When Everything Falls Apart, There is Good News Coming

By Jennifer Elizabeth Masters

Life today is simple, easy, doing work I love. I am ecstatically happy every day. You would never know looking at me that seventeen years ago my life was crumbling in every direction. I was like the moth to the flame. 

When things fall apart, there is a reason. You have chosen situations that weren't in your highest good and the universe, and you have set about changing your life for the better. It just doesn't look like there is anything good happening right now. When change is coming, there is nothing you can do to stop it. You might feel that chaos is your only friend.

Following is the shortened version: part of my first book Odyssey Victim To Victory. What began to happen in my life was the momentous change in every way. 

My father died twenty-seven years ago, on September 22, 1989. My father was a larger than life character, a skeptic, freethinker, man's man who introduced me to Metaphysics. He taught me to believe only what I knew to be true, rather than what people wrote or said. My father had been abused by his father, ran away from home at seven on a freight train from Toronto to Vancouver, British Columbia. He repeated his adventure again at age twelve. A beating awaited him upon both returns. Why would someone do something so great at such an early age? His home life had to be so horrible that anything was better than staying there.

I met Rich weeks after my father's death. What I didn't recognize at the time was that the familiarity I felt being with him was his deep rage, like my father's. Even though I saw his dark, abusive side, I married him anyway. I married the bad boy. I ignored the red flags. He felt like home to me. His anger was so familiar; I felt like I was walking on egg shells the entire time we were married and long afterward.

I owned my home which was half paid off. Rich didn't like the fact that it was my home. He wanted to build "his house." It wasn't "our home," but HIS. His ego got in the way of recognizing I had a home we could easily afford. He pushed, prodded and

coerced me to use the equity in my home to live on and finance his building company. My fear of him was my motivator. My confidence and freedom were eradicated in this marriage. I felt imprisoned with no way of escaping. I had just given birth to Ariel I was forty-one. 

For those of you who have never experienced abuse, some of this will seem preposterous, impossible to believe. Emotional and physical abuse eradicates confidence. When there is a threat of violence, there is emotional abuse. It makes us feel dependent on our abuser for everything with no hope, no will, hopeless. Fear is an all pervasive energy that surrounds you even while you sleep. The fear that they might murder you and your children while you sleep is real. 

Like Attracts Like

(The caveat here is that Rich's brother an ex-marine had committed a pre-meditated murder of his brother-in-law while Rich and I were together. He stabbed him thirty-five times. Rich's father beat his mother, punching her in the face breaking her dentures in three. His family history was one of violence, greater than mine, but similar in energy.) My fear of anger and violence was the perfect match for Rich's DNA of rage. 

Huge beautiful home didn't bring happiness

Without giving all the details, Rich built a huge home - "his house" that we couldn't afford. He had four houses go back to the bank when the market crashed, and the economy tanked. We lost our home. Both my sons ended up living with their father; it nearly killed me. My family is the most important part of my life, losing both my sons even temporarily was devastating to my health and happiness.

The light was dawning in my mind, I wondered how I could escape with my life and safety of my daughter. 

I sold all my beautiful things so that we would have money to live on, Rich sold none of his tools. While we were losing our home two of my beloved dogs were hit by one car. My oldest Siamese kitty's health failed and her son and another dog had to be put to sleep within six months of our foreclosure. I knew all my animal's deaths were trying to tell me something. Messages were everywhere. I needed to get out too, but how?

I had started a landscaping company before we lost our beautiful home. I had begun to make enough to support myself without Rich's help. When his control of my phone calls, friends and family became too great, I finally got the courage to tell him he needed to leave. 

The Universe sends help when we make a positive move for change. I gave him two weeks to move out. It just so happened that my sister-in-law's brother, Alan had met a woman on the Internet and had flown to Georgia from England to be with her. When he

Right before our split

arrived from England, he found that she had misrepresented herself and was still married! He was heart-broken. He spent all his hard-earned money to fly over from The UK, only to find out she had lied! I recognized immediately that Alan was in Georgia for the first time for my protection and to ensure Rich left without hurting or harming anyone.

When we talked, I explained what was happening with me and he quickly agreed to stay with me until Rich moved out. Alan was part of my family and had known me since I was fourteen.

My world was falling apart on all levels. I was in fear for my life while I slept. I hid Rich's guns until I could get him out of my house. We moved to a farmhouse, in the Georgia countryside with a barn to store my tools. I found this beautiful place in a very strange way. I loved the house and the land and wanted to stay. This property was perfect for my daughter and I. It felt wrong for Rich to be there. I knew Rich had to go.

Why Things Happen The Way They Do

Our DNA has a great power over us, as does our karma. We attract what our parents model for us. Mine had modeled abuse, anger, and negativity. I was afraid of men. I was a magnet for a man who raged, yelled and became big and scary when he was angry. Rich was jealous, controlling and a macho man, like my father in many ways, except that he didn't drink. The biggest similarity was his rage. I was attracted to that part of him that was so similar in energy to my father, unconsciously. 

