give your all?" You can answer honestly, "Yes, Sir I did."

Jennifer Elizabeth Masters is an authentic psychic coach. She values honesty, integrity and gives her all in her coaching. She is available for private coaching sessions for Life, Love, Sex and Relationship coaching. Her foundational work is Self Love. Her Love Yourself Fearlessly Program is transformational. Many people meet their soul mates while going through or just following her programs.

Her website is: www.JenniferElizabethMasters.com Schedule your discovery session with Jennifer to see if you are a good fit for her programs.

Less Endowed - Less Confidence?

By Jennifer Elizabeth Masters

As a young woman we look at ourselves and our breasts and wonder, when will mine grow? Will I ever look like _______ (fill in the blank). Many men have issues with lack of confidence from being smaller in the package department than their peers. Breast implants, penile implants, facial surgery is a multi-billion dollar industry for a reason. People don't love what they have and don't love who they are. The issue of confidence still remains however, because it is an internal issue, rather than external one. Focusing on the inner rather than the outer is the way to remedy this issue. Hiring a coach can help you move beyond not feeling enough. You are already enough, you just aren't aware that you are.

If your confidence is based on lack of something you are barking up the wrong tree. I dated a man who was a little smaller than average. I did not have an issue with this, but he did. At least once a day he would say to me that he had to make up for his size by performing better than average - or being a better lover. He was creating a mountain out of his mole hill. He made his issue bigger by focusing on it. A size issue is usually related to inner self worth, rather than a physical issue.

Have you ever noticed that when people have their stomach stapled they have a different issue crop up somewhere else. This is because they were focusing on a physical issue when the REAL problem was how they felt about themselves. Often the plastic surgery is done - and the low self esteem remains.

The key here is how we feel about ourselves. If you keep looking at your penis and saying, "It is too small!" you are perpetuating a myth. Most women are happy with the size of their men. It is the men who are not happy with their size. 

Focusing on something repeatedly, that you feel is lacking creates low self esteem. Instead focus on being enough. What most people don't realize is that when we feel we are not good enough, not worthy or not big enough creates a blocked root and second chakra. Our root chakra is the source of our security they way we are seen out in the world. The second chakra is all about manifesting. If these two chakras are blocked you will create or already have also created issues with money.

The root chakra is associated with the color red and is located in between the perineum and the base of the penis in men. In women between the anus and the vagina. The second chakra is located in between the pubis bone and the navel. For women it is associated with ovaries, reproduction and menstrual cycles. If your second chakra is blocked you may have issues with cramping and money. 

Here are some ways to create confidence and raise your self esteem:

1. Repeat this mantra upon awakening and just before going to sleep and any other time your mind is in neutral:   I AM WORTHY. 
2. Focus on being enough. I AM ENOUGH! 
3. Love what you have. I LOVE MY BODY! Stand in front of the mirror every day, look into your own eyes and tell yourself - I LOVE MY BODY!
4. Join me Wednesday night for my podcast to clear the first two chakras. (605) 475-4000 PIN 939401# at 5:00 PM PST and 8:00 PM EST. Its FREE!

Remember if you don't mention it most women will not even think it is too small. However, if you focus on it, speak about it you are creating an issue. This issue is one of self esteem. It is an internal rather than an external issue. When you feel good about yourself, it will cease to be an issue. Hire a coach to help you work through your issues of worthiness. Instead become great at oral sex. Learn how to bring a woman to orgasm manually - rather than through intercourse. Most women don't orgasm through the vagina - learn to do things differently. There are ways to be a better lover. Read my book: Orgasm For Life ..... The No Holds-Barred Guide To Creating BLISS  out on May 20th, 2014.

Jennifer is a certified Life, Sex and Empowerment Coach. She is the author of the forthcoming book: Orgasm For Life: The No Holds-Barred Guide For Creating BLISS.  JenniferElizabethMasters.com

Some Bunny Loves You

By Jennifer Elizabeth Masters

Easter is a time of year when suffering and love go hand in hand. Everyone in the world has suffered in some way. Whether you are Christian, Jewish, Muslim, Hindi or Buddhist suffering at some point has brought you closer to your true self and to God. The key is, you don't have to live in suffering you can move through it. On the other side of suffering and pain is JOY! I know, because that is where I live every day. I suffered in depression and sadness for over 30 years. It does not matter where I live, who I am with or what I am doing.....  I am living in a state of JOY! You can too. 