What Feels Like Home Might Not Be The Best For You!

I was attracted to what felt familiar. When I wrote down a list of what experiences I had in my home they were the following:

HOME

• criticized, ignored, not heard

• put down, teased, made fun of

• invalidated

• yelled at

• jealousy (from the mother)

• abused and controlled

• put in harm's way

• unprotected

LOVE?

• criticized, ignored, not heard

• put down, teased, made fun of

• invalidated

• yelled at

• jealousy 

• abused and controlled

• put in harm's way

• unprotected

I was like a moth to a flame!

I kept repeating the same old patterns until my outside circumstances became so in-my-face, that I could no longer ignore them. Each relationship I had was worse than the one before. I was so afraid of this man I didn't want to have sex with him. After Rich had moved out, I was able to get quiet, meditate and go within. Finally, I began to wake up. I knew I didn't want to be abused any longer. I knew that my victim energy from my childhood sexual abuse was still present even though I had forgiven all my perpetrators. I had to clear the emotions. 

I sat down and meditated. In this meditation, I was directed to create a relationship matrix. This matrix is what I use to guide my clients today. 

Using this matrix, I realized that in all my relationships there were similarities. The Guidance I received asked me what the similarities are? What is the common denominator? 

Wake Up And Smell The Coffee!

My big aha moment came after I saw that I was the only common denominator in all my relationships. I had to stop blaming others and look at how I attracted these men to me. I had to look at my reactivity from my childhood and clear the triggers. I had to change my behavior.

What's The Use?

What is the point of all of this? Today, I help women love themselves above all else, fearlessly so that they attract positive, balanced, healthy relationships. I work with couples and single women to change their patterns and behavior so that they don't continue to react, deny and push away love. All that happened in the past has removed judgment of others giving me great compassion for where people are. Having been there myself, I can't judge another.

Until we heal our DNA and our unconscious programming we attract unconsciously. We are like the moth to the flame. We attract what is not the best for us. We attract the dysfunction from our family of origin or past molestation. We move toward what feels familiar - even when it isn't safe. 

If you think ignoring the past will make it less powerful, think again. We have to heal the past. We have to clear the old programs and patterns so that we aren't a magnet for dysfunction. We have to change our behavior, recognize the red flags and pay attention to them, rather than ignore them. We have to love and accept ourselves as we are. Until we love ourselves completely, and stop denying our old patterns and behavior we continue to accept circumstances that aren't good for us. 

It took me over thirty years of healing, study, searching to get to where I am today. My happiness and bliss are my reward for all that I endured in the past. I worked very hard to clear the old patterns and unconscious beliefs that men are all angry, jealous and abusive, or that love hurt and abused. All of my experiences make me wise, compassionate and loving. I understand what my clients have been through because I have been there too. 

If everything is falling apart in your world, it is because your life isn't working for you the way it was. It is time for you to wake up, put yourself first, rather than your relationships, give to you, get to know yourself and clear the past. Isn't it time for you to be happy

with you? When we become happy with ourselves, the rest falls into place effortlessly. Know that light is at the end of this tunnel of darkness, change, and chaos. There are better days ahead. 

What You Can Do Now To Feel Better

1. breathe deeply
2. sit quietly
3. meditate
4. find something to be grateful for
5. quiet mind chatter - do mantras several times a day
6. get clarity get clear - download my free APP Google Play or set up a private session with Jennifer

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An energy clearing will give you clarity, calm the mind chatter, allow you to sleep better, clear anxiety, help you feel positive, lighter. Suicidal programs can be cleared; there is hope. If you feel hopeless, contact me right NOW! JenniferElizabethMasters@gmail.com

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What about Rich? Rich died in his sleep July 4th, 2012 in Williston, North Dakota, while working in the oil fields; at the same age his father died, fifty-two, which was his biggest fear. We had overcome much and become friends. Read more here.

Everyone Is Codependent At Some Point; You Are Not Alone

By Jennifer Elizabeth Masters

Our need to be loved is an all pervasive one that prevails until the day we die. When we are born, we are totally dependent on our parents for food, care, nurturing and love. If we didn't get everything we needed as infants and children, our need for love, nurturing and validation continues. 

Ultimately, the reason why love and compassion bring us the greatest happiness is simply that our nature cherishes them above all else. Dali Lama

Love is the core of our being. It results from an interdependence on one another. Interdependence is the foundational law of nature. It isn't just higher forms of intelligence that rely on each other. Insects rely on communities to survive. The smallest of insects are social beings; it is through interconnectedness and working together that they survive.

Humans need an interconnection with others to survive. Think of the mighty oceans, rivers and streams, clouds, forests, and plants that surround us are all interdependent upon others to survive. Even those that are mightily independent need the support of others at the end of their lives and at times of great sadness or illness. 

The requirement for love continues as children grow. Children need to be held, nurtured and loved they grow up or mental and emotional difficulties result, which can cause challenges throughout their lives. A lifetime of emotional hardship results when children grow up with addicted parents, or are abused or molested which creates depression, numbness and low self-esteem, even sex addiction, which is so sad. Many children feel angry because of their mistreatment, but don't know what to do with this anger. 

When they show up in school, teachers nurture and assist these children growing up. So many children are growing up in broken homes, losing parents or without love and emotional support. In many households, technology is the babysitter. Televisions and cell phones with games do not provide the nurturing, acceptance and love that human contact and hugs do. We see mothers in grocery stores with a cell phone stuck to their heads ignoring the needs of their crying children. 

Our children need us to love them. Borderline Personality is created by abandonment issues, left untreated cause distress on the entire family unit.

Since we are so dependent on others, we need love, compassion and a sense of responsibility and genuine concern for the welfare of others. We aren't machines without feelings. We can't be filled and contented with material goods, wealth, and success alone. It is our interconnectedness that gives us our feelings of security and sense of belonging. 

We need each other. We all need love. We all must love ourselves first, to be happy in the world and relationship with others. Remember when you are out in the world today and always to smile at yourself and others. Each person in our world is a part of the whole. 

We are all interconnected. It doesn't matter if you live in Russia, Denmark, France, the UK, Israel, The United Emirates or the US. I reach out to all of you today and give you a group hug. Thank you for being here. Thank you for loving me. Thank you for being you in the world. I love you all!

Getting to know ourselves, loving and accepting us first is the cornerstone of a healthy society and planet. We all need to love and accept ourselves completely. We all need happiness and harmony. 

Spend some time today sitting in quiet. Think about all the wonderful qualities that you have. What gifts do you share with the world? How are you unique and special? Be grateful for who you are and what you have right now.

Ask yourself the following questions:

1. What are ten things you love about you?
2. What are ten things you love to do?
3. What are you passionate about?
4. What brings you happiness?
5. How can you nurture and love yourself on a daily basis?

You matter. You are worthy. You are deserving. You are loved. Use the following mantras to shift your focus inward towards loving thoughts and feelings. Allow these mantras to float through your consciousness into your unconscious mind while you perform mundane tasks.

I AM LOVED

I AM SAFE

I AM SECURE

Give gratitude for your talent, the exceptional parts of you that are unique and different. Each one of us is part of the whole community that makes up this planet. Your qualities are different than anyone else. There is a reason for our differences. We need you here. You are a part of this community. You play a big part on this earth. 

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I'm An Ordinary Human

By Jennifer Elizabeth Masters

Can you imagine what life would be like without love? No love for a newborn baby, no pets that love us, no partner's love for us? Can you imagine what you would feel like if you could not feel emotion?

Is it worth giving up the experience of beauty and joy and love in order to end pain and suffering? The Giver

The Giver

Last night I watched a movie with Meryl Street, Brendon Thwaites, Jeff Bridges, Katie Holmes, Alexander Skarsgard, Odeya Rush, Cameron Monaghan and Taylor Swift. From great suffering, they formed communities as a solution. Disorder became harmony. With a daily dose of medication each person's emotions are kept at bay. They have no feelings of anything other than contentment. Their morning injections take their emotions away. 

How many people in our world take medications to reduce emotional pain and feeling so that they feel nothing. Anti-depressants do not heal they mask pain. Pain is the source of awakening and a catalyst for our healing and growth.

The movie is centered around the character Jonas who lives in a colorless world where there is conformity. There is no conflict, no competition, lying, arguments, fighting or struggle. 

Jonas begins to receive memories of the old world. His first memory is that of a sled in the snow. As color begins to return to Jonas rather than seeing a monochromatic world, Jonas begins to see the color red, in apples, which represents passion and love. He uses his apple to receive his daily injection, rather than have his emotions eclipsed by drugs. As he begins to feel love, he changes and understands he has to bring love to his community or die trying.

Their entire world is based on contentment. The weather is perfect and completely static. There is no rain, snow or change of seasons. This

utopian world has strong guidelines and boundaries but is completely void of love. Meryl Streep plays the head elder. She feels that when people have the power to choose that they choose wrong every time.

Upon graduation, Jonas is chosen to be The Receiver and is downloaded with the old world's history and past memories. He is the only one besides Jeff Bridges, The Giver who know what love and emotions feel like. 

I highly recommend this movie for its symbolism and teaching. If humans continue on the path we are currently on, our future isn't far off what is depicted in this movie. We need to feel our emotions rather than mask them. We can't take a pill to mask our grief, sadness and pain and expect to feel joy and love fully. We have to give love to ourselves first to be open to receive love in return. 

We need to feel love, touch one another and nurture our children. We can't expect others to raise our babies and have them grow up healthy, balanced and stable. 