I want to wish each and every one of you a Joyous Easter! 

To all of you, thank you for reading my blog and supporting my work. The next few months are pivotal for my book. I will be offering FREE podcasts soon on Wednesday nights to talk about and expand on the subjects of my forthcoming book : Orgasm For Life .....  The No Holds-Barred Guide For Creating BLISS

I love you all. I wish you much joy and Bliss in your daily life. Today I am especially joyful, as I have had several visions of the future and it looks very very good! 

Jennifer Elizabeth Masters
Photo by Sarah Perkins Photography, Denver

Want to live in a state of permanent JOY? 

I mentor 3 clients each year for the entire year. This work takes you deep and moves you out of fear, limitations and lack of love. Most of my clients find a deep sense of themselves within the first three months. After the first three months we create a plan together which helps you continue to grow and evolve to feel that joy and happiness within - no matter whether you are in a relationship or not. When you have a deep sense of self, coupled with complete love and acceptance, you become a magnet for love. You radiate love into your world into everything you touch and everyone you meet. You can contact me through my website to talk one-on-one with me about where you are currently and whether you are a good fit for my work. For those clients who work closely with me, I am available for emotional emergencies that come up via text and phone for the entire year as well. 

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Want to hire a life coach, but wondered what happens? As a coach, I empower you to uncover what is going on with you, why you do things the way you do and what motivates you. I help you find out the deepest core issues that are challenges in your life and help you clear these energy patterns that have governed you for so long. I was a stubborn mule - set in my ways and I have changed monumentally. If I can do this = you can! This is a great opportunity to try out coaching with little investment up front. 

Take advantage of my JOY! and order a private coaching session. If you have thought about hiring a coach, but wondered how it works, and what happens during a coaching session, this is a perfect time to try coaching out. As a certified coach through Compass Life Coaching, now through May 17th, I am offering 5 special clients coaching sessions at the ridiculous low-cost of $80 per hour. That is $145 off my regular fee! You can purchase up to three sessions at this price. These sessions must be purchased by April 30. You can make a payment directly through paypal at : Divinehealingnow@yahoo.com  I can only offer 5 very special people this offer. So act quickly. Once I have 5 people sign up - I will close this deal. I have previously offered this same offer to my special private clients through my newsletter on my website. If you wish to receive my special offers more quickly you can. Sign up for my newsletter through my website here: JenniferElizabethMasters.com

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Jennifer is a hypnotherapist, intuitive life coach and a healed healer. She has healed depression, Fibromyalgia, Epstein Barr disease and breast cancer with thought and lots of self love. If you are wanting to live a life of happiness and joy - and find the inner peace within, Jennifer is the pathfinder that will show you the way. Working with Jennifer may be just the life-changer you have been looking for. Visit her website and read the testimonials. www.JenniferEliabethMasters.com

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The Lies We Tell Ourselves

By Jennifer Elizabeth Masters

Lies in a relationship create distance and disconnection. When we lie to ourselves (denial) we create disconnection between ourselves and our soul. Real growth only comes when we let go of our inner denial and face the whole truth of who we are.

We lie to ourselves about the food we eat, our health, or lack of it, weight, the people we marry or date and the way we really feel about our lives and ourselves. We lie to ourselves when we say no to sex with our partner, making up excuses for not wanting intimacy. We lie about the transactional aspect of sex. We often manipulate our partners through sex, in an attempt to get what we want. We lie to ourselves, by faking an orgasm, thinking that it is easier this way. It makes our partner feel better. All these forms of lying create disconnection and distance from yourself and your partner. 

Unless you have worked diligently to dig down and find all the ways you lie to yourselves you might disagree with most of my previous statements. That's okay, if you don't want to grow evolve and move out of your misery. The other side of misery is happiness and joy. The truth is, some people never venture beyond their pain and suffering, because it seems just too difficult. Sometimes, we prefer to believe the lie than be brutally honest with ourselves, because the truth is often very painful. Remember we don't have to stay in pain - we can move forward and through it. On the other side of pain is growth, and happiness. 