Jennifer Elizabeth Masters is a phenomenal healer, helping women and men find the love within so that they live extraordinary lives in joy, beauty, love and happiness. Her books are available on Amazon.com

Connect with Jennifer via private e-mail to set up your healing session or coaching. 

The Spirituality Bonded Intimacy

By Jennifer Elizabeth Masters

Some people have sworn off relationships for the rest of their lives preferring the quiet solitude of singledom. Though this is a personal choice, being in a relationship is how we grow and reach our highest evolution. We learn more about ourselves when we are in a relationship than when we are alone.

As humans, we are sexual beings. As time goes by sex becomes less important for some, however, touch and intimacy can remain even when sex becomes an impossibility due to health or physical constraints. Other couples continue having wonderful sexual experiences, snuggling blissfully afterward until they die. Having someone to grow old with and spend our days with can help to lift us up when the burdens of life become a challenge. A spiritually bonded intimacy is what I help people achieve.

Why You Don't Want To Avoid Relationships

Humans were meant to be coupled. Even when we are beyond our child rearing years having someone to enjoy companionship with offers a different perspective from our own. A partner will not think the same way we do. Our purpose on this planet is to grow and evolve. We have the most growth when we are in a bonded relationship. Committing to grow and evolve together needs to be part of your commitment to one another.

The Benefits of Spiritually Bonded Relationship

We have to know ourselves well to discover what we want and don't want in a relationship. Most people don't dive deep into this subject unless questioned. When we are deeply spiritual we need, to express our need for solitude, meditation, quiet and persuit of complete enlightenment and focus on growth with a person early in the dating process. If we cast our net into the dating pool looking for anyone, rather than someone specific, we get what we get.

In a spiritually bonded intimate relationship, there is no competition, we focus on each other's wonderful traits and recognize that we are human with frailties. We feel connected, rather than competitive, we are able to risk being authentically ourselves, able to express anger, let it go and forgive. 

We express ourselves rather than suppress. We expand rather than make ourselves small. We never take each other for granted. We live fully, playfully in the present moment creating magic each day, letting go of the illusion. Relationships aren't fairy tales, but they can be enlivening, supporting and certainly happy when we allow ourselves to express our truth compassionately and lovingly.

Maybe You Feel You Don't Choose Well

In the past, you might not have chosen well, in your mind. Maybe however, you stayed with someone you should have only received the lesson from. I know I married someone that was hiding skeletons in their closet. I should have called off the wedding when I found out he was an alcoholic three weeks before, but I was too concerned about what people would think at the time. The alcoholism, was the tip of the iceberg of skeletons. His closet was full of because he was still in it.

I have used what I have learned during my lifetime, to present a course that will shift the way you view relationships. If you feel your picker is broken, I give you all the tools you need to notice, raise your awareness and wake you up to the red flags you ignored in the past. I teach you how differently men and women view relationships. You will learn what makes a man stay and what makes a man leave. 

I created this class because I saw a need for clarity in the minds of women around attracting their life partner. I know many women have come to know themselves and are wondering why they haven't attracted their match. 

My very first class, of a series of six - which you can pay as you go at $44.00 per session (way less than an hour session with a therapist) you gain immediate insight from a list of RED FLAG questions and gain understanding the differences between the way men and women view relationships. Both of these will open your eyes and change the way you look at a potential date forever.

This class will empower you in ways you didn't think possible. You will create a new NOW for yourself based on the clarity you will derive from this insightful weekly series. You will gain powerful understanding of past relationships when I help you recognize what you missed early on.

From Tainted To True Love is potent and changes will happen immediately because shifts occur based on the information I provide. I also offer a clearing of beliefs, blocks, self-sabotaging programs before the end of each call that helps you begin in a new whole way!

Each class is recorded and you will have access to this recording to refer back to again and again. The first class is available for you

now. (The first class on Red Flags is recorded for you already!)

Join us this Wednesday at 6:00 PM PST for our second class where we delve into:

• changing beliefs that keep you from attracting love
• discover the many ways we push love away
• recognize the longing your soul has for deep spiritually bonded intimacy and how to achieve it
• mantras to shift your unconscious mind
• begin attracting men after the first class - evidence that this works! (Proven from my participants!)
• get laser focused on what you want, so you attract it
• a powerful manifesting exercise to attract your Divine partner quickly 
• clearings each week of fears, blocks, and beliefs that keep you from attracting love

Reserve your space for this Wednesday!

Every Breath You Take

By Jennifer Elizabeth Masters

Because the very nature of God is Bliss, the man in attunement with Him experiences a native boundless joy. Paramahansa Yogananda

Breath is a powerful cure for what ails you. Breathing deeply will connect you to Divine Source energy and the Cosmos. Breath is the lifeblood of our physical form; it calms us and de-stresses. If you feel anxiety breathe in slowly and deeply exhaling just as slowly three times. 

This isn't another article about breath, stay with me you won't be disappointed. As we tap into the Cosmos and Divine energy that surrounds us, we also have at our fingertips in our hearts the love that the universe and God have for us. When you send that love back revering God, you will be forever fulfilled. It is where I live and breathe every day. My family of origin is considered heathens by many - Godless, nonbelievers. God realized people experience joy and bliss permanently.

Blissed out in nature

At sixteen, I knew there was something more to life. I watched people suffer, die and others born. The cycle of life and death had to be more than what my family believed. I became a seeker of truth. I found it. Not through a church but alone in nature. 

If you are still suffering in physical and emotional pain, I suggest you decide to end that suffering and begin to work with an enlightened being, like me. My energy will help you wake up and find your personal truth.

Obedience is part of faith and trust in God and The Universe. As a maverick, I shunned authority and bureaucracy. To be obedient was a huge stretch. Once I stopped fighting with myself and God, however, life became infinitely easier. Grace and joy filled me to the core.

I have never gone hungry or without shelter due to my faith. I am always provided for, in the past, it was often in the eleventh hour because my faith was constantly in question. Once I became completely faithful and obedient, there has not been lack, limitation or suffering. 

Living In Joy 

Once we have complete faith and trust that we are always taken care of we are Guided. If we follow the Guidance, we receive when it is given we are always rewarded. A deep faith leads to a blissful life free of suffering and strife. This is good news for those of you who are lost, and that God has forsaken you, it is the other way around. You have lost your way and faith. You don't believe you will be taken care of. You don't have the trust that you will always be provided for. I understand, this used to be me also.

What Do I Need To Do To Receive God's Helping Hand?

Giving and Gratitude

Mark with the music we gave him

Selfless acts of giving bring us great joy. You are always rewarded by helping those in need, picking up other's trash that you didn't leave behind on a picnic table, or rest stop. Feeding homeless and the hungry will bring you great joy. Giving a compliment to your server, cashier or stranger on the street opens your heart and brings you joy. 

Meditation

As we meditate on a daily basis, information comes to us that guides us for our day. We tap into the Divine Mind where nothing is unknown or new. We begin to have access to the wisdom of the ancients and Great Mystery. When we realize that there is no lack in the Universe, then there can be no lack within us either. The Cosmos is inside of us. We are the Cosmos. We are infinite beings, where there is no death.

We might get a message from a person we need to reach out to by phone or note. I get information about people that are in my awareness as clients or friends of family members that need healing. Yesterday, I was told to request permission to heal a child with Rhett's syndrome which has left her unable to sit up, speak or feed herself. I have faith that this child will be healed, not by me, but through me. 

We All Have The Power To Heal

Illnesses like Cancer, diabetes, tumors even bunions will heal through faith. We all have the power to heal ourselves and others, the only thing standing in the way is a lack of trust and faith.

Women who are dealing with physical violence are guided to me as I have direct knowledge of how it manifests and how to remedy the situation. To help those struggling in destructive relationships and I know there are many join me for:  From Tainted To True Love again. 
Violence is on the rise because the light is also on the rise. The stronger the light becomes on this planet, the more issues that arise with those who have attachments and dark energies on them. 

The Core Of Our Being Is Love

Every person at their core is good. There is no evil in our soul. We are all loving spiritual beings. Each of us regardless of our color, race or creed we are One. When we hate others, we also hate ourselves. When we harm others, we also harm

ourselves. When we disrespect others, we also disrespect ourselves. When we abuse others, we also abuse ourselves. The more loving we are to ourselves and others, the younger and more youthful we look and the happier we are. 

October 27th is my sixty-second birthday. I couldn't feel better and healthier if I tried. The more we love ourselves, the more we glow from the inside out. Just try it. 

         I LOVE ME! 

Repeat in the background of your mind when you are doing mundane tasks, this mantra alone is life changing.

The Original Recycling System

We all came from the same place. We all go back to the same place. We are all recycled souls. Dying a physical death, but remaining in spirit forever. There is no death of the soul, which is why we bring issues from past lives into this one. You might want to get your past life issues cleared to live a higher vibrating life. 

Please enjoy my favorite artist, Sting in  "Every Breath You Take."

Are you ready to be the love you wish to find? Join me this Wednesday for From Tainted To True Love. Get the love you so deserve. This is the LAST CALL! This workshop will transform your old patterns of attracting narcissists, cheaters, liars, and those who don't revere you. Wednesday's from 6:00 PM - 7:00 PM PST. 

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Happiness Rests Securely In Your Hands

By Jennifer Elizabeth Masters

Your life sucks, you hate your boss, you hate your life and you wish your ex would get hit by a bus. If this is your life, the good news is that you have the power to change it all. If you keep on doing the same thing over and over, your results will be the same. 