Staying in pain is suffering. Sometimes we are too afraid to go it alone, which is where we need a coach to encourage us and help us see all sides of an issue. A coach who has healed can be a great catalyst for growth and change. When we are stuck in fear and mired in our issues, we need someone to be our personal cheerleader, our confidant, our backhoe, that has the power and the skill to pull us up and out.

It is painful to recognize that the week our husband was on a business trip, that he was having an affair. It is painful to recognize that your wife of 30 years has decided she never wants sex again - ever. It is painful to look at your 8 year relationship and recognize that it is over. It is painful to recognize that your partner, lover, husband, wife is really playing for the other team and you're not part of that team. It is painful to recognize that your partner has an addiction and they are never going to change. It is painful to realize that the relationship you are in is not in your highest and best good.

Many of us have been lying to ourselves since we were children. Our parents may have lied to us. We often begin to lie to ourselves because we recognize that our parents had their own issues and may not have been the greatest role models. They may have been abusive, alcoholics or absent emotionally. We may have had to create a fantasy in our minds to make all of their behavior acceptable. If we were abused, molested or had other trauma, lying to ourselves was the only way we could survive. A lifetime of denial can be a huge pattern to break. It was for me. I used to prefer the lie to the truth.

I recently dated a man who professed his love for me on our first date. He had no idea who I was. He did not know I was psychic or that I could read his energy. He did what he always did with women. He lied. It obviously had worked in the past, because he continue to act in this way. It just didn't work with me. He wanted sex. He told me what he thought I wanted to hear. I wanted truth and all he gave me was lies. Most women prefer the lie. Are you one of them?

Love takes time to grow. We might become attracted to or infatuated with someone in an hour and a half, but we don't fall in love. We need to get to know one another, like each other and develop a bond. It doesn't happen in one date. 

I no longer need love and acceptance from others, because I give it to myself. We become stronger and more  powerful when we have a strong sense of self and connection with the spiritual. There was a time when I would have believed - or half believed the lies. Not any more. When we set the first date up, I told him I wanted to talk, he promised we would - he didn't want to, he wanted something else entirely. A persons' actions speak so much louder than words. We have to be alert, to see if the other person's actions and words align? If they don't, you are wasting your time. Thinking that your love will change another is fantasy and codependent thinking. These are habits that are ingrained. If they lie about one thing, they will lie about everything. People who lie usually cheat. Where we allow it to continue, rather than calling them on their fiction, we accept the lie. We join the person lying to us in their behavior.

When we don't love and accept ourselves, we are in such a deficit of love that we will accept any behavior to have what looks like love or sounds like love to make ourselves feel better. The problem with this line of thinking is that you will stay in a situation with someone who won't treat you well.  You will settle for less, because you feel you don't deserve MORE. When you love yourself unconditionally, you know without a shadow of a doubt you do deserve to be treated with love, respect, honesty and integrity, because you treat yourself and others this way.

We need to be strong enough to hear the lies. We need to be able to hear it for what it is and call the other person on it. When we remain mute, we are condoning the lie. 

When I was insecure, and codependent I believed whatever people told me, because I wanted love so desperately. I didn't love and accept myself. I was in a love deficit. I felt broken, empty and lonely. The deficit could be felt instinctively by others. My eagerness to please my boss, friends and co-workers, allowed me to be taken advantage of. I thought of myself as a victim.  Yet, I put myself there. When we don't love and accept ourselves, we long for attention, even if it is negative. We give seemingly from a selfless place, yet, it is really a place of need. Being needy is not attractive. Others feel it and don't like it. Men certainly don't find this attractive.

When we are in a state of desperation, we will accept almost anything. This is not a safe place to be. When we will accept any kind of behavior to have love, we will move in with, or marry the wrong person. We will accept almost any kind of treatment, because we long to be loved. We will date or marry people who are abusive, homosexual or addicted. Getting out of a relationship like this can take a lifetime, or take the life out of you.