I understand. I have been there. I couldn't have been more miserable in the past if my head was stuck in a toilet! I blamed everyone in my life for my unhappiness. It wasn't until I recognized that I was the center of my own universe and the cause for all of it, the good, the bad and the ugly, I shifted big time!

I had a client ask me today what I did to change from being miserable and unhappy to blissfully happy with my life, my work, and my world? The following are the steps I took to change my mindset and my life.

1. I stopped blaming everyone. I began to look at the past events (even the abuse and molestation) as a gift and the catalyst for me to grow and evolve. Trauma happens to us all. How we look at the past is what shifts our mindset. 

If we continue to blame others for the way we feel, we will feel depressed, angry and resentful. When we take responsibility for our health, happiness and our life everything becomes better. It may seem a tough pill to swallow, but we contracted for these events to occur so that we would be pushed, prodded and forced to evolve. Some people continue to complain about their lives and never move past the pain and suffering. As Einstein says, they are insane. Bliss is just on the other side.

2. I took responsibility for my happiness. I finally recognized that no one can make me happy or unhappy. Instead of being angry with the way others behaved, I looked inside to see what I did that may have caused their behavior. I stopped using alcohol or prescription medicines. I healed all my addictions through self-love.

3. I listened to what I told myself and what I said out loud. If I beat myself up unconsciously, I would catch myself and shift my thoughts to something positive. I became my own cheerleader. 

4. I did my best. Instead of doing things half-assed, I did my best. I took my time rather than rushing through projects. I found I made fewer errors and caused fewer problems for myself when I slowed down.

5. I stopped trying to be perfect. There is such a thing as good enough. I strived for my best, rather than perfection. 

6. I began to breathe deeply and consciously. One of the things that I noticed is that when I had low self-esteem I was often barely breathing. Breathing deeply affirmed life. I was giving my permission to be bigger and more powerful by breathing deeply. 

7. I showed up. To be successful we need to commit to ourselves. When we commit to ourselves, we show up for appointments, we don't cancel at the last minute, which causes us to feel bad. 

8. I was true to my word. Being honest all the time wasn't easy at first. I found I told myself and others white lies. Life is so much easier when we stick to the truth when we do there is much less to remember. We know what we told others because we told the truth. When we tell stories and lies we have to keep track of what we told to whom. We cause less worry and anxiety for ourselves when we are completely honest.

9. I stopped being late. When we have been abused or molested we often have unconscious patterns of control. We attempt to control our environment and aren't even aware of it much of the time. Being late is one way that people with PTSD attempt to control the universe. Control comes from fear. 

10. I became fearless. I used to be afraid of the dark. I used to be afraid of public speaking, meeting new people or doing something for the first time. As my confidence rose and I became clear energetically, fears dissolved naturally. 

11. I stopped accepting disrespect and abuse. When we don't respect ourselves, we don't recognize when we are being disrespected. If we have suffered trauma as a child abuse is part of our programming. As we begin to heal the past we realize that abuse doesn't have to be a part of our reality any longer. The better we feel about ourselves, the stronger we become and the less accepting of poor treatment we are. 

12. I began to love being alone with me. When I was codependent, I had to have someone in my life. If I didn't have a man, I was on the hunt for one or felt desperately lonely. I no longer feel alone or lonely no matter where I am or who I am with. I enjoy my company so much that I have a good time no matter what I am doing. 

13. I began to live simply without attachment. I have given up all my belongings three times. In letting go of so many of my material possessions I also let go of the past. Furniture no longer reminds me of an ex-husband who is no longer alive or a friend that has passed on. The things I have I love, but they don't define me and I could let them all go in a heart beat. 

14. I know myself well and surround myself with loving people who are interested in growing and evolving. I continue to learn and grow daily.

15. I have a daily spiritual practice of meditation, mantras, dancing and nature. My spiritual practice keeps me grounded and fed. 

16. I eat slowly and prayerfully. I don't watch scary movies or anything that will upset me while I eat.

17. I practice mindfulness in all I do. Even preparing my taxes, is a mindful event. 

18. I love life and live each day as if it is my last. I don't place too much emphasis on wealth or financial gain, and always have enough to pay my bills and eat well. Money isn't what brings us happiness. 

19. I celebrate life daily. I do my best to be kind to others and offer those in need help whenever I can. 

20. I perform healing work that I love on people to assist them in improving their lives. I know the work I am doing has an impact on the collective consciousness. 

21. I am grateful for everything I have including my life. Each day I am grateful for being alive. I don't wish my life was different or that I had anything other than what I have. I love my life.

Loving ourselves is the greatest gift we can give ourselves, our families and the world. If you need assistance in making your life one of joy, contact me right now, why wait another second? I did it for me and I certainly can help you do it too! Everything is sweeter when we love and accept ourselves.

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Recognizing Triggers and How To Work Through Your Reactivity

By Jennifer Elizabeth Masters

A trigger is when a stimulus sets off a memory or flashback to the original event of trauma. We may have an emotional outburst that is inappropriate for the event. Our emotions are our internal guidance system setting of a warning siren in our brain when we are in an unconscious state. 