For me, it wasn't until my last divorce, from a man who hid the fact that he was a closet homosexual AND an alcoholic. Even though I had done a lot of deep work, I hadn't dealt with the deep denial I had since childhood. This marriage certainly uncovered the myths, denial and lies I believed all my life. Although painful, this relationship was the turning point for the truth to be revealed for me about my childhood, my parents and just how broken I was from the abuse. I thought I was healed. But clearly I wasn't. I functioned fairly well on the outside, a lot had changed and healed, but not all. Many of us who have been traumatized in childhood or early teens by molestation have the deepest hurts which fragment our soul. 

Observe, Change and Grow

My last marriage was abusive in a different kind of way, he did not hurt me physically, or even threaten me. Instead he rejected me. He withheld love and affection. When I recognized that withholding love was abusive, I looked back and connected the dots. My mother also withheld love from me. She didn't accept me and approve of me. I was never good enough, smart enough, thin enough or a good enough mother. I either did too much or not enough for my children. Even into adulthood, every phone call was filled with judgment, criticism and condemnation. I saw how my marriage to this man mirrored my mother's behavior. 

Withholding love and affection from your partner or spouse is passive aggressive and abusive.  It was painful to recognize that my mother did not give me love, because she wasn't capable of it. I continued to look for men who were like my mother, because she was my role model for relationships. Until I recognized that my mother could never give me what I needed, I continued to search for love outside of me. It took me years to recognize she was teaching me that I had to give it to myself. We will continue to seek from others what we cannot give to ourselves.

The horror in this is that until I recognized that my mother's modeling of "LOVE" wasn't loving at all - I repeated the same behavior again and again in my relationships. I had been in denial of my mother's love, or rather lack of it! We continue to look for relationships that model our mother's love until we reprogram our own energy. Loving ourselves is the key to everything. When we reject ourselves, we attract partners who will never accept us. When we don't love ourselves, we attract others who won't love themselves either. These partners may be addicted, abusive and filled with rage, because of their own issues of self hatred and inner rage.

Ignoring a behavior is what gets us into trouble. Ignoring behavior is avoidance of the issue. This is DENIAL. Avoidance of conflict will not make the issue go away either. We have to face these issues, rather than run away.

The Key To Growth And Healing

We are shattered. Just like the glass that falls on the floor, an explosion of the whole takes place; fragments fly all over. We find pieces under the fridge, the dishwasher and even in the next room. For some, recovery is just too painful, because it means facing the awful truth, that our parents were not good people (or whatever the core issue is from childhood). They were really messed up. They were not capable of love. They should never have had children at all. Being the product of this kind of dysfunctional environment means you need to have help to heal. You can't do it alone. And it does not happen overnight, it can take decades to find all the missing fragments if you try to do so by yourself. 

Fear Keeps Us Stuck

It can be scary to face the truth. When we face the truth about another, we also have to look at ourselves and why we made the lies acceptable. Why did we talk ourselves into believing that certain behaviors were okay? Usually we did it because we just wanted love.

We Are Wired For Love

Humans need love. We all have an innate need to be loved and accepted. We have receptors in our brains that were wired for love. It is natural. Most of us will do almost anything to get it, feel it and receive it. Yet, we are all missing the point if we are looking for it somewhere else. It is what I did. I didn't have the love I needed from my parents, so I manufactured love and acceptance from others. I looked for approval from my bosses, my friends, my Spiritual mentors and lovers. I wanted validation, and love from others. The hidden truth is, however, that love has to come from YOU first. You have to give yourself love and acceptance unconditionally before you will find another to love and accept you. Energy moves in a circle, you have to give it to get it, and it all begins with you.

I Love Myself, Don't I?

Most people think they love themselves. I hear it all the time, when I am giving talks and speaking to clients for the first time. If you feel insecure, lonely or alone - you don't love yourself. If you feel like a victim, you don't love yourself. If you blame others for your life, your pain or condition, you don't love yourself. If you continue to try to please others, you don't love yourself. If you control, manipulate or give up yourself, your desires, your needs, dreams, friends, family and your wishes to please another, you don't love yourself. 