In a moment we are standing in our parent's kitchen as a four-year-old child. When someone crosses a boundary or pushes an internal button, we react. Our emotions can be the only way that we recognize an unconscious trigger. Triggers, charges or pushing buttons is what we do to those who are closest to us, especially during family celebrations. Often we are on the receiving end and it doesn't feel very good at all.

People will constantly push your limits looking for the place where you draw the line in the sand. When you don't set limits and boundaries in a healthy way others will push you until you do. Often without healthy boundaries, we keep getting pushed until we react negatively and explode with heated emotions all over the person who has been pushing those buttons. You, however, will be the bad guy when you explode, no matter who pushed your button.

Triggers or buttons are a warning sign

Our spouses, partners, friends, parents, siblings, aunts, uncles and even our children will push our most tender places causing emotional reactions. As long as there is a button to push, you can guarantee that someone will find that tender place within you and push hard.

Healing our past stories and letting go of programming, pain and suffering is a great place to begin. Here are some of the buttons people have:

• sights that trigger an emotion from an old trauma
• sounds that remind you of an event where you were traumatized or abused.
• smells that remind you of an event that is unpleasant, powerfully traumatic or caused you panic or deep fear.
• touch that reminds you of an incident

How To Work Through Old Triggers And Buttons

1. Do your best to set healthy boundaries.
2. Recognize early signs that you are being triggered.
3. Put a stop to the pushing before you explode.
4. Know that you are reacting to something from the past. Ask yourself, "When have I felt like this before?" Was it your mother, father, sister, brother, abuser, spouse, babysitter?
5. Avoid alcohol and drugs as they can cause you to be more volatile with little or no control.
6. Forgive yourself for your reaction.
7. Forgive the other person for causing your reaction.
8. Have compassion for both of you.
9. Know if you are the one yelling, you are the one with the issue.
10. Blame doesn't support you. You aren't a victim.
11. Look at the triggered reaction as a chance to heal the old wound and put it to rest
12. Recognize when your emotions are rising.
13. Breathe slowly and deeply. Focus on your breath.
14. Tell the people around you that you need a moment.
15. Talk about what just happened, calmly.
16. Apologize if necessary for any emotions that were out of control. People who can't apologize for wrong-doing will soon be found out to be those with the biggest ego.

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How Trust Can Deepen Your Bond and Improve Sex Exponentially

By Jennifer Elizabeth Masters

Women need to trust their partners to relax, let go and tap into their wildest fantasies and passion. When trust is present women will feel free to express, explore and offer new and different experiences to their partners. Without trust, some women may not be able to reach orgasm or even relax completely. 

Trust is a big issue in relationships. There are many ways to build trust between two people. You will be surprised at how easy it is to create trust. However, the caveat is that trust can be eliminated forever when promises are broken or your actions don't match your words. Trust is a two-way street. Both parties must be honest and live up to their commitments. If you aren't consistently honest, no matter how trustworthy the other person is, trust cannot be created.

Sex is an intimate sharing. Great sexual experiences require a woman to feel safe, respected, adored, admired and loved completely. Men too will experience the ability to be more vulnerable and open when they trust their partner. Intimacy becomes deeper when trust is present. 

How To Build Trust

1. Say what you are going to do and do what you say.
2. Honor your word.
3. Only commit to what you know for sure you can deliver.
4. Communicate! Frequent open communication builds trust. When communication is poor, trust is broken. Poor communication is the biggest reason for relationships not working.
5. If you can't live up to your promise let the other person know immediately.
6. Be honest. Telling the truth about what is going on with you can lead to understanding and even compromise. Telling the truth even when the news is bad will increase trust.
7. Trust is built through small events. Each event leads to greater trust. When trust is present your partner will go to the ends of the earth to support you.
8. Show that you care. When you exhibit caring others see it, feel it and will give you caring and compassion in return. Caring for your partner's needs exhibits and open heart rather than selfishness. When you show a lack of caring others feel it and will sound an alarm; look out you can't trust this person!
9. Do the right thing. We trust those who are in integrity.
10. Admit any wrongdoing immediately. When you can admit you are wrong you build trust. People trust others when they recognize you are honest no matter what. When you can't admit your guilt your ego is running the show. People with large egos usually are selfish, self-centered and can't be trusted.
11. Don't make excuses for your actions. Excuses diminish trust quickly.
12. Never strike, abuse, berate or put down your partner. Once physical and emotional violence is present trust will not return. Even the threat of violence is abuse. 

It is the small things that build trust. Calling to tell your partner you will be late because of traffic builds trust. Not calling and arriving late causes friction, shows disrespect and isn't honoring either of you. Consistency is key to keep trust on the forefront, rather than the back burner. Be a good communicator giving updates along the way.