Where Do I Begin?

Our thoughts are pivotal. They are much more powerful than most people realize. Each thought is like a prayer. Would you pray to God, "God, I am so stupid........." No. Would God talk to you the way you speak to yourself, or think about yourself? 

You have to stop berating, condemning and criticizing yourself. Instead you have to approve and validate yourself. Until you love and accept yourself the way you are, you will never be happy with someone else. Happiness comes when you totally love and accept you as you are. It is a "Come as you are party" and you are the guest of honor. When we begin to love, honor and respect ourselves, without trying to change ourselves, everyone else does too. Deep introspection, uncovering our beliefs about ourselves takes getting to our unconscious mind - where our negative belief systems are buried away. These need to be unearthed, dusted off and examined. We need the help of a compassionate person who will encourage, empower and prod us to move beyond the old thought processes that keep us in this paradigm of unhappiness and limited beliefs. It is not just a matter of thinking, I love myself that brings change. It is re-programming, Spiritual re-parenting and healing our inner child. It is forgiveness and compassion that begins to reveal the beautiful light within you that has been there all the time, buried under the emotional debris and turmoil. 

How Do I DO IT?

When I began this healing journey, each practitioner was a step in the right direction. I visited a hypnotherapist in Atlanta, Georgia. His work helped to transform me.  I found it worked to re-program my mind. When I recognized the power of hypnotherapy, I studied with him and became certified as a hypnotherapist. I studied Louise Hay's work, and that of many other energy healers and became an energy healer, because I found the work powerfully life-changing. I became certified as an advanced Master Energy healer. I studied the Akashic Records with a shaman in Bali. 

I found this work to be transformational. I became a life coach when I found my clients benefited from intuitive counseling. Being certified as a life coach took my energy healing and intuitive abilities to a higher level. All of these modalities are combined in my work with my coaching clients. I do not choose a one-size fits all for my clients. Everyone is different. What works for one person, might not work for another. I work with each person as an individual. We work organically from where you are. The worksheets and homework I give my clients is the work I used to heal myself. I know it works. 

Jennifer can be reached through her website: JenniferElizabethMasters.com

Pain is the Catalyst For Growth

By Jennifer Elizabeth Masters

Show me a human, and I'll show you someone in pain. 

From back pain, to neck pain, headaches, stomach aches and heart aches, as humans we experience all manner of pain in our lifetime. I have found that all of our body issues begin with an emotional component that we have ignored and put off dealing with. When we ignore our emotions, we are stuffing molecules of those emotions deep into our cells. Not clearing these energies, we begin to experience symptoms which create illness and later disease. Listening to our body is paramount to avoid having to deal with cancer, arthritis and other life-threatening diseases later. Our body is the last defense, giving us warning signs that something is amiss. We need to pay attention before an abscessed tooth becomes a heart attack later on. {Abscessed tooth is from long-standing indecisiveness} Read my blog: Manic Move to The Mojave.

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As humans, we know we will experience some sort of pain in our lifetime. Suffering however, is something that we can avoid. One of my most Beloved Spiritual teachers is an Isahaya (monk). Vasestha always said, "Pain is inevitable, but suffering is optional." I have to say, I agree. Although I have experienced my own suffering, by staying in a relationship far too long when it was clearly not good for me. For being indecisive about what I was going to do, putting off moving forward. There are so many ways that we suffer. (But that is a blog for Easter.) 

We have a choice. We can choose to get out of our relationship that doesn't serve us. We can not associate with people who hurt us, take advantage of our good nature or just say, "NO!" 

Pain pushes us out of our comfortable place in front of the television. Pain pushes us to move across the country, or to quit a job. Pain causes us to expand beyond our perceived limitations. Pain is what makes us grow. In a relationship, many of us try to avoid pain. We avoid talking about issues that create conflict. We pretend that we are having great sex, when we clearly aren't. We hide our true feelings when we know they will create conflict. Avoiding pain, deepens and prolongs suffering. 

I say, kick it in the ass! Move forward, rather than try to keep your head above water in a dying marriage or unhappy relationship. Get out of your comfortable place in front of the television and move on. LET GO and grow. Staying in an uncomfortable place longer than you need to will create varicose veins. Ask me, I'll show you! Putting off important decisions can create ill health. Everything that goes on in our minds and emotions creates our health or illness. It is up to us to move forward. Sometimes, we need a push, or pull, kick or encouragement. This is what I provide you in my coaching work. Join me Tonight I will help you alleviate the pain - emotional and physical. 

Louise Hay wrote a fabulous book in 1984. You Can Heal Your Life is a book that I still recommend. In the 20 years since this book was written, the teachings and principles of the book, still hold true. I have read this book cover-to-cover three times. It was one of the most transformational books that I ever read. Simplistic in it's teaching, the proof is in the pudding. This is one of the books that helped me heal and transform my life from one of negativity and depression to Joy and enlightenment. 

Pain is what helps us move forward. When the pain becomes too great we do find the courage to move out of the relationship, job or situation that is not in our best interest. Believe it or not, being grateful for the pain, is a prayer you want to make. Pain will move you out of sadness, or depression into joy, apathy into feeling, from anxiety into trust. When we recognize that we are worth it - that we have value, our courage becomes the bootstraps that pull us up and out of the mire of suffering taking us into Joy. Yes, thank heavens for the pain. It got me to live in a place of joy and happiness. I am grateful for the pain.

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Jennifer Elizabeth Masters is a transformational coach and author of Odyssey Victim to Victory and Orgasm For Life: The No Holds-Barred Guide for creating BLISS. She empowers women and men love themselves fearlessly. The foundation of self love provides a grounding and personal empowerment which creates healthier relationships. Often those who don't love themselves, search for wealth, love, acceptance or validation outside of themselves. This never brings the joy and happiness that they are looking for. You must give love to receive love - beginning with yourself. If you don't give love to you, how can you possibly love another? You will be trying to please someone else, rather than standing in your power. We make the relationship much more important than our own well-being, often staying in an abusive or unsupportive situation too long. When we love and accept ourselves, we have a much greater capacity to love and accept others, to give and receive more love. We become a magnet for love and all manner of wonderful events to unfold in our lives. 

Jennifer is also a certified Hypnotherapist and Trainer, Master Energy healer and Neurolinguistic Programming practitioner. She has helped countless women and men find true love through her program Love Yourself Fearlessly. She is available for private sessions, Akashic Record consultations and energy clearings by appointment (Skype of Phone). She works with clients in India, Germany, Switzerland, France, Malaysia, The UK, Alaska, Australia, South America, Saudi Arabia, Canada and the United States. She resides north of LA, in California with her two dogs and cats. 

Orgasm For Life is due to launch, May 20, 2014. Watch for the audio version with narration and personal commentary by the author.

What Is Erotic?

By Jennifer Elizabeth Masters

Wikipedia:

Eroticism (from the Greek ἔρως, eros—"desire") is a quality that causes sexual feelings,[1] as well as a philosophical contemplation concerning the aesthetics of sexual desire, sensuality and romantic love. That quality may be found in any form of art, including painting, sculpture, photography, drama, film, music or literature. It may also be found in advertising. The term may also refer to a state of sexual arousal[1] or anticipation of such – an insistent sexual impulse, desire, or pattern of thoughts.


As French novelist Honoré de Balzac stated, eroticism is dependent not just upon an individual's sexual morality, but also the culture and time in which an individual resides.

I have been asked by Eric Jones and WRN radio show to discuss what is considered erotic for Wednesday's show. I began to think about events in my life, visual experiences and art forms. Eroticism varies on personality, upbringing and sensibilities.

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Subtleties rather than in-your-face pornography is my personal preference. But that is just the point. Each person may find different things erotic. Anticipation is a large part of eroticism. Waiting for what is to come, creates excitement. 

I have begun to write erotica. After hearing so many reports about 50 Shades of Gray and the quality of writing,

(by my mother who is now 92) I felt that a section in my book, Orgasm For Life would help my readers that needed their engines revved up to do so. Stories about lovers anticipating what is to come, can be extremely erotic.