Communication is what is needed by voice, with eye contact and your undivided attention. Glancing at your cell phone during a conversation negates trust. Not allowing your partner to see your phone or texts negates trust. 

Women need to know they are safe in and out of the bedroom. Most men are far stronger than women. Knowing a man can overpower you can be enough to make some women feel unsafe if they have been abused in the past. Yes, some women are abusive to their men as well. Physical violence has no place in a loving relationship. 

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Our Mind Is Not Our Friend

By Jennifer Elizabeth Masters

The mind is everything. What you think you become. Buddha

Our mind can bring us great joy, or intense suffering. Harnessing the power of the mind by turning our attention inward can be a challenge when we allow our mind to run amok. With an inner focus we can heal our obsessive thoughts, depression and even illness. 

A strong identification with our ego-mind (conscious mind) can cause us tremendous suffering. Our minds can create stories that aren't real. Believing the stories we have created creates chaos and conflict in our outer world. The thoughts we think and our resistance to what is happening can cause us to feel bad both mentally and physically. Our mind can cause us to have intense emotional reactions, pain in our physical body because we believe these stories. We can create migraines, back pain and illnesses like Diabetes, Fibromyalgia, Cancer and Auto-Immune disorders. 

Physical pain and illness is caused by our internal conflict and resistance.

Drinking alcohol, taking drugs or reaching for sweets to numb the pain is resistance to it.  

The stories our mind creates of not being good enough, not being loved, accepted or unwanted are the source of our pain and suffering. 

Ways Our Mind Causes Us To Suffer

1. Worrying about things we can't control.
2. Ending a relationship just as things begin to go well.
3. Thinking happiness can't last.
4. Having fear. 
5. Waiting for the other shoe to drop.
6. Feeling not good enough.
7. Thinking people don't like you.
8. Feeling unable to care for yourself or helpless as an adult.
9. Feeling there is no way out, or trapped.
10. Looking for approval from others.
11. Attracting negative people into your life that could hurt you.
12. Thinking that alcohol or drugs will make you feel better.

Our need to control everything around us is our mind trying to hold onto what we believe will make us happy. Often as soon as we get what we thought we wanted, we aren't happy with that either.

A client recently called me in a terrible emotional state. In fact, she burst into tears as soon as I answered the phone. She was upset by something that she thought had happened because of a post she read on FaceBook. She was reacting to the story that her mind created about what she read. Rather than going to the source and asking what did this mean, she created drama and trauma for herself and her friend. 

I remember when my emotions ruled my life. All the past trauma I had experienced caused me to stuff emotions. The trapped emotions in my cellular body from past experiences created havoc in my relationships and my world. Everywhere I turned there was conflict because I had a conflict inside of me. I felt self-loathing because I hadn't healed the past. I felt regret for all that had happened and I hadn't realized that all those past experiences were the catalyst for tremendous growth spiritually. Once I let go of the past stories, my body healed too.

How often do you react rather than be the witness?

Harnessing The Power Of The Mind

Turning inward and focusing on what is going on inside of us allows us to see the source of the pain. Ask yourself questions, rather than jumping to conclusions.

• What am I feeling?
• Do I feel unloved or unworthy?
• Am I comparing myself to others?
• Is the thought I am having real?
• Is what I am thinking true, or imagined?
• Am I creating this fear from a past experience?
• When have I felt this way before?
• How can I feel loved right now?

Our natural state is bliss. If you aren't feeling happy and joyful, what is it you are feeling? How can you shift your emotional state to one of love and happiness? What can you do right now that will help you feel completely loved? 

Mantras Heal The Mind

I have found that mantras are the fastest path to healing the mind and the crazy stories we tell ourselves. Mantras calm and soothe the mind by creating congruency in the mind and therefore the body as well. Using mantras right before sleep helps you go into a deep state of sleep where healing occurs. 

Don't believe in mantras and meditation?

I had a client from India tell me she couldn't meditate. She had far too much mental chatter to meditate and resisted my recommendation to do so. She continued to do her daily prayers until one day; I suggested she just try to do the meditation. Within

three months this woman was totally free of mental chatter! She let go of her resistance and opened up to a new idea. When we let go of her resistance, miraculously her mind quieted. Amazing!

Mantras change our chemistry from acidic to alkaline. Our body will heal as our chemistry changes to alkaline. 

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I am loved
I am safe
I am secure
I am beautiful
I am powerful
I am strong
God loves me
I am loved

I am strong, powerful, happy, harmonious and loving.

Our mind can be a source of great joy when we harness its power and substitute positive thoughts or mantras that play in the background of our mind. We can even heal depression by harnessing our mind's incredible power. Using mantras daily while doing mundane tasks will reprogram the mind to be in our natural state of joy, bliss, and health. 

Contact Jennifer if you are committed to live a life of great joy, bliss, and happiness. Jennifer will empower you and help you be all you are meant to be. 

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