Pornography although titillating for many, is too in my face, for my tastes. There is no relationship or deep connection in porn. Therefore, I find it repulsive and debasing. Respect for women is something our culture needs more of, rather than less. Don't get me started!

I have compiled a list of my suggestions of erotic situations and pleasures. If you are still wondering what erotic really means.The key here is being subtle. Some guys don't know what that means. Shoving someone's head onto your throbbing member is not subtle. Subtle means gentle, a suggestion of possible pleasure at some point in the future, but you don't know when. Anticipation is what excites. Slow, kisses on the back of the neck, like you have all day and the next week too. Take your time, enjoy the moment, rather than being the freight train that is done in two minutes. You might not get a second chance if you are the freight train. Women need slow, then fast, then slow. We need your gentle, slow touch, rather than a hasty finger in and out so you can stuff your half-hard penis inside us. No woman would appreciate that. 

Women are powerful. We don't need you as much as you need us. So take care. Go slow. Act like you like us. Be honest, respectful, and we will return the favor if you please us. Attitude? You betcha! Great sex is not something that is fast and over-and-done-with. Great sex happens when you take your time, romance us, and care about how we feel. To be a great lover you have to be patient, caring, tender as well as strong, and want to please your partner. When you are selfish, ego-filled, you will not listen to our bodies, or pay attention to how we are breathing. All these are signs to how you are pleasuring your partner.They are important. All our senses need to be stimulated, beginning with our minds. Taste, touch, smell, sounds, sights all figure prominently in great sex. Find a way to excite all senses. Here are a few:

1. Slipping naked into silk or satin sheets.
2. Showering with your lover and having them buff you with their body.
3. A beautiful feather stroking you from head to toe, slowly.
4. Having your lover whisper in your ear in the morning what they want to do to you when they come home. Thinking about that whisper and their breath on your ear, all day long. Extremely erotic. 
5. Having your lover wash your hair.
6. Having your lover paint your toenails. Without expecting anything in return.
7. Having your lover give you a long, slow all-over body massage with oil.
8. Laying on a beautiful tropical island with your lover next to you and thinking about what you want to do to them while the sun beats down on your half-naked body.
9. Sipping a cool drink lazily on this beautiful island in the shade, while your lover runs his hand slowly up your calf and stops at the knee, looking you in the eyes with a "I want to make love to you NOW!" look.
10. Having your lover make love to you all day - without touching you, through texts, phone calls, loving glances and wonderful anticipation.
11. A lingering kiss on the mouth, a longing look, and a sensual touch along your lower back, almost grazing your ass.......   the key here is subtlety guys. Right before you leave to go to work. This will keep us thinking about you all day long, wondering what will happen the next time we are together. Rather than the in your face "Give it to me because I am horny!" Such a turn off. Slow kissing, can be extremely erotic. Some people can orgasm through kissing alone.
12. When you make it all about us, rather than you.
13. When you give more than you receive.
14. You taking the time to draw a bath, light the candles, with a glass of Perrier, with no expectations of anything more. 
15. Having your lover drip honey onto your naked  body and then slowly lick it off. 
16. Sexy talk whispered into your ear while making love. Each person's acceptable vocabulary is different. Check with your partner first, before using foul language.
17. Reading erotica together can be extremely exciting. My personal favorite is Lady Chatterly's Lover. Published in 1928 by DH Lawrence.
18.  http://www.amazon.com/Lady-Chatterleys-Lover-Wordsworth-Classics/dp/1840224886

Jennifer Elizabeth Masters is the author of Orgasm For Life: A no holds-barred guide to BLISS launching on May 20, 2014. This book is not just a book about sex. It is a light-hearted and often humorous look at ourselves. It bridges the chasm between men and women where we make each other wrong. It crosses the lines of hate, mis-understanding, bringing us closer to who we truly are. Self Love is the foundation for healthy, loving supportive relationships, SEX is the glue. 

Sex helps us to connect with another deeply through our mind-body and spirit to raise our vibration and bring us closer to God/Allah/ Source/ Higher Power. This is where BLISS is. Sex is not dirty or wrong it is spiritual. Sex was after all, created by God. 

Jennifer's website is:  http://www.JenniferElizabethMasters.com